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Hi gentlemens and womens...


I had run into very distasteful meetings and experiences those last dayum years of life, and I wanted to know if anyone of you happend to run into people who been deceiving you, not by lying, but just being who they are.

I know I got a problem, don't hit me, I'm not talking about perfection.

But, I was feeling it painfully this night, and I wish some people I met, that they never come back in my life, but they are here, and as I'm as stuck as possible right now, I can't move them out of my horizon.

So, if anyone wanted to share it's experience, and lift out a scratch from his heart, I wished to open this topic.


See you, and remember, even in real-time, have fun, and interesting lives! ~ :*

Hey, don’t lose too much sleep over it, my friend. There are some pretty crap people in this world and you’re bound to come across at least a couple in your lifetime. The best thing you can do is let it roll right off your shoulder and not give them any thought.

I’ve met my fair share of liars and people who have been shamelessly decieving towards me, as well. It especially hurt because I truly did think of them as friends. In the end, however, I realized that they just weren’t worth my thoughts or time and simply learned to let it go. There’s really nothing else you can do.

Of course, thoughts of the past will come back to you every once in awhile, but you just gotta remind yourself that you’re better off not worrying about it. After all, the past is the past, and going through such situations builds strength.

Thank you.
I got tired of one, I kept giving him hints abou how much he was bad, but well, he won't move his ass. I'll get over it, it's just I still have anger and justified anger about it, I'll have to get it out before breaking or turning the back. I mean at least, if not utterly breaking off, I'll have to get back to life.

It's not a relationship about boyfriend or girlfriend, it's plain about a guy who told and blabla, he was suppose to be a good friend, but no, forgets about that.

i knew a guy once upon a time that i took in because he was homeless and couch surfing and i thought i could help him. he was really fun to be around, but it was because he hid parts of himself from me; he's abusive, he's a felon and a drug junkie, and he doesn't really care about what happens to the people around him past the intellectual level. he's been arrested six times and he's literally only twenty years old or so.

he wanted to get better; every time i would talk to him at the level where he started to see what he'd need to do to do so, it'd amp him up, but all he'd do was think about it while he went around and shenanigans'd, and eventually he'd forget about it. i think about him a lot. he wasn't a bad person. one time i came home crying because of my workload and what someone had said to me and he got genuinely angry on my behalf and made me coffee and got me some food and tried to help me with my homework even though he had no idea what was going on. he'd fix whatever was broken around the apartment, he'd be genuinely bothered and sad and sorry if he couldn't pay his rent and was making me cover it, he respected my wishes not go out and party with him all the time and not to talk about it all that much bc i didn't want to hear abt it bc it was harmful to him.

but he also used people. he only wanted to be somewhere if it gave him a distraction, and he wouldn't give back in a relationship unless it catered to him in a way that he could cognitively recognize - which is a rare type of relationship in the first place for him. he drank if he was sad and he smoked if he was angry and one time he knocked himself out on my doorframe because he said that if he didn't that he would have hit me.

it's hard to have a long-lasting relationship with someone and not become attached, or somewhat fond of them - especially for me because i express affection and appreciation via time spent with a person. the same sentiment is true for pretty much everyone, though. i'm still not over him, and i'm not even entirely sure what that means yet - i feel like more could have been done, but i know that i did all that i would have and could have in my time; i feel like more can be done, but i'm scared to get involved again bc he's basically fallen off the deep end in his time away and i'm pretty sure reaching him on a genuine level would be next to impossible. he's also emotionally lazy; he wouldn't want me to reach him, and i don't have the right to fight someone to change them unless they're my immediate family.

so really, in short: people are stupid and if they want to be a part of your life then they'll be there. there's no use in fighting their habits, though, and as soon as they start to harm you in any way (emotionally, physically, situationally, environmentally) then start distancing yourself.

Hi,

You still seem pretty confuses, I'm not into that kind of relationship, well.

Are you still being shaken?

Hi,

Well, nothing changed.

Anyone else?

I had two such people, thankfully it was a purely online contacts, but we did videoconferences, so it was somewhat more personal, since we knew each other's real names and faces.
Well, these people constantly changed their opinions to those which fitted the situation most, they would easily side with someone if they feel like trying to get that someone to like them and then act like it didn't happen. They would also discuss you behind your back, switching their position on their opinion so you would look bad and they were in the right.
I stopped contacting them (but didn't block them), because discussions about their behavior lef nowhere and just gave them more ammunition to use against me.
They would do the same with other people if situation warranted it. I still don't understand what were they trying to gain, but I do not care anymore.

Well.

I see I'm not the only one (obviousl, but still, having exemples like that when you ask them feel different.) who came across such bee's hives.

Ever felt surrounded and trapped by guys you shouldn't have anything to do with?

Yeah, surrounded. It's good that I always had a chance to just get up and leave, so not trapped.

I don't feel I got the option, right now.
You're (been) better off than me right now, lol.

Hopefully it will be only surrouded, not trapped anymore, I really don't like that.

Definitly disgusted.

Thanks for those who shared their experiences. I guess there isn't anything to do about it, as weird as it could seems, I just hope to leave asap this hell-hole, as for situation and so, people around that I could met here.

Guys, who does not keep their promesses, or just, if I could start a flaw, not a flaw, it's isn't a flaw at this point, it's VICE list. Well, I'll rather just start to get out, far, far away, than star dirtying my mouth over them.

Can't believe what I've been experienced, I want my life back, with my people and friends back, just that, and everything shall be fine.

Erck.

Oh Lord forgive the words I'll speak on them behalf if I keep going at this. I'll definitly insult them, cause some deserves to be.