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Everything has been solved. Thank you all for the advice!

When you talked to them, did you tell them how much it upset you that things weren't going like you agreed on? RP is supposed to be fun, and if you're going to be fretting about it a lot, it might be best to end the RP and try and find a new love interest for your character

I tried to explain that it was a must-have, and that we agreed on it having romance in the beginning. When I advertised for it, I said it was a must-have. And I told them I'd need some time to think about if I wanted to continue the rp at all at this point with their sudden change. It wouldn't bother me as much if we hadn't agreed on it in the beginning or something? I'd understand if we hadn't agreed on it, but this whole time I was roleplaying with the thought in mind it would have romance like agreed on basically. But they seemed completely neutral like "Okay take your time " when I said I need time to even think about continuing. Like they don't care as much about the RP as I do, even if I drop it. The response was so casual it kinda hurt.

Sadly it sounds like they aren't as invested in it as you are It's happened to me before, and while it is crappy it might be best to drop it and find something else for that character. I've had to do this before too, and most of them ended up with way better matches

Amirrora, If I were you I'd probably just drop it. Long term rps just having to end do suck, a lot. But it'd be better just to let you and your character move on. There are loads of people on this site looking for romance rps right now! I'd say, the person in question isn't worth your time to be investing in, while sure the rp could keep going and they could be friends! and you could have a blast, that's not what you guys agreed on. You'll find someone else much more worthwhile to rp with, and I'm sure you'll love it just as much (Probably more) In the long run. Cutting your loses sometimes hurts, and I have had to do it before. But you'll turn out much better for it.

I hate to read this, I've been in a few similar positions before and it's never easy. It's also hard to give advice on because each one of us is so different. But I'd have to agree with Loki, sometimes starting over ends up being better than what you'd originally planned. And there are quite a few players on the site that could give you the RP you're looking for.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this, but dropping it may give you that new inspiration and energize you. I'm sure it's not the advice you were looking for, but I do hope you find an rp that you enjoy as much as this one and that it's everything you're looking for.

Have you considered maybe asking about your partner's character having a sort of AU? Like, you have your rp with them and that is totally separate from the rp they have with whoever is their current love interest.

So the separate rp with you means you can still work the romance angle.

I hope that makes sense.

@Loki; Yeah, with the response they gave me, it feels like they aren't as attached to the roleplay as I am. Which really sucks as I was having fun, but going back on our original agreement and all without even warning me and I had to find out on my own out of nowhere really sucks

@Nuclear_Dingoz; Yeah, it's just, I really want to as I was having fun. But I was having fun with the idea in mind that there would be romance, which we agreed on in the beginning. And as said to Loki above, no warning, I just looked at their profile to check something, noticed they were suddenly taken. Then asked about the fact of romance still being in our rp as agreed and they don't want to. I really hope I can find the strength to either let this one go and move on, or maybe as Unicorn suggested ask for an AU.

@Rubix; Yeah, it's like I hate it because I feel I'm being selfish maybe... but we AGREED ON IT at the BEGINNING. And out of nowhere, I had to find out on my own they don't want to do it anymore. With no warning. I just don't know. And their replies about me trying to talk it out seem so casual and de-tached. It makes me really sad to be honest. It hurts. And it sucks. I do really appreciate any advice right now to be honest. So thank you.

@Unicorn; Ahhh I haven't but because they keep pushing the idea of a group rp with the characters love interest, I dunno if they'd want to. I'd really like to, but feel I might offend them or something by asking. And they might find the idea pushy or possessive. I'm not sure. ;w; Ahhh... I'm so bad at trying to express my feelings that way, because I'd rather suffer and be upset than make someone else upset? I'm a bit of a push-over that way.

As hard as it is, I think you've answered your own question:

Romance is a must-have for you. They no longer want to play romance. Sounds like a pretty cut and dry deal breaker, thanks for playing, no hard feelings!

It is very painful to end something that was great. I have totally been there. But it can be much worse to let something drag on when you know it isn't quite right -- especially when you have limited energy.

I think the thing to do is be thankful for the great RP that you had, and go make some more great RP in another situation that has more hope of being what you want.

I really dont think asking for an AU is offensive in the least. It's totally understandable if you're really set on wanting a relationship with a character to happen. Might I also point out that them just suddenly dropping the romance idea is totally rude; they should've told you about not wanting to continue with the idea of romancing.

Try the AU thing, approach them and express how much you really wanted the romance and that an AU would work perfectly because then neither of you would have to drop the RP, or force your partner to choose between their current char's mate and your character.

@Kim; Yeah, it's just... like if we never agreed to have romance in it, I wouldn't have minded. But we agreed on this in the beginning, and on my original advertisement that they replied to I said it was a must-have. And when we were talking about ideas, they agreed to do romance. Then just going back on the agreement and all kind of hurts. Without any warning or anything.
I wish they would have warned me, told me themselves without me having to find out on my own. We had an agreement, and they broke it without warning. That's what bugs me the most. It sucks because I really loved this rp, and I'm getting emotional thinking about dropping it.

@Unicorn; Yeah, I guess that's true. I do feel them not warning me at all was rude... and it kinda hurts without even warning me and such, when my character is becoming fond of him at this point finally. I wish it hadn't gone on so long without me knowing he didn't want to continue the romance aspect. I decided to take your advice.

@All;
I sent them a message with three options based on the advice here.
1; Do an AU-based rp where they can be together as originally agreed on, but if we do a group roleplay, they could be with the other person perhaps
2; Have them somehow integrate a character that could be with mine during this roleplay,
giving me the romance we agreed on in the first place
3; Sadly say goodbye to this roleplay, as they went back on our agreement,
and it's really upset me as romance is a must-have in a roleplay for me

I think this was fair. I also tried to explain my feelings better to them,
about being upset on them going back on our agreement and all, hopefully they understand.
I think I did the right thing, and that it's fair to both parties I think. ;w;