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if Me and another person have a PM. how do I add another person to that PM?

At this time there is no way to add or remove someone from an existing PM thread. The only way to accomplish this is by creating a new PM and including (or excluding) all the necessary participants. I can't remember if Kim had plans to make this easier in the future, but if she does it's likely to be low priority. It can't hurt to suggest it though.

in that case how do you make PM with more than one person?

Click on big red "Add Recipients" button. You can just type a name, click it, type a new name and click that etc.

My concern here has always been the following scenario:

Bob and Sally strike up a BFF friendship and chat for pages. Sally shares some embarrassing secret from her past with Bob, because she trusts Bob. Bob doesn't think that much of it personally, and a month later, decides to invite his friend Joe to the conversation because he thinks Joe and Sally will get along. Possibly Bob does not even remember what else was said in this chat thread. Sally is mortified and never speaks with Bob again.

I guess really, the thing that haunts me is that private messages have the word private right in their name. If we can add whoever else to a pre-existing conversation, we can't trust in their privateness anymore. We'd need to have some system where everyone participating in a conversation has to confirm that they agree to add the new person before that new person is added. While such a system can certainly be created, it's still going around and around in my head what form that would best take.

Letting people leave an existing PM conversation is higher on my list than letting people join right now.