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What day-to-day things annoy you? I'm not asking in a mean-spirited way or to provoke conflict, lmao, just interested in people's real life pet peeves.

Example: today I was informed for the millionth time by two separate and complete strangers that "you look exactly like your older brother", because he's an extrovert and I can't go anywhere in this tiny-ass town without some rando recognizing me by proxy, but I'm four years older than him, it's not my fault he's insanely tall okay-
I feel like I've been on the opposite side of that interaction. There was a kid in my old elementary school class who had a younger brother that, once they grew older looked very much alike. Thats not a pet peeve though, I'm not the person who has to live with being mistook with a sibling.

A pet peeve of mine? Uh... This one's going to make me look like an awful person, and I am. Guilty as charged. I have a sibling who's developmentally disabled, which is fine on its own, but there's a part of living with someone with her condition that grinds my gears. She has no idea how to be gentle or speak quietly (naturally); when greetings are in order she WILL GRAB you and will probably give you a big, slobbery kiss. And she'll do that to everyone she thinks she can.

I thought for the longest time that the slobbery kiss was on purpose, maybe she thought it was a better way of showing affection, but then recently I found out its just because the muscles around her mouth are poorly developed so she can't help but drool, hence why I'm thinking yes, I am the jerk here.

Still love her tho
One pet peeve I have is people getting on my bed in their dirty clothes. Like if they went outside and then sit on my bed, it takes everything in me not to go insane. I guess I'm a little bit of a germaphobe, but I hate it. Oh, and sleeping with socks or shoes on. That's crazy to me. Maybe I've never been tired enough to do that, but.. I don't know. If you do that, more power to ya XD Being a biology major has messed me up, bros.
Not sure if this counts, but I hate that everything is up for discussion these days. As an example; when I'm at work and tell passengers how to either check-in or conduct themselves, and they'll be all "Why do I have to do that?" and not in a curious way, but as if I had just insulted their grandmother. "Because I said so," should actually suffice in this context.
Or, if they get angry when I ask them to step into the queue. Welcome to the real world, no short-cuts here. And no, I don't know or care who you are.

- Rant over -
Pomkeki

Edit: Forget it
Sanne Moderator

So uh. This turned into a big post about diabetes, I'm sorry if people are sick of hearing about this. <.<

This is something that's been going on for about... a year or so now? I'm extremely open about my diabetes, one of the main reasons is the massive amount of misconceptions, myths and half-truths that dominate society. I get confronted with these regularly and my openness and frequently talking about it is an attempt to combat this misinformation. Unfortunately this also means I receive a lot of misinformation... That's really my biggest pet peeve at the moment. I was diagnosed a couple of years ago but didn't become insulin dependent until January (I started a half insulin treatment in June before that) so I'm still learning a lot about my body, and none of this helps me at all.

It really, really bothers me that people (who often don't have diabetes) tell me what my illness is all about and how I should treat it.

Things I've heard that enrage me every time:

- You can't have a form of type 1, only kids get that! (Fact: over 57% of type 1 diagnoses are in people over 20 years old! And my type is specifically a form of type 1 that occurs in adulthood (LADA))
- Going on a vegan diet will reverse any kind of diabetes. (This is wrong on so many levels I can't even summarize why/how.)
- You're injecting way too much insulin/testing too many times a day. You're obsessed! (Gee, it's almost like I have to manually emulate my pancreas and have to try and manage my bloodsugar 24/7, if I mess up during the day I might not wake up in the morning, excuse me for being conscious and precise, I lost my privilege of having an automated system.)
- My grandma/uncle/aunt/sister/friend/acquaintance/my friend's friend's sister/this person on the internet manages their diabetes in this way, and you should too because that's the best way! (No. There are at least 9 different kinds of diabetes mellitus, and there are infinite variables that determine treatment. It's catered to personal needs, there's no one plan for all of us.)
- You shouldn't have eaten so much sugar then you wouldn't be diabetic. (Not even type 2 diabetes is caused by eating too much sugar, this disease is so complex please stop saying stupid things.)
- Artificial sweeteners are sooo bad for you! (Maybe? They're safe if you stick to the guidelines and don't drink 2 liters of diet soda every day for years, the sugar is going to be worse for me when I drink it than the diet soda.)
- So, you have the bad kind of diabetes, right? (Every type of diabetes is bad.)
- Ditch the cookies and have endless fruit instead! (A ripe banana has 2 full spoons worth of sugar. Fructose causes insulin resistance. A bowl of fruit can make my bloodsugar go way higher than a single cookie.)
- So if your bloodsugar is low do I have to inject insulin for you? (Only if you want to literally kill me? Insulin lowers bloodsugar - feed me candy!)


