I'm home with an annoying cold, so I was thinking of things to do, and this survey started to take shape in my mind...enjoy.
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media, or is that kind of love a shallow myth?
I think so, but I think for a relationship to work you have to have that feeling plus commitment plus other stuff like shared values and enjoyments
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I don't know, and I'm wondering where the line is. My best guess is that a crush can happen before you know someone deeply but once you know someone deeply and still feel weak in the knees at their smile and get this high, and elation, from their attention, but you love the deeper things about them too, that's love...and I think the crushy stuff does die down, the weak in the knees elation, it does die down after a while but you're left with a love of the deeper things about that person, even if the shallow things don't give you a high like in the crush phase. I think.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Friendship is like a campfire, romance is like a wild fire. Lol. I don't know. Romance makes you see that person differently. Like in Les Mis the song "On My Own" where it says:
In the rain, the pavement shines like silver
All the lights are misty in the river
In the darkness, the trees are full of starlight.......
I love him
But when the night is over,
He is gone
The river's just a river
Without him
The world around me changes
The trees are bare and everywhere
The streets are full of strangers
When you're with a friend, it makes everything different too, but when you're with someone you have a crush on or are in love with, it's like things sparkle more. Sparkle with significance. Or something.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes. I think if you're in a relationship and you have a crush on a celebrity or something, with no intention of pursuing it, that is a harmless crush. However, if it makes someone jealous or hurt, then it's harmful, even if you have no intention or way to pursue it (such as, say, a crush on JFK or something).
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
They make you laugh
They make you feel understood
They want what you want
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
A night out at a play
A vacation
Chocolate
7. Which two are most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
For me? Physical touch and words of affirmation
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
CVS employee to my cousin: lol
"Here you go, Miss. A coupon printed on the back of your receipt for 2 dollars off anything in the store. But you can't use it on makeup."
"Why, the coupon doesn't work on cosmetics?"
"No, because you don't need any make-up. You're already beautiful."
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
"I don't know, I guess I fidget a lot because I need something to do with my hands."
"I can give you something to do with your hands."
(Groaaaan)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
No, I don't, because you can only be loving the shallow parts of them then. You don't know them yet, how can you be in love?
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media, or is that kind of love a shallow myth?
I think so, but I think for a relationship to work you have to have that feeling plus commitment plus other stuff like shared values and enjoyments
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I don't know, and I'm wondering where the line is. My best guess is that a crush can happen before you know someone deeply but once you know someone deeply and still feel weak in the knees at their smile and get this high, and elation, from their attention, but you love the deeper things about them too, that's love...and I think the crushy stuff does die down, the weak in the knees elation, it does die down after a while but you're left with a love of the deeper things about that person, even if the shallow things don't give you a high like in the crush phase. I think.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Friendship is like a campfire, romance is like a wild fire. Lol. I don't know. Romance makes you see that person differently. Like in Les Mis the song "On My Own" where it says:
In the rain, the pavement shines like silver
All the lights are misty in the river
In the darkness, the trees are full of starlight.......
I love him
But when the night is over,
He is gone
The river's just a river
Without him
The world around me changes
The trees are bare and everywhere
The streets are full of strangers
When you're with a friend, it makes everything different too, but when you're with someone you have a crush on or are in love with, it's like things sparkle more. Sparkle with significance. Or something.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes. I think if you're in a relationship and you have a crush on a celebrity or something, with no intention of pursuing it, that is a harmless crush. However, if it makes someone jealous or hurt, then it's harmful, even if you have no intention or way to pursue it (such as, say, a crush on JFK or something).
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
They make you laugh
They make you feel understood
They want what you want
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
A night out at a play
A vacation
Chocolate
7. Which two are most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
For me? Physical touch and words of affirmation
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
CVS employee to my cousin: lol
"Here you go, Miss. A coupon printed on the back of your receipt for 2 dollars off anything in the store. But you can't use it on makeup."
"Why, the coupon doesn't work on cosmetics?"
"No, because you don't need any make-up. You're already beautiful."
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
"I don't know, I guess I fidget a lot because I need something to do with my hands."
"I can give you something to do with your hands."
(Groaaaan)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
No, I don't, because you can only be loving the shallow parts of them then. You don't know them yet, how can you be in love?
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media, or is that kind of love a shallow myth?
Personally, I say it's a mix. I'm young, and know absolutely nothing of the world and what it means to love someone other than friends and family. But from what I've seen and heard, Hollywood romance is out there, for those lucky few. Who knows? Maybe it's all Hollywood love if you look at it a certain way. But at the same time, it seems shallow...no one can fall in love within 10 days time, can they? You barely know each other. *side eyes How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days* And yet, here I am writing that sort of stuff because I'm a hopeless romantic and really want to love someone and be loved in return.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
My mom once told me that a crush is called a crush because you often feel crushed if said person does not feel the same way for you. Love, I think...I think it's something deeper than the giddy feeling of seeing that person walk by. I don't know how to explain it (again, little to no experience), but I feel like it would be less...desperate? I think that's what I'm looking for. I think it's absolute trust that the person will be with you to the end of your days.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
GAH. Okay, two things: a non deep quote, and my thoughts.
Quote: There's a difference between boy friend and boyfriend. There's a little space between it, called the friendzone. DUN DUN DUNNNNNNNN.
