Hi
I may regret saying this later on... but frankly, I don't care at this point. A previous RP I had crashed and burned after I got a little too emotional at one part. Keep in mind, the RP was meant to be a beta tester for my new character, and was meant to be more fun than to actually make sense. As I was on my emotionally charged tidal wave, one of the RP members started criticizing the main plot of the RP. It was clear I didn't put a lot of thought into it, but they seemed adamant to give the RP some kind of logic. That's when I decided to end the RP, and told them the more I thought about continuing it, the more hurt I felt. Then they began to say the fact that I'm getting upset over this is 'for a lack of a better word, stupid' since it was (paraphrasing here) 'meant to be for fun'. Ever since then, I've been getting feelings of intense loneliness and hopelessness. I honestly thought I was a dumb arse at that point. I tried speaking to my counsellor about this, but that seemed to only make things worse on my end. I don't know what posting this would do to help, but at least I could rest-assured knowing I've vented this time. I know I could've been a little more confidential with this, but again, I don't care about keeping secrets; I've had it with that rubbish. If you've managed to read that much at this point, then thanks, I appreciate it...
I may regret saying this later on... but frankly, I don't care at this point. A previous RP I had crashed and burned after I got a little too emotional at one part. Keep in mind, the RP was meant to be a beta tester for my new character, and was meant to be more fun than to actually make sense. As I was on my emotionally charged tidal wave, one of the RP members started criticizing the main plot of the RP. It was clear I didn't put a lot of thought into it, but they seemed adamant to give the RP some kind of logic. That's when I decided to end the RP, and told them the more I thought about continuing it, the more hurt I felt. Then they began to say the fact that I'm getting upset over this is 'for a lack of a better word, stupid' since it was (paraphrasing here) 'meant to be for fun'. Ever since then, I've been getting feelings of intense loneliness and hopelessness. I honestly thought I was a dumb arse at that point. I tried speaking to my counsellor about this, but that seemed to only make things worse on my end. I don't know what posting this would do to help, but at least I could rest-assured knowing I've vented this time. I know I could've been a little more confidential with this, but again, I don't care about keeping secrets; I've had it with that rubbish. If you've managed to read that much at this point, then thanks, I appreciate it...
I'm not sure what to tell you, since you've already been reaching out. I want to at least let you know that your post has been read and understood, though, and that while some may thing it silly to get upset over RP stuff, your feelings are still valid. I hope you're able to find someone to discuss this with who will be able to fill in whatever it was your counselor fell short on, because this does seem like something worth addressing.
Novalyyn wrote:
I'm not sure what to tell you, since you've already been reaching out. I want to at least let you know that your post has been read and understood, though, and that while some may thing it silly to get upset over RP stuff, your feelings are still valid. I hope you're able to find someone to discuss this with who will be able to fill in whatever it was your counselor fell short on, because this does seem like something worth addressing.
Thanks Novalynn. It warms my heart knowing there's at least someone who understands...
(Please note, take everything I say here with a grain of salt, because I have a poor habit of offending people when I don't mean to.)
Well, I can tell ya some things that might help. Treat an RP as just a story or game. Don't get too attached to it if something happens. And it's best not to get worked up over things like this, especially if you have something going on in your life man. Forum RP's are grand because you can post whenever you want to. Busy? Something going on? Just post whenever you have the time to adequately respond to what's been posted, wether it be a sentence, or a few paragraphs.
And we weren't calling you stupid man, atleast I wasn't. Heck, I was trying to help the situation, but nevertheless. Let bygones be bygones and the past be the past. Calm yourself and carry on. Learn from mistakes and how you can improve from them. And most importantly don't let things on a RP site bother you so much. Learn to filter out anger and arguments and let things on a screen just be things on a screen.
And don't feel so hopeless man. Because you aren't alone here. You got friends and acquaintances willing to help ya and support ya on here. And a good helping of funny cat and Zuthar13 videos will most likely help with your feelings a little bit. If not, maybe it'll give you a good laugh and help you feel a bit better.
Now, go get ya some motivation and be the JohnAtArms we all know again. He who creates grand plotpoints and interesting characters. The person we all know. And, here's a tip for avoiding stuff like that. Stick to what ya know. If you know more about serfs and shields rather than blasters and space-ships, it's probably a good idea to just stick to medieval/past RPs rather than future/sci-fi ones, atleast until you're able to study up a bit on it of course.
But yeah. Hopefully that helps a little. Good day my man.
Well, I can tell ya some things that might help. Treat an RP as just a story or game. Don't get too attached to it if something happens. And it's best not to get worked up over things like this, especially if you have something going on in your life man. Forum RP's are grand because you can post whenever you want to. Busy? Something going on? Just post whenever you have the time to adequately respond to what's been posted, wether it be a sentence, or a few paragraphs.
And we weren't calling you stupid man, atleast I wasn't. Heck, I was trying to help the situation, but nevertheless. Let bygones be bygones and the past be the past. Calm yourself and carry on. Learn from mistakes and how you can improve from them. And most importantly don't let things on a RP site bother you so much. Learn to filter out anger and arguments and let things on a screen just be things on a screen.
And don't feel so hopeless man. Because you aren't alone here. You got friends and acquaintances willing to help ya and support ya on here. And a good helping of funny cat and Zuthar13 videos will most likely help with your feelings a little bit. If not, maybe it'll give you a good laugh and help you feel a bit better.