But one of the worst things people keep telling me is "Oh my god I don't think I could ever inject myself multiple times a day!". I know why people say this, but please understand this is awfully rude. It's not a choice. If you end up with insulin dependent diabetes, you either inject, or you die a slow and very painful death. There's no in between. You lose the privilege of choice once your pancreas kicks the bucket.

I really don't mind that people don't know much about diabetes, but if you encounter a diabetic, don't make assumptions. Ask them "So how does your diabetes work? What do I do in an emergency?" and take their explanation and instructions to heart. Every diabetic is different. Most of these comments may seem like no big deal, but they start wearing you down really fast when people around you keep saying them. Even medical professionals and pharmacists are often very unaware of even the basics of diabetes, which is frustrating and worrying as hell. They're the kind of people I'd expect to have the basics down.

With a disease that is becoming so prevalent, I'm very upset that the basics aren't taught in school more. :/ Knowing the difference between hypo, hyper, and which one needs sugar and which one insulin is the least you can learn. It's so super simple even 5 year olds have saved their diabetic parents' lives when they passed out, so there's hardly an excuse!
Sanne Moderator

iltheyn wrote:
I thought for the longest time that the slobbery kiss was on purpose, maybe she thought it was a better way of showing affection, but then recently I found out its just because the muscles around her mouth are poorly developed so she can't help but drool, hence why I'm thinking yes, I am the jerk here.

Still love her tho

I think it's totally okay to be upset by having your personal space invaded and receiving unwanted affection. Your sibling having a disability doesn't mean you have to like everything she does! That doesn't make you a jerk, your feelings and personal space are as valid as hers. :)

Penholder wrote:
Not sure if this counts, but I hate that everything is up for discussion these days. As an example; when I'm at work and tell passengers how to either check-in or conduct themselves, and they'll be all "Why do I have to do that?" and not in a curious way, but as if I had just insulted their grandmother. "Because I said so," should actually suffice in this context.
Or, if they get angry when I ask them to step into the queue. Welcome to the real world, no short-cuts here. And no, I don't know or care who you are.

- Rant over -

Argh yes. When I worked customer service, the entitlement was real and very irritating. There are procedures for a reason, there are no magical buttons we press to accommodate your every inane request just because you feel important. Even Bill Gates is not exempt from stuff like that.

Pomkeki wrote:
It tends to bother me when people treat sexual orientation and gender identity, romantic preferences, or sexual preferences like the same thing. In the term "sexual orientation", sex is not referring to the act, it's referring to the gender(s) you're attracted to.

Many people don't seem to realize you can be disinterested in sex but still have a sexual orientation. This is probably why asexuality is so confusing to people and often used in the wrong way. I'm not asexual but for some reason this still bothers me!

Maybe I get a little too technical about things. I'm just not a fan of labels so I get tired of learning so many new ones that don't feel necessary or make sense. Can we skip the labels and just say what we mean, please? Please?

I hear you! I've been accused of being a lesser nice term for a woman of the oldest profession in the world because I'm pan, and obviously that means I just sleep around with literally everyone and everything. My ace friend has thankfully not had horrible confrontations like that but definitely runs into some misunderstandings every now and then.

On labels, I think they matter to individuals because they help connect with others. They answer questions like "Who am I? Am I a freak? Is something horribly wrong with me? Am I alone in this?" and allow people to properly discuss that important part of their life by having a baseline for what it means. The labels are primarily meant for the people they apply to and not so much everyone else who stands outside of it, I suppose!
Pomkeki

Edit: Forget it
Yersinia Topic Starter

Another thing that gets my goat that is actually related to goats: when people post a picture of their pet chicken/goat/pig/whatever and all the comments are things like "when do we eat it?"

