Forums » Smalltalk » Way too emotional and easily attached? :/

It's me again.. I've been having some problems with.. feelings I guess. I don't really know how to explain, but I'll try.. I guess.. I have this problem where when I really like certain character relationships (family/friends/dating) and something happens to it (death/cheating/not working out/lack of interest) I tend to get really upset, regardless of if the relationship was an established thing.. Happens in groups, and 1x1. It really hurts me when it happens, and sometimes causes me to hurt others through words or actions because I feel they caused it......... I'm really sorry whenever I do it, and I've tried to fix it but I can't seem to. I'm a really emotional teen right now, and can't seem to...disconnect my feelings from my rping. I really hate it when I get emotional, especially when it causes me to hurt others, which feels like all the time right now. I feel like because of it I don't really belong on this site, since I always seem to hurt myself and at least prohibit those I call my friends from enjoying themselves, if not hurt them as well.. I just don't know what to do... how to fix this..

If you haven't already you should speak to the people you're RPing with. They may not even be aware they're hurting you.

I find that people have to different styles when it comes to character relationships. Some people consider every RP to be of the same timeline, so their character will be romantically involved with the same person in every single RP. Some people consider every RP to be its own unique story and let their character date multiple people. It's not considered 'cheating' because the stories aren't connected. (A RP group I was active in used to call these styles single-shipping and multi-shipping. I'm not sure if they're commonly used terms. )

Both these styles are completely valid and no one way is better than the other! It's just a matter of personal preference.

It may be that you two have different styles and preferences when it comes to RP. Perhaps you can come to an agreement where they will only RP that character romantically with yours. But if not... It may be hard emotionally, but you may have to step away from a RP if you're a single-shipper and they're a multi-shipper. It's not worth sticking around when doing so causes a lot of stress.

Girl don't compromise who you are for others...it's good to get attached to characters emotional states and relationships cause that shows a real connection to the character...I am admittedly the same thing and often get really upset at the same thing but it's ok to get emotional cause that just shows how much effort you've really put into everything...don't disconnect yourself...just be you...any one who says otherwise isn't a very good person in my opinion
I'm a single shipper and I'm darn proud of it

I used to do this. It's not healthy, in my personal opinion. I would get very attached to characters and very emotionally involved with them and their players. I would become bitter and jealous if they seemed to be 'better friends' ICly with another character, if they seemed to be having 'more fun', if they romantically seemed to be better off with another character rather than my own.

It was like this for the majority of my being a teenager. After several OOC losses of friendships due to these issues and/or similar issues, I finally 'learned' my lesson so to speak and for whatever reason I just no longer get quite that attached. I get attached, don't get me wrong, and I have fun while I roleplay and/or brainstorm ideas, but I don't get so attached that I hurt myself or others over this or that.

I'm a multi-shipper. I don't get upset at things like this . . . ye I get quite attached. But as much as I do get attached I let go if their character has a relationship with another. I mean, it does kinda hurt when they take after someone else and don't think much of your character. I'm pretty chill when it comes to something like this and it's easy for me to control myself. However I do get upset when I want my character to be with another, and the other character doesn't want to be.

I guess I'm just a weird dude. Anyways, I think you should be able to feel upset. You should be able to feel the way you want, but try to keep from typing your emotions as much a possible or you mix your emotions into the RP itself ruining it possible. Because I get upset when I want my character to be emotionally attached to another character . . . and when I don't get it I get upset. And I try to avoid getting attached to characters for that very reason, so I don't have to feel upset. It works out for me to ignore myself and focus on being a character.