Now, go get ya some motivation and be the JohnAtArms we all know again. He who creates grand plotpoints and interesting characters. The person we all know. And, here's a tip for avoiding stuff like that. Stick to what ya know. If you know more about serfs and shields rather than blasters and space-ships, it's probably a good idea to just stick to medieval/past RPs rather than future/sci-fi ones, atleast until you're able to study up a bit on it of course.
But yeah. Hopefully that helps a little. Good day my man.
Draken901 wrote:
(Please note, take everything I say here with a grain of salt, because I have a poor habit of offending people when I don't mean to.)
Well, I can tell ya some things that might help. Treat an RP as just a story or game. Don't get too attached to it if something happens. And it's best not to get worked up over things like this, especially if you have something going on in your life man. Forum RP's are grand because you can post whenever you want to. Busy? Something going on? Just post whenever you have the time to adequately respond to what's been posted, wether it be a sentence, or a few paragraphs.
And we weren't calling you stupid man, atleast I wasn't. Heck, I was trying to help the situation, but nevertheless. Let bygones be bygones and the past be the past. Calm yourself and carry on. Learn from mistakes and how you can improve from them. And most importantly don't let things on a RP site bother you so much. Learn to filter out anger and arguments and let things on a screen just be things on a screen.
And don't feel so hopeless man. Because you aren't alone here. You got friends and acquaintances willing to help ya and support ya on here. And a good helping of funny cat and Zuthar13 videos will most likely help with your feelings a little bit. If not, maybe it'll give you a good laugh and help you feel a bit better.
Now, go get ya some motivation and be the JohnAtArms we all know again. He who creates grand plotpoints and interesting characters. The person we all know. And, here's a tip for avoiding stuff like that. Stick to what ya know. If you know more about serfs and shields rather than blasters and space-ships, it's probably a good idea to just stick to medieval/past RPs rather than future/sci-fi ones, atleast until you're able to study up a bit on it of course.
But yeah. Hopefully that helps a little. Good day my man.
Well, I can tell ya some things that might help. Treat an RP as just a story or game. Don't get too attached to it if something happens. And it's best not to get worked up over things like this, especially if you have something going on in your life man. Forum RP's are grand because you can post whenever you want to. Busy? Something going on? Just post whenever you have the time to adequately respond to what's been posted, wether it be a sentence, or a few paragraphs.
And we weren't calling you stupid man, atleast I wasn't. Heck, I was trying to help the situation, but nevertheless. Let bygones be bygones and the past be the past. Calm yourself and carry on. Learn from mistakes and how you can improve from them. And most importantly don't let things on a RP site bother you so much. Learn to filter out anger and arguments and let things on a screen just be things on a screen.
And don't feel so hopeless man. Because you aren't alone here. You got friends and acquaintances willing to help ya and support ya on here. And a good helping of funny cat and Zuthar13 videos will most likely help with your feelings a little bit. If not, maybe it'll give you a good laugh and help you feel a bit better.
Now, go get ya some motivation and be the JohnAtArms we all know again. He who creates grand plotpoints and interesting characters. The person we all know. And, here's a tip for avoiding stuff like that. Stick to what ya know. If you know more about serfs and shields rather than blasters and space-ships, it's probably a good idea to just stick to medieval/past RPs rather than future/sci-fi ones, atleast until you're able to study up a bit on it of course.
But yeah. Hopefully that helps a little. Good day my man.
Wow... never really saw you as the sympathetic type Draken... I'm honestly surprised... Happy but... surprised. I do try my best to filter my emotions, but they just keep coming back. Thanks anyway.
Eh. There's a lot more to person that just an icon on a screen. But yeah. Seriously though. Go watch you some Zuthar13. His videos will give you a guaranteed laugh if you still feel like crap.
Draken901 wrote:
Eh. There's a lot more to person that just an icon on a screen. But yeah. Seriously though. Go watch you some Zuthar13. His videos will give you a guaranteed laugh if
you still feel like crap.
you still feel like crap.
Alright mate. Things haven't been getting much better to be honest. I guess I'll check him out.
John,
While admirable that you are reaching out for help, the solution you are looking for isn't going to come from funny videos or faceless entities on a roleplaying forum.
What you are describing is a potentially serious mental health condition that you should seek professional help over.
A counselor can only do so much. If they are not helping, the reality is that you need to see someone else, better suited to the problem.
Go see a doctor.
While admirable that you are reaching out for help, the solution you are looking for isn't going to come from funny videos or faceless entities on a roleplaying forum.
What you are describing is a potentially serious mental health condition that you should seek professional help over.
A counselor can only do so much. If they are not helping, the reality is that you need to see someone else, better suited to the problem.
Go see a doctor.
TaintedCaribou wrote:
John,
While admirable that you are reaching out for help, the solution you are looking for isn't going to come from funny videos or faceless entities on a roleplaying forum.
What you are describing is a potentially serious mental health condition that you should seek professional help over.
A counselor can only do so much. If they are not helping, the reality is that you need to see someone else, better suited to the problem.
Go see a doctor.
While admirable that you are reaching out for help, the solution you are looking for isn't going to come from funny videos or faceless entities on a roleplaying forum.
What you are describing is a potentially serious mental health condition that you should seek professional help over.
A counselor can only do so much. If they are not helping, the reality is that you need to see someone else, better suited to the problem.
Go see a doctor.
We'll see...
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