I hate that!!!! Like they can't even stop and tell you what they did wrong (even if there wasn't to begin with.) hinestky, talk things out, don't just leave, I mean unless the other guy is combatative and harsh then yeah, but even then let him know thats why if its really that bad a situation, its completely rude and unprofessional.
Unfortunately the world of writers is incredibly fickle and sometimes a little overly annal in who they write with or what their content is, thinking they know every person based off of previous situations that they don't give anyone a chance to actually grow and learn, some of us may be rough around the edges or different, but it dosen't make us bad or it appropriate to turn up your nose and ignore that person because they make or a mistake or missunderstood.
Unfortunately the world of writers is incredibly fickle and sometimes a little overly annal in who they write with or what their content is, thinking they know every person based off of previous situations that they don't give anyone a chance to actually grow and learn, some of us may be rough around the edges or different, but it dosen't make us bad or it appropriate to turn up your nose and ignore that person because they make or a mistake or missunderstood.
Yeah I have had the same issues, all from anon characters. People sadly just get board, and instead of trying to say something, they just press delete. Its sad, but people don't tend to think first. It is always a shame, more so like someone said, when you have a good rp going and they just cut and run with out as much as a thank you for rping or something lol
Raider-jack29 wrote:
And don't even get me started on those people who are clearly online, and have been for the majority of the day. That can't even give you a short reply.
Well..
Idle more and have like four different tabs up. But yeah.It is annoying.
I kind of have my own take on the subject, because I'm definitely the sort of person who cannot make promises with just about any kind of long-term commitment. Because of my clusterbomb of internal dramas, anhedonia conspires to suck the enthusiasm out of everything, and it dramatically lowers my tolerance for any kind of, like, high-effort activity. And what qualifies as high-effort really means anything beyond the excited planning stage of a roleplay. The second you face me with a first or second post, suddenly it's not fun anymore. Suddenly it's a chore. Suddenly I don't want to do it anymore. And no amount of forcing myself to do it anyways is gonna fix that (I should know, I had a group roleplay I'd been beating my head against the wall for six years before I finally allowed myself to give up).
And, yeah, it'd be nice to inform folks of that issue ahead of time, but a lot of folks don't realize this about themselves until years after it starts being a problem. And some folks could stand to let people know it's happening when they realize they're losing the motivation to go on, but the cost of explaining that and putting up with the thinly-veiled disappointment ("Oh, it's all right! Take care of yourself! //sigh") and wondering if you'll ever be able to write something with this great partner you almost created with — it all just boils down to "too much stress, not even gonna try" and you end up clean slating. You end up cutting all ties, deleting your account if you have to.
Because that's the only safe exit. It's the only out that doesn't involve you getting hurt. It's the only way to hide from the negativity of doing that to somebody, and you can pretend it's all okay.
And it's not okay, but this is why people do it. And I'm not saying the folks on the other end should just accept that, but I do think they should be more understanding of this behavior, because it is far too common. And I think if I trusted somebody to really, honestly be all right with my flakey behaviors (because I assure you, it's punishment enough not being able to roleplay with your friends whenever you want because your own brain is working against you), I'm probably a lot more likely to give them an explanation or even come back to try again.
Every once in a while something does stick. Even if it's a short li'l thing.
And, yeah, it'd be nice to inform folks of that issue ahead of time, but a lot of folks don't realize this about themselves until years after it starts being a problem. And some folks could stand to let people know it's happening when they realize they're losing the motivation to go on, but the cost of explaining that and putting up with the thinly-veiled disappointment ("Oh, it's all right! Take care of yourself! //sigh") and wondering if you'll ever be able to write something with this great partner you almost created with — it all just boils down to "too much stress, not even gonna try" and you end up clean slating. You end up cutting all ties, deleting your account if you have to.
Because that's the only safe exit. It's the only out that doesn't involve you getting hurt. It's the only way to hide from the negativity of doing that to somebody, and you can pretend it's all okay.
And it's not okay, but this is why people do it. And I'm not saying the folks on the other end should just accept that, but I do think they should be more understanding of this behavior, because it is far too common. And I think if I trusted somebody to really, honestly be all right with my flakey behaviors (because I assure you, it's punishment enough not being able to roleplay with your friends whenever you want because your own brain is working against you), I'm probably a lot more likely to give them an explanation or even come back to try again.
Every once in a while something does stick. Even if it's a short li'l thing.
I think what makes it the most awkward is when you are developing your character and using this rp to try and add to their history and character development and your rp partner just stops logging on, apparently.
I have about 8 rps that have stalled because the other person apparently just stopped logging on. I mean, shit, I understand people have technical issues, they lose interest for a while, RL comes up, etc.