Like...I would never go up to someone walking their dog and say "lmao so when are you gonna butcher him". As a consumer of meat and as someone who doesn't keep farm animals, even I can recognize the difference between livestock and somebody's pet that they obviously care for. Along a similar vein, I see a lot of videos hobbyists post of their snakes or insects and such and most of the comments are "kill it with fire". It's disrespectful. You can't demand someone kill their pet just because you think it's gross. You clicked on a video titled "my pet tarantula", what did you expect to see?

edit: adding some other stuff

- goddamn it roommates do your dishes
- passive aggression.
- when people turn everything into a suffering contest
- when the whole lecture hall is empty and some person insists on sitting directly behind you
- all the "restricted access" academic papers that make essay writing hell. just give me the poorly scanned articles you greedy troglodytes.
- when people make plans with you and then forget, and do this many times
When the dog sees u and gets excited and u feel beautiful but the owner hit you both wit the Saturday night fever leash jerk n walks away
The most obvious: not shutting my bedroom door when you leave it


Actually, I hate watching people yell at self checkout machines, being shushed by anyone (I'm a quiet, mumbling person most days anyways, how am I ever too loud??).

BUT THE BIG ONE forever dealing with my first name. (Korynn)

Yes, I know it's spelled weird. ("There's no way that's your name, you damn weeb/nerd!") Yes, I know it sounds like Korean and I also look it so you want to make the joke "I didn't ask what you were, I asked your name" or a jab at my parents hating me for giving me that name. Then, when I give someone my preferred name, being told they "think the other is prettier" or some other BS. when they can't pronounce or spell it correctly.


Grumble grumble

Also ugh agreeeed @fiebs w/ people who won't let me pet their pets like I understand if a service one but I always ask first 8((((
TinyCentaur

Knocking on the door, but then opening it anyway without me saying "yes" or "come in.". It defeats the purpose of knocking on the door for me personally. I know you were going to come in either way. So just knock and wait until I say you can come in or not?

Customers who lurk at the doors 10 minutes before you open. I've even had a case where someone waited 30 minutes outside for us to open, staring into the windows intensely. They only ended up buying something that was £3.00. Was it really worth the wait?

Impatience in messaging. Someone sends you a message, but then sends another an hour later. Then another 30 minutes. Then another 15 minutes... It's like they don't understand the concept that I might be busy or at work or with family.
Linking onto that, folks who complain that no one is around in a forum or in a group chat really get my goat.

Folks who start a conversation with just "Hello" and nothing else. I'm socially awkward and can't work with this at all.

This one is more of an artist feeling, but the assumption that a person gets that they'll get free art just because they're friends with you. Say goodbye to our friendship, I'm not here to give you free art.

Another customer one: Customers who won't even smile at you when you're trying to be nice to them. The same customers who also will just say the one worded thing of what they want, grab it, pay you, and leave with a face of thunder. Where is your human decency?

I might have more. I have a lot of pet hates but. Meh. I'm too tired.
I can only think of one, after reading Tiny's post, but customers who stay in after close! You clearly heard the three messages saying "we close in half an hour, we close in ten minutes, we are closed please bring your items to the front" yet you still feel it's okay to finish your grocery shopping at midnight? You know you're keeping everyone from their families right? Oh okay, real nice of you..
I have more than a few, but I'm gonna keep it to three so I don't spam you all.

- "You're from [location]? You don't sound like you're from [location]. You sound like you're from [different location]."
This one always irritates me, partly because I made the conscious effort to not speak like the accent from my area (which has negative connotations) - I wasn't trained to speak differently (it's not Received Pronunciation, though I can do it), so I decided to learn accents and now people can't tell where I'm from even though I tell them where I'm from.

- "Blimey, you're tall! [Insert crude joke about tall people]."

I was already self conscious as a teen when I was second-tallest in the entire school, and jokes about my height at college socially crippled me when the other teens decided I should be the social pariah because I was different. Height jokes hurt because they make me feel even more like the outsider than I would like to.

- "You've got Aspergers? Are you a maths-obsessed neat freak like Sheldon Cooper*?"
[*and other similar variants.]


It can be really hurtful that people take my diagnoses at face value because of what people understand the 'hip and cool definition' from shows like Big Bang Theory to be, (which Sheldon's traits are treated like punchlines for quick humour - not cool!), but if you try to politely explain to them that not every Asperger/Autistic Person has the same traits, or are affected in certain ways, you get blank-faced, or grinned at in a I'm-grinning-to-agree-but-don't-actually-want-to-understand-your-problems-way, and that's damned hurtful.
TinyCentaur wrote:
Knocking on the door, but then opening it anyway without me saying "yes" or "come in.". It defeats the purpose of knocking on the door for me personally. I know you were going to come in either way. So just knock and wait until I say you can come in or not?

