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This topic is not about me spilling my heart out. No one needs to feel bad or worried about me, I'm fine and I know that whom I've lost wouldn't want me wallowing in eternal sadness. I'm not going to say "Don't type I'm sorry for your lost," I'm just saying you don't need to write a paragraph about loss. I'm seriously okay, using my memories about my loss to make me happy about the time spent, rather than tearful.

One of my best friends died at the age of 13, and her birthday is on August 15th. I really want to do something with the two other best friends of my life to commemorate the occasion, but I don't want something too heavy hearted but not effortless too. I also can't have anything too big, because we're all on a budget. I really want this to be special, and I'd really appreciate helpful ideas. Either way, thanks for reading.

Well I don't know if any of these toe the line into heavy, but maybe go do something together that your friend liked to do with you guys? Or you could go someplace they liked/wanted to go and take pictures to put in an album/scrapbook you and your other two friends put together, if any of you are into those kinds of crafting.

It could be fun to go on a hike/walking trip around town, stopping for lunch or dinner at someplace y'all like. Just, y'know, sharing those memories of your friend together while you do so. Then all you have to worry about, budget-wise, are water, snacks, gas (if you need to drive to get there) or fare for public transit, and a single meal together.

Ooo! That sounds an amazingly awesome idea! It's something I can easily imagine us all doing. Thanks for the idea!

I like Forta-ver's idea. The only thing I can think to add is listening to good music y'all all liked? That might be heavy, idk. Music is emotional for me but can enhance the meaningfulness of a get-together, at least for me. I really like Forta-ver's idea of leaving the event with something y'all have created together. Like a scrapbook. Some people will plant a tree and stuff, in someone's honor, but that takes money...and land and shovels, so I like Forta-ver's idea best. Maybe y'all could make a collage of pictures on posterboard or something to hang somewhere. Good luck and it's nice of you to plan this for your friends. And yep sorry for your loss. There I didn't go on a tangent.

Forta has a good idea. Rejoice in the memories of your friend and treasure them forever.
And the tree-planting is a great idea! I did that in honour of a friend who died in a car accident.
May your friend rest in Peace, and may you always remember the good times!