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Hey, as a roleplayer, we all know we have different style prefferences. I for one lovemost style prefferences, but I've come to notice I have been slacking with replies. I may not be, not so I claim to be, the best role player. However I thrive so hard to keep going with roleplays. Mainly because I love the people.

I feel horrible in saying this, because it's been said to myself several times. I just have such a hard time finding anyone who is at my level of role play. Which I'll admittingly say, I'm probably just below intermediate. Its either I find people who are so much better at details, or people who don't have enough details.


I sometimes feel like I never have enough details, but I post the reply anyway because of the thought of leaving people hanging. I feel horrible, I apologise to anyone I may have bored, or haven't had enough details to satisfy. It just recently happened again with a friend.

I tend to always do this, and I don't know a good way of learning to do more. I don't want it to seem like I'm changing my style just to fit others needs, I just want to better myself to avoid other saddening events like this.

If anyone knows me they know I'm a paranoid person, I flip out internally if someone hasn't replied to me at least in chat for a week. I also have a paranoia that I'm not good enough to role play with certain people. I guess I'm still working out my childhood in role-playing.


If anyone has some ideas on how to broaden my style, please tell me.



And to any of my friends, don't take this as a guilt trip! It's really not! I'm just going to practice, and hopefully we can play again and have a more successful rp.
Hey Phantom! I wanted to weigh in on this not because we have a game going but because I regularly feel like this as well. I feel that all my partners have a far superior writing style than mine, and it pushes me to want to write longer and better detailed posts.

First off Rp is not supposed to be stressful, it's supposed to be the exact opposite of that! It's supposed to be a fun escape from the real world. So never stress about giving people replies, and....if your not entirely happy with you're post don't send it. Sit on it for a few hours and come back to it. I am extremely guilty of delaying posts for that fact that I am not satisfied with what I've written. So I come back and re read or even completely rewrite the post entirely. Don't worry about leaving them hanging...just tell em that you're working on it, and you want to give them an amazing post because that's what they've given you.
whimsicalpianist

Hello my dear!

I ,well lurking about RPR forums, when I came across this thread. I feel that a lot of people have been the place you are at, I know I've been where you are. Doudt it a crippleing poison for most people.

Time is an idle, fickle thing, just like internet connections. First things frist, when you're writing a post do your best not to think about the other person waiting on the receiving end. Ignore that pesky little thought, it's a gnat until it counts. When you take your time in writing, even if it's explaining the interior of a luxurious house or a ruin down hut. Even putting in your characters thoughts and emotions can lengthen your poat. That being side do not forget to have your character interact with your rping partners character, a simple glance at the other character can spark many things. A single look, whether it's a look of anguish, exasperation, or amusement can speak as loud as actions. Finally do not rush! Never rush your self! Rushing your writing turns a post into a poorly written response that could leave the person you're writing with feeling unsatisfied.

Now as for internet connection and time analogy, not all countries have the best internet. Weather is another factor, so this being said you have no way of knowing when the receiver is receiving your post. Not everyone had high speed internet,love!

Goals is something you have to set. Say someone is who is an advanced does not mean you have to strain yourself in matching their level. Trust me it's never worth that pain, it will turn the story into a chore. I don't think you want to turn a brillant idea into chore my dear.

Finally, I say this to hopefully this will prove that anyone can better their writing. My dear Phantom, I am very dyslexic, this is may seem irrelevant but this is like an social anxiety to me. Paranoia. However, due to many years of practice of writing and gaining self confidence and awareness of my writing. Don't be afraid to write a drabble or two and ask someone to look over it to better your writing, for some one who is shy, deals with anxieties and dyslexia this helped tremendously. So give it a try, you may even surprise your self!
PhantomDrama Topic Starter

Thank you both so much! I thank you for your responses, and I hope I can work on everything said. And I can't believe you are dyslexic. Your writing is so advanced to me, I don't use big words like you do all the time.


Thank you so much!
I hear you.

I don't think myself the best writer -- I'm terribly self-indulgent and picture everything like a film.

I'll tell you what helped me though:

When I was younger I was told 'show. Don't tell' by a handsome, bearded and tattooed teacher-- this guy had hearts in his eyes for writing-- and I was young and forever always making the folly of 'x did this, because of this', on and on, no matter what, I had this constant need to tell my audience every little detail and robbed them of their own thinking; it was sort of like, this little pig went to the market, this little piggy stayed at home, this little piggy went 'wee wee wee' all the way home', it worked for me before in English lessons, but it cut my writing length short too and I could never hit the essay's mark.

He had me thinking, so how exactly do I 'show, don't tell?'

It never occurred to me until a few weeks later.

You have to surrender yourself to your senses, all five of them:
If your eyes could speak, what would they say?
What would your ears say?
Your nose?
Your taste buds -- is there a taste that's making them sing?
You have to wear the skin of your character.

There are a ton of narrative tropes you can use nothing is restricted, not even in roleplay. I think a lot of people feel stuck because they have to sit constantly behind the wheel of their character and list nothing but their body language. You don't have to, not at all.

One of my favourite structures for a paragraph in a roleplay goes like this, for example,

Quote:
"Hurting you, Macky?"

She was Russian red and the waft of nicotine and his words make her lips spread, teeth bared, her dimples were puncture marks in the dim bleed of light; she looked far more a wolf than any woman'.

For details I just try to actively engage and use the language of whatever archetype I'm writing; create images with my words and feed into the public consciousness that's been grown from countless narratives and texts. To this day, I don't always succeed, but it's fun to let my brain get completely swallowed by all these different worlds and narratives for a bit.

The other and most important person that helped me is my GF -- I felt swallowed up by writer's block, like I wasn't good enough and she said to me, something like, 'babe keep trying every day until you feel that block is going'. She was right. Keep going, keep trying, read lots, write lots and you'll own style will grow and grow, I promise you.

e: the above mainly focused on putting details into your post, but really all of this is to say; don't hold yourself to other people's standards -- but don't mute the drive to improve and grow either, feed yourself on other people's writing, gorge yourself on it. let yourself blossom. the fact you strive for self improvement and growth -- even in a creative way -- is natural and wonderful. it'll come, give it time. (:

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