Devriil
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G A V R I I Lx &x D E A N N A
"He took her hand with his gloved one.
She didn't pull away, but folded into him like a flower closing its petals for nightfall."
– Leigh Bardugo
L O V I N Gx A
M E D I A T O R
Mediators are dreamers and idealists, especially when it comes to romance. People with this personality type believe in the power and beauty of true love, and they sincerely hope never to settle for anything less. It is fair to say, then, that Mediators approach the world of romance with high expectations. They may have spent years daydreaming about the perfect relationship, imagining how it would feel to share their innermost selves with another person. But the reality of dating can come as something of a shock to Mediators, forcing them to grapple with a challenging question: If they want to be in a relationship, will they have to compromise on their ideals?
Mediators do not just want to find a partner – they want to connect with a soul mate. Thoughtful and open-minded, these personalities are generally willing to consider going out with all sorts of people. Mediators pride themselves on their ability to look past a potential partner's superficial traits – such as appearance, social status, or possessions – and focus on deeper, more meaningful signals of compatibility.
But it would be a mistake to think that Mediators do not have preconceived standards for a significant other. With their active minds and imaginations, people with this personality type tend to develop and carry with them a vision of their ideal partner – a vision that may be based on a favourite fictional character, a person they once knew, or simply the stories they have told themselves about how love 'should' look.
When they meet someone new, most Mediators cannot help but compare that person with the ideal soul mate they have envisioned. Unsurprisingly, such comparisons tend to weed out more than a few potential partners. It can be difficult – if not impossible – for a real, flesh-and-blood person to live up to a Mediator's cherished dreams.
With time, many Mediators come to learn that true love does not just magically happen – it takes compromise, understanding, and work. After all, no partner is perfect, and even the most beautiful relationships have their challenges. Fortunately, people with this personality type can find a great deal of joy in the effort it takes to strengthen a relationship.
When they fall in love, Mediators reveal just how much passion thrums beneath their quiet exteriors. Devoted and loyal, they nevertheless respect their partner's independence, aiming to accept their partners as they are. That said, these personalities also want to help their partners learn, grow, and pursue their goals. Mediators are always dreaming up ways to improve themselves and the world around them, and the last thing they would want is for their partners to feel unhappy or stuck. Many people with this personality type dedicate themselves to helping their partners improve their lives. While this is a noble goal, Mediators must be sure to keep track of their own needs and make sure that their partners are really ready to change. Provided they do so, Mediators' support and devotion can make all the difference in their partners' lives.
Mediators tend to promote harmony over disagreement. Although this lends stability to their relationships, it can also lead to problems. To avoid triggering a conflict, Mediators may avoid talking openly about things that are bothering them – instead, they might mentally fixate on the problem or try to solve it on their own. They may also focus on making their partner happy, to the detriment of their own priorities and sense of self. People with this personality type may need to remind themselves that open, honest communication is necessary in a relationship, even if it is not always easy. In fact, such moments of candor can transform a relationship for the better.
As long as they communicate openly, Mediators are more than capable of staying true to themselves in a relationship – and encouraging the person they care about to do the same. By bringing their whole hearts and minds to their relationships, Mediators can find out what it truly means to love and be loved.
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OTP PROMPTS
"She flew into his arms. Held on tight as he swung her off her feet and hugged her so hard it hurt.
She didn't care. She didn't want him to ever let go."
– Cindy Gerard
W H I C Hx O N E . . .
Constantly pushes the other person's buttons? ⟡ X.
Sleeps in the adjacent room when they get into a fight? ⟡ They always reconcile before it gets that far, as neither of them can bear going to sleep without the other person.
Says "I love you" first? And who ends their arguments in a fight with "Because I love you"? ⟡ X.
Slides their arm around the other person's waist? ⟡ X.
Falls asleep in a chair and who has to carry that person to bed? ⟡ X.
Kisses whom first? ⟡ X.
Spends all their money on the other person? ⟡ X.
Is embarrassed of their bedhead, and who thinks they look super cute? ⟡ X.
Offers their jacket when the other one is cold? ⟡ X.
Keeps getting threatened by the other's overprotective older sibling? ⟡ X.
Compliments the other in front of everyone? ⟡ X.
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QUESTIONNAIRE
"Quote."
– X
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⎨FIRST MEETING⎬
X.
⎨FIRST KISS⎬
X.
⎨FAVOURITE PARTNER TRAIT(S)⎬
X.
⎨ENDEARMENTS⎬
X.
⎨FAVOURITE MEMORY⎬
X.⎨PREVIOUS LOVERS⎬
X.
⎨FIGHTS⎬
X.
⎨JEALOUSY⎬
X.
⎨WEDDING⎬
X.
⎨THE FUTURE⎬
X.
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LOVE LANGUAGE
"He pulled her across his lap and they kissed, the emotion of the day and the promise of the future making it soft and sweet and wonderful. She sighed as he lifted his lips off hers and offered her one of his wide, beautiful smiles. Overcome with happiness, she threw her arms around him and laughed, wondering just how it was that she had come to be so lucky."
