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Have you ever felt so alone, even though you have people who are technically "there"?

That's how I feel right now. I'm not too sure what exactly triggered this feeling but now it's slowly just eating at me. I'm apart of a couple communities and I've been having a blast lately with all of the new characters and roleplayers. I've made so many new friends, that are great to talk to, and really just seem to understand me. But now it all feels like it's leaving.

I'm not sure if it's my own self-consciousness that has led me to think that none of these people actually care about me, or if it's actually happening. Either way, I'm feeling so alone. Everyone I talk to I feel has some kind of grudge against me, like they just pretend to like me. It's such a negative feeling and I really would like to just get past it.

Any suggestions?
Movies or music that really could just cheer a gal up?

Japanese voice...sounds nice and smooth. It gives a little, you know, softness to the tone. By the way you aren't the only one, usually I just ignore it and it will past away itself. I got used to the feeling. It's...uneasy, but durable. If you like it, I got more videos. Imouto.

What you're feeling is actually very familiar. That said, I can assure you that, no, people are not just pretending to like you. It's easy to feel that way, but consider how much effort that would take! ^^ This is just a funk, and while I can't promise it'll go away completely (since I don't know the root cause of it), I am confident that you'll be able to push through. If it does seem to be a more constant issue, then it might be worth looking into a little counseling to see if there are underlying issues to work though.

As for suggestions, I don't know you well enough to know your tastes. But here, maybe try this? T'is amusing. ^^

Maybe consider joining in on some new things that are going on around RPR! New RPs and groups are being made everyday - plus existing groups can always use new members to invigorate the other members! Maybe try out some of the forum games? Those can be fun! I'm pretty active on the GIF and Meme war threads myself.

Personally, when I find myself a bit alone I try to busy myself with something new - and I always make new friends or revitalize old friendships because of it!

And remember. You're perfect in the way that you Are!~

Thank you guys, I'm still not feeling myself but yalls videos and music did manage to make me smile. And I think I'll take your advice and join some new things, maybe it's time for a change though the thought terrifies me. Keeping busy will be nice.

Exercise is really useful for getting out of a "funk." Even 10 minutes of gentle yoga, dancing in your room, or going for a walk has been proven to reduce levels of anxiety and help people break out of thought spirals. I'm not sure what your physical capabilities are, but if you can move your arms and/or legs, I recommend it!

Get involved in community theatre. Or volunteer for another type of not for profit activity local to you.

This isn't an immediate fix, clearly. But if you want to join an open community that is most likely to accept you for exactly who you are, your best bet by far, anywhere in the world, is community theatre. If you're anxious about acting on a stage, that's not the only thing community theatres need volunteers for. They need box office personnel, help with building things, painting things, setting up sound and lights, stage managing, putting up posters, designing posters, and a whole host of other activities. You'll make lasting new friends, even if you can only give them two hours to help paint a set. And because it's community volunteers, you don't need to have the skills already -- people are very willing to teach.

Here's the thing. Most community theatre groups are made up of people who, one way or another, feel like you do quite often. Members of the queer community, people who want to work on their social anxiety, people who don't feel like they fit for any number of reasons gravitate to the arts as a place of acceptance. It's a great source of hugs, which are great ways to help loneliness

Not sure who to approach or how? Get in touch with me.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I have days where I feel similarly, and this video does me a lot of good.

Even if it's not your cup of tea, just know it's an outstretched hand. I grapple with my own anxiety and sensitivity, and sometimes it's just okay to let people know you're feeling that way and you need a little extra from them.

This too shall pass!