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This is a thread I am starting for people to sort of express that they are going through struggles so that the community can kind of lift them up.

Today I need a hug because today I had to say goodbye to the my girlfriend who I dearly loved.. It was mutual, she is not dead.

I hope this thread helps others as well. Sharing in pain can sometimes be therapeutic.

HEY EVERYONE!

DOGPILE ON RYU!

*RPR community members come flying from every direction*

*flys in giving ryu a big old bear hug* Good idea Ryu. Here is some hugs from my heart to yours ^^

*gives all the hugs* I hope everything works out for you in the long run.

*patpat the ryu and give a hug*

Seriously though...

Breakups are really rough.

My biggest piece of advice is to take things at your own pace. Don't let people tell you what an appropriate recovery timeline is. Focus on doing whatever you need to in order to keep your productivity with school / work / whatever else you might be doing up. Do as much self care as you need. Reach out to people if you need company.

*points at Ben's second post* This. This is the most important thing to remember. I'm still going through the aftermath of a similar sort of breakup on my end, so I understand your pain as I'm still just a bit bitter about it. If you need anyone to talk to though, I'm here to at least provide an ear and all the friendly hugs I can muster!

*Perks ears up at the word 'dog pile'* o.0 *joins in the dogpile

This is a wonderful thread.

I know it’s kind of cheesy or dumb sounding, but I use it when I’m anywhere from mildly freaking out to devastated, to actual physical pain. I repeat it over and over again, and it helps me to believe it. So maybe someone will see this and try it and it will help them.
“You’re okay. Everything is going to be okay.”
And for the most part, it’s usually true.