Folks who start a conversation with just "Hello" and nothing else. I'm socially awkward and can't work with this at all.

This one is more of an artist feeling, but the assumption that a person gets that they'll get free art just because they're friends with you. Say goodbye to our friendship, I'm not here to give you free art.

These ones are actually super big ones for me.

My mother and step mother do the knocking thing, and my brother on occasion. Just... can u not pls.

As for the 'hello' thing. This has happened so much to me on RPR that I FINALLY decided to address it in my profile. Just... please. Don't. I'm not going to respond with a 'hello' or 'hi' in response. When I see basic openings like that, it leads into the next related peeves of mine, where I think you're trying to communicate with me just to get free art. I ain't about that.

So let's get onto some other stuff that gets to me that aren't exactly something that I've seen and can quote to add my own two cents:

Walking on eggshells around me even though I already addressed certain aspects about me that are totally okay to be open with me about. This includes me not minding being addressed as he/she/they due to my genderfluidity, being asked questions about my cancer treatment and body replacements, asking me about how I get over my depression (what coping mechanisms I've developed for myself to better myself).

Using my dead name. My dead name leans too toward not being gender neutral, and I've always hated it. Jay is the name I accepted when going through the confusing time of wondering "am I a boy, am I a girl", and came to the conclusion that it just really depends on the day and my mood. Jay is the name I chose, and the one I'm choosing to become my legal name when I have the funds to do it.

Oh, also... approaching me while speaking Spanish. I cannot even BEGIN to tell anyone how many times this has happened to me. Half of my roots lie in the Philippines, and while I might have Spanish blood in me, I can't even speak Tagalog, much less Spanish. lmao;; Like, please;; I know I look a part, but please--
"You're asexual? Do you reproduce by budding? lol"

"You're young! You just haven't found the right person yet!"

"Babies are wonderful, you'll change your mind!"

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People who say 'chai tea' and 'naan bread'.

I get it Karen, you want some tea tea and some bread bread.
Off the top of my head, trying to add something in, I guess I can only think of one thing

When I'm visiting home, or when I used to be there. Just staying upstairs, doing my things, hearing people shout that the food is ready and I answer them, saying that I'll be there soon, just that I'd like to finish or get the thing I'm working on to a good point before getting up and moving. And then they shout again. And again. Come on! I said I was coming! I know the food is 'ready' so please. Let me do this thing so that I can come eat!

Any other time when I have to shout again and repeat myself because people don't hear me annoys me too. Yes. I will come down soon after I've gotten my clothes on. Yes. Yes. Yes. I'm coming after I get the clothes on. GOSHDARN IT STOP. NO. I'LL NEVER COME DOWN.
Really makes me want to shout NO after all of those 'Yes'

Did someone write this here already?
Penumbra wrote:
"You're asexual? Do you reproduce by budding? lol"

"You're young! You just haven't found the right person yet!"

"Babies are wonderful, you'll change your mind!"

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"Are you sure you're even doing it right? Here, let me give you a very detailed and graphic explanation of how I do it and I'm sure it'll be better!" STOP! Do you have any idea how horrible it is to hear you talk about those kind of things?!

"Oh your opinion will change when you get a little bit older" yeah, no.

"Have you tried therapy? Are your hormones out of whack?" Oh! So now I have a disease. Thank you for your lovely input.

I feel you my friend 🙄
TinyCentaur wrote:
Another customer one: Customers who won't even smile at you when you're trying to be nice to them. The same customers who also will just say the one worded thing of what they want, grab it, pay you, and leave with a face of thunder. Where is your human decency?

I might have more. I have a lot of pet hates but. Meh. I'm too tired.

I'm sorry Tiny but I think I might've been your customer at some point. Dx

I sometimes can't speak with people in stressful situations so if I'm trying to catch up with something or move along a crowded line I'll avoid eye contact with the cashier, mouth niceties and slink away back from whence I came. Its especially bad if the person's trying to be nice because I so desperately want to smile and talk and be chipper but I can't.

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