Hey guys. Not sure if this should either go here or on the Help Forum, but anyway, sorry for disturbing you and I know that this might sound so glum, but...I Need your Comfort..........for someone I really care about and love so much... You see, he is very troubled--about his schooling, especially--because he has not only failed one subject but two, and because of this, he considers himself a complete failure and he fears that he might forever be a failure till the end of the world. I tried to comfort him, but it was not enough to make him regain his full happiness and focus. In fact, I made his depression a lot worse at the end of our recent conversation, which I truly regret...
This guy that I'm talking about is honestly very intelligent and has ideas that none could ever think of. He is also very understanding, faithful, generous, kind, and caring. I know this, because he never gave up on caring for me. Whenever I was down or in pain, he was always there to make me happy, so I want to help him out this time, but I can't do this alone...
I'm sharing this here because in RPR, as I noticed, each and every one of you are very kind, caring, and friendly, so through this forum, please, if it's not too much...give him some kind and comforting messages. Even if it's short or long, please... Let's make him see that he is not alone... Thank you so much.
This guy that I'm talking about is honestly very intelligent and has ideas that none could ever think of. He is also very understanding, faithful, generous, kind, and caring. I know this, because he never gave up on caring for me. Whenever I was down or in pain, he was always there to make me happy, so I want to help him out this time, but I can't do this alone...
I'm sharing this here because in RPR, as I noticed, each and every one of you are very kind, caring, and friendly, so through this forum, please, if it's not too much...give him some kind and comforting messages. Even if it's short or long, please... Let's make him see that he is not alone... Thank you so much.
From someone who has severe manic deoression, life isn't over and your not a failure. A failing mark isn't always horrible. It means one of two things. You either try harder or you find something that is right for you to study +(depending on if the course is mandatory I guess). But regardless it doesn't mean your a failure. I barely graduated highschool myself, but the reason was mostly laziness. I then quit college. This next part is where I began to consider myself a failure as well. And I was at the time but I bounced back. After quitting college I started to heavily doing drugs. I dabbled before and during college but after quitting is when I started falling heavily into my addiction. Heroin was my choice. I will spare the hairy details but it took a long and hard withdrawal and much hard work but I am now 3 years sober. I have managed to get a career on track. I am a sous chef at a nice restaurant for a brilliant company in my area. I have beautiful 1 year old daughter. So from a true recovering failure to you, a couple failing grades don't mean much in the long run. It means get back on the horse and try again. Life is hard. But you have to push through. As long as you have a strong will you can overcome your fails and your mistakes. I did. I hope my story helps. It always helped me to hear the stories of others.
Are there any counsellors at the school that he can talk to, perhaps?
spellplague wrote:
Are there any counsellors at the school that he can talk to, perhaps?
I'm not from his school and I've never been there either, but yeah, I guess so...
Well, you should never feel like a failure due to a few bad grades. Everybody gets classes they can't handle and it's okay, nobody is perfect. But I know with serious effort and studying, you could get those grades up. I used to have Ds and an E or two in middle school because I didn't care, but actually currently I think my worst grade is a B or a B- because I began to do my work more and paid attention in class. I don't know how hard you work currently but I truly believe you could get the grades up. And even if you can't, it definitely does not make you a failure.
Hibari, if it is who i think you talking about, then their are, but it isn't something that can be solved in a counseling session. Now hibari, if it is said person...Pm me now as soon as you read this.
Since no one knows who this person is, it's very hard to say anything specific to this person without sounding insincere.
We can just say generalities like the fact that early success (or lack thereof) is a very well studied phenomenon, and it's a very weak indicator of future talent or success. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school varsity team as a sophomore, Charles Darwin was called "slow and ordinary" by all his teachers, Walt Disney was fired from an early job because he "lacked imagination", the list goes on and on. As an adult, I see this constantly. The people who did well in school are not necessarily the ones who are doing well in life, and vice versa.
Moreover, if you are depressed, or simply struggling in school, or both, take advantages of the resources available to you! Talk to your school counselor about your options!
We can just say generalities like the fact that early success (or lack thereof) is a very well studied phenomenon, and it's a very weak indicator of future talent or success. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school varsity team as a sophomore, Charles Darwin was called "slow and ordinary" by all his teachers, Walt Disney was fired from an early job because he "lacked imagination", the list goes on and on. As an adult, I see this constantly. The people who did well in school are not necessarily the ones who are doing well in life, and vice versa.
Moreover, if you are depressed, or simply struggling in school, or both, take advantages of the resources available to you! Talk to your school counselor about your options!
Edit: Googled it. I stand corrected.
Kuraudo47 wrote:
Kim wrote:
Since no one knows who this person is, it's very hard to say anything specific to this person without sounding insincere.
We can just say generalities like the fact that early success (or lack thereof) is a very well studied phenomenon, and it's a very weak indicator of future talent or success. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school varsity team as a sophomore, Charles Darwin was called "slow and ordinary" by all his teachers, Walt Disney was fired from an early job because he "lacked imagination", the list goes on and on. As an adult, I see this constantly. The people who did well in school are not necessarily the ones who are doing well in life, and vice versa.
Moreover, if you are depressed, or simply struggling in school, or both, take advantages of the resources available to you! Talk to your school counselor about your options!
We can just say generalities like the fact that early success (or lack thereof) is a very well studied phenomenon, and it's a very weak indicator of future talent or success. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school varsity team as a sophomore, Charles Darwin was called "slow and ordinary" by all his teachers, Walt Disney was fired from an early job because he "lacked imagination", the list goes on and on. As an adult, I see this constantly. The people who did well in school are not necessarily the ones who are doing well in life, and vice versa.
Moreover, if you are depressed, or simply struggling in school, or both, take advantages of the resources available to you! Talk to your school counselor about your options!
Not to mention Einstein had awful grades as well.
Nvm
Kuraudo47 wrote:
Not to mention Einstein had awful grades as well.
I wish I could include this one because it sounds very inspiring, but actually he was at the top of his class.
Kim wrote:
Kuraudo47 wrote:
Not to mention Einstein had awful grades as well.
I wish I could include this one because it sounds very inspiring, but actually he was at the top of his class.
Yeah... Googled it. I was wrong. Sorry lol.
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