– Sarah MacLean
Q U A L I T Yx T I M E
Sub headline.
Quality time is the love language that centers around togetherness. It is all about expressing your love and affection with your undivided attention. Unlike the words of affirmation language, talk is cheap and being a loved one's main focus leaves quality timers feeling satisfied and comforted. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially harmful to these individuals. Being there for them is crucial. People who speaks this language need to feel like their opinion is being hurt, to truly feel the love around them, otherwise it feels hopeless to them.
"I could recognize him by touch alone, by smell; I would know him blind,
by the way his breaths came and his feet struck the earth. I would know him in death, at the end of the world."
– Madeline Miller
K I S Sx M E
Sub headline.
How to Communicate ⪧ Uninterrupted and focused conversation, one-on-one time is critical.
Actions to take ⪧ Make eye contact, be interested in the things they are saying and feeling, create special moments together, take walks and do small things with your partner, plan date nights regularly or weekend getaways.
Things to avoid ⪧ Distractions when spending time together, canceling plans,
long stints without one-on-one time.
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OTP PROMPTS
"She had no idea how he would react, whether he would suddenly realize what she had feared for so long: That there was no hope for them, the challenge against them too great. Instead [he] cupped her face with his free hand, her golden glow like a halo surrounding them both as he whispered a single word: 'Beautiful.'"
– Lynette Noni
W H I C Hx O N E . . .
Is more afraid of loosing the other? ⟡ X.
Makes fun of the other person for having a crush on them? ⟡ X.
Initiates the hand holding? ⟡ X.
Is more protective of the other person? ⟡ X.
Wakes up from nightmares, and who sings them back to sleep after? ⟡ X.
Thinks they don't deserve the other person's love and affection? ⟡ X.
Thinks they keep messing up, only for the other to tell them they don't need to worry? ⟡ X.
Constantly wears the other's clothes? ⟡ X.
Competes in some sort of activity, and which one does the overzealous cheering? ⟡ X.
Initiates the touching when the other person is near? ⟡ X.
Is the "if found return to _____" and who is the person? ⟡ X.
Is more likely to start dancing with the other? ⟡ X.
Whispers inappropriate things in the other's ear during inappropriate times? ⟡ X.
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COMPATABILITY
"If you lust after someone and have an absurd and overwhelming need to protect them,
then the best way to deal with the situation is to marry the person."
– Anne Stuart
T H Ex A R I E S
&x T H Ex P I S C E S
When an Aries and a Pisces come together in a love match, both will be left to wonder how they ever managed apart.
The Aries is a strong sign; they are almost completely prey to their impulses, which they follow without a second thought to the outcome or possible consequences. The dreamy Pisces is much quieter and more internally-focused; they are the poets and the romantics of the Zodiac. On the surface an Aries and a Pisces may seem an unlikely pair, but when there is love involved, they can truly fulfill one another's needs and desires. The Pisces is very intuitive, both as a person and as a lover, whereas the Aries must take care to return this favor so Pisces won't begin to see their Aries partner as stingy and selfish.
"I have never met someone shine as bright as you."
– Lynette Noni
The Aries is a leader with tons of initiative. When an Aries finds someone attractive they will launch the pursuit without a second thought. When the 'prey' is the gentle Pisces, Aries tends to take on the role of protector. The funny thing is, the Pisces is the real protector, as the intuitive, deeply understanding partner who provides a relaxing sort of refuge for the hectic Aries. Pisces is a Water sign; they can fill any container, so to speak. They are so giving and empathetic that sometimes they can become something of a doormat - they give themselves completely to their partners, and if their partner cannot do the same, trouble may result. The Pisces understands Aries in a deeper way than most other signs do, so this can help alleviate this type of problem: The Pisces knows how to keep Aries from becoming overly brash or rash. Together they form a dynamic team when they combine Aries' directness with Pisces' intuitive understanding of other people.
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"He opened his eyes to reveal the storm within him. 'My every instinct is telling me to have my way with you.' He was dead serious and my cheeks heated. Fire shone in his eyes and I broke eye contact, burying my face into his cotton-covered chest. 'But not nearly as difficult as going all this time without you,' he said."
– Wendy Higgins
"His cool fingers were under her chin, tilting her face up to his. 'You dance very well,' he said, but instead of the usual amusement, there was a faintly husky note in his voice, and his eyes were intent on her. 'You have the gift of grace.'
She stared up at him, caught in his gaze. And then, almost without volition, she turned her face, pressing her cheek against his hand. His fingers cupped her long, cool fingers and his thumb feathered her lips, lightly. She opened them beneath the faint pressure, and she knew she was trembling, captured in a moment of magic and wonder, with his hand on her mouth, their eyes caught, and she waited, breathless, knowing that the world was about to change.
He bent down, blotting out the light, and she closed her eyes the moment before his mouth touched hers, his lips warm, damp, open against hers, and the shock of it sent her senses reeling, and she was falling into a hot velvet mass of glorious confusion."
– Anne Stuart
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