Hey, I'm ZrinX and I seem to be in a pickle of sorts.
I haven't roleplayed long, A year, maybe less. It's quickly grown to be my favorite thing to do with other people. I get to be myself in a way I can be normally. It's awesome as I'm sure you all know.
My problem is that pretty much all of my roleplays have slowed down to practically nothing or have gone completely cold turkey. I can understand this happening once or twice, thrice even! Every single roleplay I do always had the same conclusion, it ends midway through. Common sense would say that it can't be everyone else who's the problem. Perhaps the way I roleplay is flawed in some way.
For example, One of my friends. I met him outside of roleplay. When the subject of roleplay was brought up, I found out that he has stories that are very similar to my own.
So, we decided to roleplay. We only roleplayed for about a couple weeks before he started forgetting to reply. "No big deal." I said, because it wasn't. The second time, "It's cool, I understand. It happens." The third and fourth time I get to thinking. If one keeps forgetting to reply to a roleplay, they can't be enjoying themselves. At least, that's how I see it. If you enjoyed doing something, would you forgot about it often?
It can't be everyone else who's the problem. There has to be something I'm doing wrong. Are my characters or ideas/stories not interesting enough? Am I, as a person, not interesting enough to formulate interesting posts? I'd like to think not, but I'm biased. This has been something that's been bugging me.
I've asked but they say it's not me. At this point I'm having a hard time believing that. Obviously they don't want to hurt my feelings. I know I'd say the same thing if I were in their shoes. Maybe I have really bad luck with this stuff. Maybe real life happens. That's okay, I understand that. I don't like to be left hanging, thinking that the roleplay is going to continue but it doesn't.
Maybe I'm being dramatic. My mom always told me I used to tend to blow things out of proportion and I'm inclined to believe that's what's happening now. I don't know why I'm asking you guys. Not that you aren't able to help. It's just that I've talked to naught percent of you so how would you know how I roleplay.
This isn't a veiled attempt to find roleplay partners either.
Another thing that I feel that might be an issue is the fact that I'm a furry. I know you're a tolerant bunch but I can't help but feel embarrassed being the odd one out. everyone has human characters, naturally, and I come in with an anthropomorphic character and I feel weird. I could make them human, sure, but I feel like they'd lose some of their charm.
I've tried roleplaying with other furries but, I'm sure you know how that goes. I'm just not into the ERP stuff so I'm odd one out there too. That one friend I mentioned earlier is a person I have a lot in common with. So it sucks when he forgets to reply. I know that it's probably a small thing, But I feel that if he was really interested in the roleplay he wouldn't just forget about it. Especially so soon after posting.
I dunno why I posted this. I feel like I just needed to say this, get it off my chest. Maybe garner some pity, I don't know. I feel like such an ass now, thinking that this is a problem. I'll just cut this off and post it before I scrap the whole dang thing.
I haven't roleplayed long, A year, maybe less. It's quickly grown to be my favorite thing to do with other people. I get to be myself in a way I can be normally. It's awesome as I'm sure you all know.
My problem is that pretty much all of my roleplays have slowed down to practically nothing or have gone completely cold turkey. I can understand this happening once or twice, thrice even! Every single roleplay I do always had the same conclusion, it ends midway through. Common sense would say that it can't be everyone else who's the problem. Perhaps the way I roleplay is flawed in some way.
For example, One of my friends. I met him outside of roleplay. When the subject of roleplay was brought up, I found out that he has stories that are very similar to my own.
So, we decided to roleplay. We only roleplayed for about a couple weeks before he started forgetting to reply. "No big deal." I said, because it wasn't. The second time, "It's cool, I understand. It happens." The third and fourth time I get to thinking. If one keeps forgetting to reply to a roleplay, they can't be enjoying themselves. At least, that's how I see it. If you enjoyed doing something, would you forgot about it often?
It can't be everyone else who's the problem. There has to be something I'm doing wrong. Are my characters or ideas/stories not interesting enough? Am I, as a person, not interesting enough to formulate interesting posts? I'd like to think not, but I'm biased. This has been something that's been bugging me.