But if we have this great rp going and I was gonna tie it in with my character and the other person flakes, I am not going to recommend them to my other rp partners, and if they message me back in the future I'll just ignore it.
Because I had to think of how to resolve the issue on my own, because they can't even message me like "Hey, I'm no longer interested, no longer able to rp, etc."
Plus, I do a lot of the work in my rps. Setting the scene, playing NPC's, etc. so whenever I am also doing a lot of mental work to make a good rp and then they flake out, with no warning, I am done, son.
I'm learning not to take it personally, but as someone with social anxiety and major depressive disorder who lives in a house with her mom and five kids while working grueling, 12 hour night shifts, I know that things can be tough.
But to me? It's still a matter of courtesy and respect. Guess it's just a side effect of being raised in the south.
I have about 8 rps that have stalled because the other person apparently just stopped logging on. I mean, shit, I understand people have technical issues, they lose interest for a while, RL comes up, etc.
But if we have this great rp going and I was gonna tie it in with my character and the other person flakes, I am not going to recommend them to my other rp partners, and if they message me back in the future I'll just ignore it.
Because I had to think of how to resolve the issue on my own, because they can't even message me like "Hey, I'm no longer interested, no longer able to rp, etc."
Plus, I do a lot of the work in my rps. Setting the scene, playing NPC's, etc. so whenever I am also doing a lot of mental work to make a good rp and then they flake out, with no warning, I am done, son.
I'm learning not to take it personally, but as someone with social anxiety and major depressive disorder who lives in a house with her mom and five kids while working grueling, 12 hour night shifts, I know that things can be tough.
But to me? It's still a matter of courtesy and respect. Guess it's just a side effect of being raised in the south.
dododonuts wrote:
I can totally sympathize with you! Out of nowhere about ten of my rp's have come to these sudden stops.
Asroc wrote:
It's a big petpeeve of mine.
Sometimes when I am in a good RP, the person never replies and they reply elsewhere. This was notorious on facebook where people would drop characters in the middle of a goodRp.
Sometimes when I am in a good RP, the person never replies and they reply elsewhere. This was notorious on facebook where people would drop characters in the middle of a goodRp.
Romluek wrote:
Really pisses me off! Especially when you have a good role-play going and then they do not respond so you go to message said person, especially if they have an anonymous character that has been deleted. A warning would have been nice beforehand
Raider-jack29 wrote:
And don't even get me started on those people who are clearly online, and have been for the majority of the day. That can't even give you a short reply.
Ricochett wrote:
I am honestly guilty of this on more than one account, but it was only after the rp had been dead for some time or my own partner had suddenly vanished. I mean, if I wanted to rp with you I would at least try to let you know whats up. Now I know real life can keep you away from rping sometimes too, but just saying. It kind of makes you feel like you weren't a good rper if someone just drops out of the rp suddenly without explanation. At least in my opinion.
Manofmanyfaces wrote:
I hate that!!!! Like they can't even stop and tell you what they did wrong (even if there wasn't to begin with.) hinestky, talk things out, don't just leave, I mean unless the other guy is combatative and harsh then yeah, but even then let him know thats why if its really that bad a situation, its completely rude and unprofessional.
Unfortunately the world of writers is incredibly fickle and sometimes a little overly anal in who they write with or what their content is, thinking they know every person based off of previous situations that they don't give anyone a chance to actually grow and learn, some of us may be rough around the edges or different, but it dosen't make us bad or it appropriate to turn up your nose and ignore that person because they make or a mistake or misunderstood.
Unfortunately the world of writers is incredibly fickle and sometimes a little overly anal in who they write with or what their content is, thinking they know every person based off of previous situations that they don't give anyone a chance to actually grow and learn, some of us may be rough around the edges or different, but it dosen't make us bad or it appropriate to turn up your nose and ignore that person because they make or a mistake or misunderstood.
Arkavious wrote:
Yeah I have had the same issues, all from anon characters. People sadly just get board, and instead of trying to say something, they just press delete. Its sad, but people don't tend to think first. It is always a shame, more so like someone said, when you have a good rp going and they just cut and run with out as much as a thank you for rping or something lol
Samster wrote:
I kind of have my own take on the subject, because I'm definitely the sort of person who cannot make promises with just about any kind of long-term commitment. Because of my clusterbomb of internal dramas, anhedonia conspires to suck the enthusiasm out of everything, and it dramatically lowers my tolerance for any kind of, like, high-effort activity. And what qualifies as high-effort really means anything beyond the excited planning stage of a roleplay. The second you face me with a first or second post, suddenly it's not fun anymore. Suddenly it's a chore. Suddenly I don't want to do it anymore. And no amount of forcing myself to do it anyways is gonna fix that (I should know, I had a group roleplay I'd been beating my head against the wall for six years before I finally allowed myself to give up).
