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This. All of this.

Oh know what I just love? Getting told I'm "greedy", "just unsure", or "wrong" for being pansexual. I normally say bisexual because some people (older) don't understand pansexual.

No, it doesn't mean I sleep around with whatever comes across my path.
No, it doesn't mean I will have a threesome with you and your significant other.
No, it isn't a phase.
No, it doesn't mean I'm more likely to cheat on my partner.
No, it doesn't make it any easier with LGBQT+ groups. In fact, most of them are quite rude, offensive, and pretty vile towards me just because I don't "Pick a side."


And ticks. They suck and my pets hate getting a five minute going over with a fine tooth comb every time they come inside. I need to hire a herd of opossums to roam the yard and eat them all.

When flies be rubbing their tiny nefarious hands together... what are you even planning mojo Jojo

In my house, you wouldn't have any food left Gotta love large families.

Also, I second the repeating yourself thing. It's so irritating, and parents seem to think that them having to repeat themselves is detrimental, but it's okay for you to have to repeat yourself to them. Gotta love that double standard.

Ikr!

Edit: Forget it

As sad as this is to even happen, people making light of my epilepsy is a biiiig pet peeve. Relatives crack jokes, one "joked" that it must be similar to constipation, because in his words, both are acts of straining. God I wish I were kidding on that one. Or that I should be thankful, as they're "not big seizures." Or heaven forbid the condition is mentioned, it's a big pet peeve when people react really uncomfortably, responding as though I've said something random or weird. Yaay people. xD

When people gatekeep. As to for instance, I wore my Boba Fett sweater (one that looks like you're wearing his armor) someplace a couple weeks ago and some dude came up to me and condescendingly asked if I was a Star Wars fan. I felt like being a massive troll, so I answered that I didn't believe we should be spending government money on military expansion in space, and that war is wrong. Then I strolled away.

*takes a breath* I mean no harm with this, because everyone's experiences and points of views are valid. But I hate. So much. When people judge you outright based on either their experiences with the bad or overblown cases of your diagnosed mental disorder or illness, or just because you have a mental illness or disorder. I've seen a LOT of this when it comes to borderline personality disorder, schizophrenia, and ADHD. And I get it, really I do. Some people with mental disorders and illnesses are dicks, and are truly crazy. Personal experiences and relationships with those people are valid and must be painful to go through, especially if they're not willing or wanting to seek help.

But for me and many others who do want help for their illnesses? To hear these kinds of awful things only serves to self-fulfill prophecies that we are bad people, and most of us are not. Also, it sucks when you're really starting to get to know someone, and they seem to like you or think you're really sweet. Then you mention your illness because you're starting to trust them, then they look at you with disgust like you just murdered someone in front of them. We are capable of living normal lives and having normal relationships. You can be a "normal" person and still be a manipulative liar, overly emotional, violent, etc.. Mental illness does not define a person. I think people tend to forget that in this day and age.

Also, what people say about bisexuality/pansexuality and how we're easy and prone to sleep around and cheat, even though some bisexual and pansexual people are virgins. We also get a lot of crap for being bisexual/pansexual and a virgin too, because: "How do you even know you like more than one gender? You haven't had sex yet!" Or, "But you're pan/bi, right? How can you possibly be a virgin?" I can't do it. Nope. I'm done. Sorry.

Oh! I just thought of another one. Useless criticism. I hate it when someone goes behind another person and comments saying they could do it better. If you can do it better, then do it. Don't just comment.

I guess that ties into a larger pet peeve that to is do what you said you'd do. I hate empty promises. If you aren't going to do something then why even say anything in the first place? #ActionsSpeakLouderThanWords

@LightSide-Lucree

Actually there was someone I used to know who was studying to become a psychiatrist that your post reminds me of. They befriended me in WoW and we hung out for a while. I was having a lot of trouble with depression at the time, so I was a bit rough to talk with normally. I guess that's why she assumed I had aspd and proceeded to cut me off entirely. Didn't even tell me, just told my gf to avoid me. And now I realize its not the end of the world to have aspd, but I simply don't have it, so I spent months afterwards trying to understand just what she saw in me that made her think that way. I read all about it, looked up forums for people with the disorder, tried finding those little details in me. I assumed for a while that I must just not be fit for socializing anymore.

It wasn't a cool thing to do, cause I admired that person up until that. I still get touchy about it, if I'm having an especially bad day I'll get a bit detached and immediately think back to that.

Its not entirely on topic, so sorry about that.

It's totally fine! I did have some words I want to exchange, but to keep things on topic and not derail, I'll send them via PM.

Edit: Forget it

Conversation Hijackers.

I like to have nice conversations with people. There is always one person who will pop in and say something stupid or irrelevant to take over the conversation. I don't know what "WUT IZ YOUR FAVOURITE DOG?!" Have to do with a video game section. No one cares if you found a dollar, either.

People who belittle my life style or others. I'm FicKin and I use "they/them". Respect me, please.

Guilt trippers. The whole "How would you like it if..." type thing.

People who fly off the bat over an opinion.

Also, the one where someone stands behind you when you're drawing something and you've just started and they say stuff like, "That leg looks wrong", and "Why haven't you put any clothes on them?", and you have to explain that it's not finished yet. Or if you try to hide the art from their view by moving your shoulder, they don't take the hint and try to look further over your shoulder.

As a former competition marksman, people who confuse magazines and clips. A clip is just that, it clips ammunition together, a magazine is an actual part of a gun that CONTAINS ammunition.

For me, I utterly despise being rushed when I'm doing something. For instance, when I'm going out somewhere and someone's rushing me to hurry up that's a sure fire way to make me forget something like my wallet, or my phone or something like that.

On the topic of going places, I also hate it when I'm the middle of doing something and my Older sister or someone like that pops into my room all like 'Hey, go to Target with me'. I in general just don't like leaving my house. If I could live a healthy life style exclusively in my house I would.

It drives me up the wall when people creep. Like when the're trying to read what you're typing on a computer or something. I feel like it makes me a bit of a hypocrite though cause I do that too sometimes :'D

Kind of connected to the creeping, I don't like it when people start flipping through my sketchbooks. Especially if I don't offer. For some reason when my family does it it bugs me more.

Also don't touch my feet.

"Ohhh, what are you drawing? Is that you? Are you drawing you??"

"Is that Balto/Simba/Bambi/iconic character of the species you're currently drawing?"

"Okay, now draw me, doing this thing, with this character."

"You should draw that character doing this, he needs to have this. Oh! And make it so that's happening in the background..."

"You're an artist? Can you draw this for me? *laughs when I say yes but that I work on comission* Pay you? For a picture?? That's funny."

Registering for classes and buying textbooks puts me in a worse mood than anything else on this planet is capable of. Especially since the selection of history classes is...really poor this year. There's just enough of them being offered to meet my credit requirements, and they all sound dull or are on topics I've already studied. I think it's fine for me to be annoyed about this? School is so expensive and they're always axing my program. It feels like getting bargain-bin items for full price.