I've asked but they say it's not me. At this point I'm having a hard time believing that. Obviously they don't want to hurt my feelings. I know I'd say the same thing if I were in their shoes. Maybe I have really bad luck with this stuff. Maybe real life happens. That's okay, I understand that. I don't like to be left hanging, thinking that the roleplay is going to continue but it doesn't.
Maybe I'm being dramatic. My mom always told me I used to tend to blow things out of proportion and I'm inclined to believe that's what's happening now. I don't know why I'm asking you guys. Not that you aren't able to help. It's just that I've talked to naught percent of you so how would you know how I roleplay.
This isn't a veiled attempt to find roleplay partners either.
Another thing that I feel that might be an issue is the fact that I'm a furry. I know you're a tolerant bunch but I can't help but feel embarrassed being the odd one out. everyone has human characters, naturally, and I come in with an anthropomorphic character and I feel weird. I could make them human, sure, but I feel like they'd lose some of their charm.
I've tried roleplaying with other furries but, I'm sure you know how that goes. I'm just not into the ERP stuff so I'm odd one out there too. That one friend I mentioned earlier is a person I have a lot in common with. So it sucks when he forgets to reply. I know that it's probably a small thing, But I feel that if he was really interested in the roleplay he wouldn't just forget about it. Especially so soon after posting.
I dunno why I posted this. I feel like I just needed to say this, get it off my chest. Maybe garner some pity, I don't know. I feel like such an ass now, thinking that this is a problem. I'll just cut this off and post it before I scrap the whole dang thing.
Hun you remind me of myself. My rps often begin and end very similarly. My best advice is to have several others on the back burner just in case one doesn't work out.
When I first started out maybe a few years ago I had never role played anything outside of ocs from my favorite animated show at the time.
That show was friendship is magic.(yes I am a bit of a brony)
However when I joined this site I created all human characters because I thought no one would be interested. I still only use the human characters as well, you see things like the brony fandom and furries are simply things that are built by people with a common interest that differs from what society prefers is to like.
Usually they are good people.
But there is that ten percent thst do certain things that end up defining that fandom and branding them for life as creeps of pedos.
My point is that yes it's hard to find people with common interests but not impossible, just make sure they are the right people
When I first started out maybe a few years ago I had never role played anything outside of ocs from my favorite animated show at the time.
That show was friendship is magic.(yes I am a bit of a brony)
However when I joined this site I created all human characters because I thought no one would be interested. I still only use the human characters as well, you see things like the brony fandom and furries are simply things that are built by people with a common interest that differs from what society prefers is to like.
Usually they are good people.
But there is that ten percent thst do certain things that end up defining that fandom and branding them for life as creeps of pedos.
My point is that yes it's hard to find people with common interests but not impossible, just make sure they are the right people
Hi ZrinX! Sorry to hear that 
I honestly believe that you're not giving yourself enough credit. In the world of roleplay, leaving is always a possibility and it can and unfortunately will happen for many different reasons. I would like to not paint anyone as the "problem" in regards to this, as it carries the implication that leaving for any cause is unacceptable socially/morally. I understand why you may be experiencing self-doubt in yourself and your roleplaying abilities but I want you to be aware that there is nothing wrong with you.
Is your friend perhaps suffering from something that causes him to forget things easily? I, myself, suffer from ADD and I tend to forget everything, regardless of how interested I am and how often I am involved with it. Or, maybe he is not as interested as he thought he would be? Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by calling off the roleplay? All equally plausible reasons as to why he keeps "forgetting".
I find things to be the opposite, in my opinion, if you meant human as in 100% human. I actually feel as though anthropomorphic characters are more popular in the roleplaying community, so I find it strange that you feel that way (Though I guess realistically it's more like everyone gets a slice of an equally-sized pie). I think that part of what makes rp so fun is in sharing your creations with everyone, no matter how different they are. In a roleplay, if a dragon entered into a room full of humans and asked where the bathroom was, I believe the answer would more likely be "How did you miss it, it's right behind you?!" (he forgot his glasses at home, poor Drago) rather than "Omg, a dragon, run!".
My point is, no one finds you being a furry bad in any way and you should not and will never ever need to change yourself and/or your characters to fit in.