And, yeah, it'd be nice to inform folks of that issue ahead of time, but a lot of folks don't realize this about themselves until years after it starts being a problem. And some folks could stand to let people know it's happening when they realize they're losing the motivation to go on, but the cost of explaining that and putting up with the thinly-veiled disappointment ("Oh, it's all right! Take care of yourself! //sigh") and wondering if you'll ever be able to write something with this great partner you almost created with — it all just boils down to "too much stress, not even gonna try" and you end up clean slating. You end up cutting all ties, deleting your account if you have to.
Because that's the only safe exit. It's the only out that doesn't involve you getting hurt. It's the only way to hide from the negativity of doing that to somebody, and you can pretend it's all okay.
And it's not okay, but this is why people do it. And I'm not saying the folks on the other end should just accept that, but I do think they should be more understanding of this behavior, because it is far too common. And I think if I trusted somebody to really, honestly be all right with my flakey behaviors (because I assure you, it's punishment enough not being able to roleplay with your friends whenever you want because your own brain is working against you), I'm probably a lot more likely to give them an explanation or even come back to try again.
Every once in a while something does stick. Even if it's a short li'l thing.
And, yeah, it'd be nice to inform folks of that issue ahead of time, but a lot of folks don't realize this about themselves until years after it starts being a problem. And some folks could stand to let people know it's happening when they realize they're losing the motivation to go on, but the cost of explaining that and putting up with the thinly-veiled disappointment ("Oh, it's all right! Take care of yourself! //sigh") and wondering if you'll ever be able to write something with this great partner you almost created with — it all just boils down to "too much stress, not even gonna try" and you end up clean slating. You end up cutting all ties, deleting your account if you have to.
Because that's the only safe exit. It's the only out that doesn't involve you getting hurt. It's the only way to hide from the negativity of doing that to somebody, and you can pretend it's all okay.
And it's not okay, but this is why people do it. And I'm not saying the folks on the other end should just accept that, but I do think they should be more understanding of this behavior, because it is far too common. And I think if I trusted somebody to really, honestly be all right with my flakey behaviors (because I assure you, it's punishment enough not being able to roleplay with your friends whenever you want because your own brain is working against you), I'm probably a lot more likely to give them an explanation or even come back to try again.
Every once in a while something does stick. Even if it's a short li'l thing.
I understand why people do it but that doesn't make it any less of a pet peeve.
See I'm not saying you have to reply to the RP especially if you are finding it hard to reply too. RP is meant to be fun not a chore after all. I'm saying its just polite to let someone know when you have lost interest or won't be replying again. Just as simple as saying "I have lost interest in this rp, thank you for rping with me enjoy your future rps!" You never have to speak to the person again or explain yourself just something small like that is nicer than disappearing completely. You don't have to do it but I just don't like it is all this post was about, not a call out or anything. I'm not forcing anyone to do it I'm just saying its polite. I ain't hating on anyone who does it.
Someone guilt tripping you because you said you want to stop is not okay and I am not endorsing that in the least its like shame on that person that is just rude and manipulative behaviour, someone can be sad about it but your partner does not have to rp with you they don't owe you anything just because you spend time on the rp.
And if someone does it to you they are poo heads . At least you have already stopped the rp so you can move on. You don't have to keep ties with everyone.
Janella Silentread wrote:
I think what makes it the most awkward is when you are developing your character and using this rp to try and add to their history and character development and your rp partner just stops logging on, apparently.
I have about 8 rps that have stalled because the other person apparently just stopped logging on. I mean, shit, I understand people have technical issues, they lose interest for a while, RL comes up, etc.
But if we have this great rp going and I was gonna tie it in with my character and the other person flakes, I am not going to recommend them to my other rp partners, and if they message me back in the future I'll just ignore it.
Because I had to think of how to resolve the issue on my own, because they can't even message me like "Hey, I'm no longer interested, no longer able to rp, etc."
Plus, I do a lot of the work in my rps. Setting the scene, playing NPC's, etc. so whenever I am also doing a lot of mental work to make a good rp and then they flake out, with no warning, I am done, son.
I'm learning not to take it personally, but as someone with social anxiety and major depressive disorder who lives in a house with her mom and five kids while working grueling, 12 hour night shifts, I know that things can be tough.
But to me? It's still a matter of courtesy and respect. Guess it's just a side effect of being raised in the south.
I have about 8 rps that have stalled because the other person apparently just stopped logging on. I mean, shit, I understand people have technical issues, they lose interest for a while, RL comes up, etc.
