Forums » Smalltalk » When Someone Drops an RP...

So not like an extremely negative post, but I just had someone delete their character / page without notice? Perhaps they were deleted (but they seemed nice so I'm not sure if that would be it? Guess you never really know people tho)

Anyway, with such a sudden drop, it made me curious. How do y'all deal with this sort of thing when it happens? Do you let it just pass by or do you worry about it? How do you deal with that worry?


Right now I'm really unsure. I feel just a 'meh' sensation and a desire to start another RP in this one's place (I feel like that sounds bad lol)...



Anyway... small talk I guess? lol

Sorry that happened to you!

That's what I recommend, honestly, not much you can do about the other person >.<

I wouldn't let yourself worry about it too much. 99.9% of the time whatever happened, it was on their end and had nothing to do with you so you shouldn't take it personally. Best to let these things roll off your back and move on.

I know we all love our rps, but sometimes its good to take a step back and remember that loosing a partner isn't the end of our world, its just the end of that one little world and in our godlike way we can always conjure a new one.

Yeah, as of right now I'm not. There are a few RPs I have right now (one of them being yours huhuh) where, if they just dropped, I'd be super sad. This one was a fun one, but I'm not super worried about it.

But as of late I've been more 'meh' on a lot of things, so maybe it's a general mood as of late... idk lol
Usually I would worry that it was my fault, but this one isn't one of those (thank god lmao)

I will FIGHT someone POINT ME AT THEM AND I WILL FIGHT.

For real though. I'm sorry this happened. It's happened to me. And in my days of not being so confident and nice I did it to a few people. 😫 but I know it definitely wasn't your fault. 💕

Just think of all the other lovely hunnies you have to write. 😃

There are a bunch of reasons why people might suddenly drop an RP. Maybe they weren't feeling the RP any longer, and was afraid to hurt your feelings, maybe they have IRL problems or are just super busy. Maybe it's a shorter/longer hiatus. Maybe they deleted their character page to create more room for new characters, not necessarily dropping the RP. Perhaps they thought that they did post, but actually didn't.
The list could go on and on, but the only way for you to actually find out, is to write them a nice PM and ask what's up. It might bring you some peace of mind, but it also might not.

It sucks to have someone drop an RP, especially if it's one you're fond of, but it does happen from time to time. I find that the RPs that are most likely to last are those where I keep a somewhat active connection to the other player OOC. Just, you know, check in with them every once in a while and hear what's up. They might appreciate it, and you might gain a new friend!

Unfortunately they deleted their actual page / profile as well, otherwise I most definitely would

Unfortunately it happens.
I've been dropped by the same person several times and it's just frustrating. Honestly rather the person talk to me and say '' Hey man, I'm bored'' than just straight up leave.
Sometimes this even happens with discussions about rps as well and I never hear back. It's not that hard to just explain to the person what's going on and why they can't reply or continue on. It is common courtesy to explain to your rp partner what's happening. Be honest is all I ask. This really goes for all situations from rl and rp.

It's unfortunate that happened to you, but it's happened to everyone I know on this site.

If their account was deleted, it was something on their end. I've been on this site almost a year, and people have deleted their anonymous characters or their accounts entirely. Or they just never respond to me again and continue on the site.

When someone drops an rp, I am salty about it for a bit. Then I decide whether or not I want to add it to my character's history, or if I want to recycle the idea and try again with someone else. Then I move on. If I have another way of contacting them I will try, just to touch base. If it's clear they still want to roleplay, but just not with me, I avoid them from that time onward.

It sucks when it happens, but as someone who has done it myself, I have to at least say that it's not always on purpose, sometimes the fire goes out, or the person just doesn't have enough spoons to write as often as they'd like. For my part I at least try to inform the people I am rping with of my current mental state and predicament IRL so if I do drop off they at least have a reason behind it. I tend to have IRL things pop up that take a lot of my attention, and Being ADHD does tend to rob me of all of my ability to focus on other things that aren't at the forefront of my mind. So I'll drift in and out of rp moods based on my mental focus in a given month. Sometimes I can keep rps going for months with no issue, and then sometimes I can't even post a single sentence for months.

I've had several people drop me in the past. I've also dropped a few in the past. I think the worst is not knowing why. I am not calling any certain people out but it hurts. Simply have a better role-play next time! There is so much creativity out there and lives to enrich.

I've had it happen to me, but I've also dropped off a few times too. Sometimes people just get burnt out or maybe they are busy or xx thing, maybe they're dating someone who doesn't "get it" and have a hard time finding the time to log in. You never know. What is kind of scary is when someone drops and nobody knows what happened to them. I message them every so often in case they are still around but yeah, I have a few friends who have told me they're frustrated and decide to drop.

Having been writing RP since 1999, I always found the sudden loss of a great writer grievious and sometimes upsetting. It's happened more times than I would care to count. Most of the time I never heard from the writer again, but sometimes I've made contact some time later.

Also, at one point in my RP life, I had to drop out suddenly due to some real life drama. It's been my experience that ninty nine percent of the time, someone dropping out of RP and out of their identity on sites has to do with two scenarios. One is they are too wrapped up in the fantasy and RP consumes more and more of life, like an addiction, and they drop it cold turkey. Two is they are involved with the stories so deep that it starts to affect relationships in real life. They get caught out and have to bail out suddenly. That is my theory based on my experience. There are likly many other reasons. I've learned not to get too wrapped up with other writers. When an RP is peaking and it suddenly stops due to a primary writer dropout, I wrap up the tale usually with the death or disappearance of my character.