Anyway, I'm glad you posted this. Believe me, it's good to get things off your chest. And this issue is concerning, but maybe not as much as you thought. I suggest you keep trying though, until you actually manage to complete a roleplay. "If at first you don't succeed, try and try again" sort of stuff. Also you could try approaching your partners with these concerns and attempt to work something out, perhaps a schedule or something similar? Sorry if this didn't help at all. I nonetheless wish you the best of luck, and happy roleplaying!
ZrinX wrote:
Every single roleplay I do always had the same conclusion, it ends midway through. Common sense would say that it can't be everyone else who's the problem. Perhaps the way I roleplay is flawed in some way. [...]
I've asked but they say it's not me. At this point I'm having a hard time believing that. Obviously they don't want to hurt my feelings. I know I'd say the same thing if I were in their shoes.
I've asked but they say it's not me. At this point I'm having a hard time believing that. Obviously they don't want to hurt my feelings. I know I'd say the same thing if I were in their shoes.
I honestly believe that you're not giving yourself enough credit. In the world of roleplay, leaving is always a possibility and it can and unfortunately will happen for many different reasons. I would like to not paint anyone as the "problem" in regards to this, as it carries the implication that leaving for any cause is unacceptable socially/morally. I understand why you may be experiencing self-doubt in yourself and your roleplaying abilities but I want you to be aware that there is nothing wrong with you.
ZrinX wrote:
For example, One of my friends. [...]
We only roleplayed for about a couple weeks before he started forgetting to reply. "No big deal." I said, because it wasn't. The second time, "It's cool, I understand. It happens." The third and fourth time I get to thinking. If one keeps forgetting to reply to a roleplay, they can't be enjoying themselves. At least, that's how I see it. If you enjoyed doing something, would you forgot about it often? [...] I feel that if he was really interested in the roleplay he wouldn't just forget about it. Especially so soon after posting.
We only roleplayed for about a couple weeks before he started forgetting to reply. "No big deal." I said, because it wasn't. The second time, "It's cool, I understand. It happens." The third and fourth time I get to thinking. If one keeps forgetting to reply to a roleplay, they can't be enjoying themselves. At least, that's how I see it. If you enjoyed doing something, would you forgot about it often? [...] I feel that if he was really interested in the roleplay he wouldn't just forget about it. Especially so soon after posting.
Is your friend perhaps suffering from something that causes him to forget things easily? I, myself, suffer from ADD and I tend to forget everything, regardless of how interested I am and how often I am involved with it. Or, maybe he is not as interested as he thought he would be? Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by calling off the roleplay? All equally plausible reasons as to why he keeps "forgetting".
ZrinX wrote:
Another thing that I feel that might be an issue is the fact that I'm a furry. I know you're a tolerant bunch but I can't help but feel embarrassed being the odd one out. everyone has human characters, naturally, and I come in with an anthropomorphic character and I feel weird. I could make them human, sure, but I feel like they'd lose some of their charm.
I find things to be the opposite, in my opinion, if you meant human as in 100% human. I actually feel as though anthropomorphic characters are more popular in the roleplaying community, so I find it strange that you feel that way (Though I guess realistically it's more like everyone gets a slice of an equally-sized pie). I think that part of what makes rp so fun is in sharing your creations with everyone, no matter how different they are. In a roleplay, if a dragon entered into a room full of humans and asked where the bathroom was, I believe the answer would more likely be "How did you miss it, it's right behind you?!" (he forgot his glasses at home, poor Drago) rather than "Omg, a dragon, run!".
My point is, no one finds you being a furry bad in any way and you should not and will never ever need to change yourself and/or your characters to fit in.
Anyway, I'm glad you posted this. Believe me, it's good to get things off your chest. And this issue is concerning, but maybe not as much as you thought. I suggest you keep trying though, until you actually manage to complete a roleplay. "If at first you don't succeed, try and try again" sort of stuff. Also you could try approaching your partners with these concerns and attempt to work something out, perhaps a schedule or something similar? Sorry if this didn't help at all. I nonetheless wish you the best of luck, and happy roleplaying!
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