But if we have this great rp going and I was gonna tie it in with my character and the other person flakes, I am not going to recommend them to my other rp partners, and if they message me back in the future I'll just ignore it.
Because I had to think of how to resolve the issue on my own, because they can't even message me like "Hey, I'm no longer interested, no longer able to rp, etc."
Plus, I do a lot of the work in my rps. Setting the scene, playing NPC's, etc. so whenever I am also doing a lot of mental work to make a good rp and then they flake out, with no warning, I am done, son.
I'm learning not to take it personally, but as someone with social anxiety and major depressive disorder who lives in a house with her mom and five kids while working grueling, 12 hour night shifts, I know that things can be tough.
But to me? It's still a matter of courtesy and respect. Guess it's just a side effect of being raised in the south.
It's really annoying when you go to effort for them yeah like making an AU or changing some oc aspects and talking it all through to only be left cold turkey.
But I do understand tech difficulties and you can't blame people for not being able to long on. If they send you a message after like 4 months I think that is still nice of them they at least tried to clear it up and it was good of them to do so. I don't think ignoring them after that is very polite after they tried to tell you even if it wasn't before hand. I mean yes you don't have to rp with them ever again but at least they tried. But yeah its very much polite to say something before hand.
If I can see they haven't logged on I just shrug it off as technical issues or being busy.
But whenever I see them starting up rp with other people whenever they left mine unanswered and didn't answer a follow up message and it's been a month . . . not impressed.
Or if they have a problem, they can just tell me. I know it's easier to just flake, but you may have missed out on some great rp by
not just trying to communicate and put the rp on hold, change it, etc.
But whenever I see them starting up rp with other people whenever they left mine unanswered and didn't answer a follow up message and it's been a month . . . not impressed.
Or if they have a problem, they can just tell me. I know it's easier to just flake, but you may have missed out on some great rp by
not just trying to communicate and put the rp on hold, change it, etc.
Janella Silentread wrote:
If I can see they haven't logged on I just shrug it off as technical issues or being busy.
But whenever I see them starting up rp with other people whenever they left mine unanswered and didn't answer a follow up message and it's been a month . . . not impressed.
Or if they have a problem, they can just tell me. I know it's easier to just flake, but you may have missed out on some great rp by
not just trying to communicate and put the rp on hold, change it, etc.
But whenever I see them starting up rp with other people whenever they left mine unanswered and didn't answer a follow up message and it's been a month . . . not impressed.
Or if they have a problem, they can just tell me. I know it's easier to just flake, but you may have missed out on some great rp by
not just trying to communicate and put the rp on hold, change it, etc.
Ahhh I get ya, then yes totally understand not bothering to reply again if they have been online and didn't bother to contact you totally get that. And I agree you miss out lot if you just cut things off! Much easier just to let the person know
It happened to me and boy... left me with some mental anguish that is for sure x-x; This person and I would pretty much roleplay daily and we had thought out plots way in advance. Both our characters were deeply attached and I was to to this person. Suddenly, they stopped talking to me. Stopped getting in their character blog and began a new blog. That wouldn't have bothered me, but they just stopped all contact and started roleplaying with another person like I wasn't even there.
Hurts to lose a friend like that and I wasn't able to roleplay the character until now. Felt wrong, but, if I let them control me like that I'd never be able to have fun again. So I finally moved on. Yeah, I know people get bored or don't have muse anymore. Sometimes real life issues take hold, but... if you can't at least LET people know? That hurts worst of all. :C
Hurts to lose a friend like that and I wasn't able to roleplay the character until now. Felt wrong, but, if I let them control me like that I'd never be able to have fun again. So I finally moved on. Yeah, I know people get bored or don't have muse anymore. Sometimes real life issues take hold, but... if you can't at least LET people know? That hurts worst of all. :C
This just happened to me now! 
and im just left with like a weird feeling it was an annon character, and i Wish i could find the person behind it, like make them aware that i still really want to do the RP, but since the character is deleted, i can't reply
and im just left with like a weird feeling it was an annon character, and i Wish i could find the person behind it, like make them aware that i still really want to do the RP, but since the character is deleted, i can't reply
Milsen wrote:
This just happened to me now! and im just left with like a weird feeling it was an annon character, and i Wish i could find the person behind it, like make them aware that i still really want to do the RP, but since the character is deleted, i can't reply
and im just left with like a weird feeling it was an annon character, and i Wish i could find the person behind it, like make them aware that i still really want to do the RP, but since the character is deleted, i can't reply I have that alot. It kinda sucks because alot of the people I rp with I absolutely loved how they rped and stuff
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