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If it comes about via roleplay, I'd rather have it inferred that the characters got together, rather than actually roleplaying it out. Ain't my thing.

bro, if it happens it happens. so long as you don't find yourself or others trying make it so between characters i guess its okay. i mean if the characters click that well with each other, why not? remember there's always the option of implying two characters had sex. no need to go into specific detail or position they were in if you don't want to, lol.

Sex is there. I just don't feel comfortable RPing. So that's a big no. Like many people said before me, my characters are free to have their fun - but I, the player, usually just do a time skip or something.

I very rarely have characters who come to a point where they do have sex, even in very long-running games. I'm not much interested in RPing romance, so few of my more romantically-inclined characters, who would probably only want to have sex within a relationship, ever get that far. I'm willing to play romance, don't get me wrong. I just need there to be chemistry between my character and another to do it, and that rarely happens. Plus, a lot of my most-romantic characters have NPC spouses or other arrangements already, since I prefer to play older characters, and it makes no sense for those who would be interested in long-term romantic partnerships not to have them by, say, 40. I mean, I could have them be divorced or widowed or something, and a few are, but mostly... if they're married, it means I don't have to RP romance with them!

And my less-romantic characters rarely get any; I seem to usually be the only person playing the unromantic one-night-stand types of characters in a game, and when there is another, we often just handwave as "sure, Eri and Hali have slept together a dozen times and hit each other up when they're in a dry spell--now let's get back to fighting demons." ; I don't want to play out the sex, and in the few occasions when I have gotten characters into serious romances or sexual situations I always fade to black.

I also play lots and lots of asexual or "sex doesn't go there" characters. (Look at the two I already have on RPR, for example!) Even when I'm playing a sexual character, I'm asexual myself, so I often out-and-out forget that 99% of the world is made up of sexuals, and that there are needs and physical reactions involved with that. So a lot of my characters end up sharing my "[hobby/profession/saving the world] is rather more important than sex and romance, thank you" POV. It's something I probably need to work on characterization-wise, but honestly, I RP for fun, and I'm not going to force myself to RP out things that I don't find fun.

I'm actually surprised by how many people feel that sex for fun is a negative! Well, I agree that creation characters PURELY for sex is pretty silly but sex for the sake of fun isn't unheard of in the world. If two characters want to have a quick romp in the bushes before going back to work, that wouldn't really be a bad thing, would it? There is still some emotional play there but it could be a quick thrill. Not every sexual encounter is an epic hollywood-infused scene. Of corse, this only applies to those who are comfortable with type of thing!

Another interesting thing to me is the feelings that sexual RP being scandalous or "cheating" in some way. I'm married and I never really find myself feeling unfaithful for a few paragraphs of mature content. I've never up and said that I was about to play out sexual situations to him but he is often in the same room when I RP and I'm certain he's seen me writing things out (on top of me asking him for to spell things ) but still it's never been an issue. I know this is more of an individual thing but it still makes me ponder.

This confuses me also. While yes, characters are part of you, they should not BE you. I mean, my girlfriend reads my sexy roleplays(indeed, she LURKS them... she is reading over my shoulder now) if we are on the same site, and sometimes we roleplay it togeather.

For me at least, there's nothing wrong with that, I'm just more inclined to skip over that to get on with the story

I think it also depends on the age maturity here. I find that (at least in Furcadia) most of the younger members don't roleplay things like that and either do an implied scene or just work around it entirely. This isn't always the case, since I know at least one younger friend (who was probably 15-16 at the time) that really knows her way around sex rp. Heck, she's probably better than me! But that's just something I've noticed. I'm sure there are adults out there who aren't comfortable with the idea of sex rp too, but I haven't really met any. xD I think for me, I'd need a little more practice before being completely comfortable with it, and I'm 22! PFFFT.

Hmm. Interesting topic. For me, it really varies. Gadd is certaintly sexually active, but I am comfortable with his partner, so to speak. In truth, it depends on whether or not I am comfortable with the character I am using and the other character involved as well as the owner of that character. Then there are some characters I simply don't want to get into that stuff with (Lubeck, though that child is already screwed over). It all varies, but for me it is typically roleplayed out. I don't skip death scenes, just because they are gruesome, afterall.

A lot of my characters have a very childlike core, so they tend not to get very far on the 'getting laid' aspect of life. I've only ever had this problem for one or two characters. However, when it came to that, I actually find it kind of lulzy. Because of my characters and those played by my most common rp buddies, there's always somebody who's just kind of confused. In my roleplays I tend to just gloss over the actual going at it - though we do describe emotions and such, the terms for the actual act tend to be very vague.

As for whether rping sex is cheating, I don't think so. I mean, my girlfriend roleplays sex if it happens in the roleplay - and heck, I stalk her roleplays sometimes. I've never been worried or upset by it - I figure that as long as roleplay sex doesn't eclipse or affect you and your partner's desire for each other then it doesn't matter.

I can't do it. I have friends I know in Real life And I can roleplay it with them. But I just can't roleplay sex of any kinda with people I barley even know over the Internet, I tend to also panic for no reason at all when someone seems like they are going into the direction in a roleplay. Of course again, it only happens to people I dont know.

I'm so lame.

Sex rp can be fun, but too much of it just gets dull, boring and repetitive. Typically if its the first time the characters have ever had sex, Im fine with rping it out. If they are a couple? Maybe once in a while if its for a significant reason. Other than that I prefer to just be like "We can assume they shagged and then went to sleep" Its not a big deal for me to rp sex, which is why Im fine with it being just a fade to black, its just not that much of a huge thrill, unless there is something important tied into the storyline. I have much more fun with sexual tension between characters.. and it ending up not leading to sex.

Especially the bolded. Pulchra and her electric-fence crotch of doom, need I say more?

That sounds terrifying.

And hot.

Mental images of doom, here they come.

Hahaha. It's just a spellform that acts like a chastity belt with a really painful way of reminding certain involved persons that trying to get hot is, in fact, against the code of the Vestal virgins (as she is a mage, it was meant to stop after 300 years anyway, instead of the 30 years of service for a mortal).

"Sorry I'm saving myself for marriage. Also my junk is shadowform'd, so you'll need to grind up some resist gear before we can get it on. Nubcake."

I agree. Sexual tension is fun. I wish it was in more of my RPs than actual sex hahaha

Ooh, a chastity spell? I can think of a certain someone who could use that! Where can I buy it?

Sex in rp is as natural as sex in life.

That being said, I prefer the fade to black approach to sex 90% of the time, if it's just sex it doesn't need to be written, if it's not just sex then there's usually something more going on, and I'm fine with writing it.