My thoughts:
I think there's a lot of things. Friends are someone you can rely on, have fun with. They're funny, but you can trust that you can fall back on them.
Romance...eesh. My idea of romance is Pride and Prejudice (may or may not be obsessed with that book.). It's slow. It's witty. It creeps up on you. It does something to your life different than what friendship can do. Does that make sense?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
No. I have learned from experience that there is no such thing. Somehow, some way, it'll come back to bite you. Take my very first homecoming in 9th grade. I had a crush on a boy named Ryan (not his real name) years ago. Well, a girl I hadn't seen in ages ran up to me at the dance and asked if I'd like to dance with him. I no longer had a crush on him, but to get the girl to shut up, I told her yes. (Very bad decision on my part.) Let's just say things got super awkward, and I can't even get on social media without seeing his face and cringing.
I think (possibly) the only harmless crushes are fictional characters. I only say possibly because I obsess over them more than I do real people, and I don't think it's very healthy...
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
- Truthfulness
-Loyalty
- Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
- Time
- BOOKS
- Marathons of all the nerdy things
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Ooh, I took a quiz for this once. My main is physical touch, but quality time is a very close second.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
"If you were words on a page, you'd be FINE print."
I just find it cheesy and hilarious.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Okay, this one was so bad it's good...this happened at HeroCon when I dropped my phone and shattered it. (Bleeping out words...)
Me: God $#@! me up the !@#
Random Wolverine cosplayer: God won't, but I will!
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
NO.
Look, if you're falling for someone for freaking looks, you're doing it all wrong. Looks are a bonus. Let me put this out there: IF YOU LOVE THEM, YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. BECAUSE IN YOUR EYES, THEY ARE PERFECT.
I know I don't know much about love, and haven't really had much experience. This is just my two cents.
Personally, I say it's a mix. I'm young, and know absolutely nothing of the world and what it means to love someone other than friends and family. But from what I've seen and heard, Hollywood romance is out there, for those lucky few. Who knows? Maybe it's all Hollywood love if you look at it a certain way. But at the same time, it seems shallow...no one can fall in love within 10 days time, can they? You barely know each other. *side eyes How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days* And yet, here I am writing that sort of stuff because I'm a hopeless romantic and really want to love someone and be loved in return.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
My mom once told me that a crush is called a crush because you often feel crushed if said person does not feel the same way for you. Love, I think...I think it's something deeper than the giddy feeling of seeing that person walk by. I don't know how to explain it (again, little to no experience), but I feel like it would be less...desperate? I think that's what I'm looking for. I think it's absolute trust that the person will be with you to the end of your days.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
GAH. Okay, two things: a non deep quote, and my thoughts.
Quote: There's a difference between boy friend and boyfriend. There's a little space between it, called the friendzone. DUN DUN DUNNNNNNNN.
My thoughts:
I think there's a lot of things. Friends are someone you can rely on, have fun with. They're funny, but you can trust that you can fall back on them.
Romance...eesh. My idea of romance is Pride and Prejudice (may or may not be obsessed with that book.). It's slow. It's witty. It creeps up on you. It does something to your life different than what friendship can do. Does that make sense?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
No. I have learned from experience that there is no such thing. Somehow, some way, it'll come back to bite you. Take my very first homecoming in 9th grade. I had a crush on a boy named Ryan (not his real name) years ago. Well, a girl I hadn't seen in ages ran up to me at the dance and asked if I'd like to dance with him. I no longer had a crush on him, but to get the girl to shut up, I told her yes. (Very bad decision on my part.) Let's just say things got super awkward, and I can't even get on social media without seeing his face and cringing.
I think (possibly) the only harmless crushes are fictional characters. I only say possibly because I obsess over them more than I do real people, and I don't think it's very healthy...
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
- Truthfulness
-Loyalty
- Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
- Time
- BOOKS
- Marathons of all the nerdy things
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Ooh, I took a quiz for this once. My main is physical touch, but quality time is a very close second.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
"If you were words on a page, you'd be FINE print."
I just find it cheesy and hilarious.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Okay, this one was so bad it's good...this happened at HeroCon when I dropped my phone and shattered it. (Bleeping out words...)
Me: God $#@! me up the !@#
Random Wolverine cosplayer: God won't, but I will!
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
NO.
Look, if you're falling for someone for freaking looks, you're doing it all wrong. Looks are a bonus. Let me put this out there: IF YOU LOVE THEM, YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. BECAUSE IN YOUR EYES, THEY ARE PERFECT.
I know I don't know much about love, and haven't really had much experience. This is just my two cents.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Some people fall in love quicker than others, others slower; some people fall in love simply by hanging out on a constant basis, others fall in love over the course of years only spending a day or two around each other every other week or month. I think when it comes to falling love the media portrays it in many different ways; I do think that in movies it's often quicker than not, but that's still possible yes.
One thing I wish is that there were more realistic and positive representations of polyamory.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
A crush you can just get over fairly easily. I've told crushes I had a crush on them and eventually got over it; but when I personally am in love, it's very difficult to get over. Once the relationship is over, it takes forever and ever to finally come to terms with things, and not be in love anymore. With a crush it only takes me a few months really after being rejected or accepting that it's unrealistic.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
There's not much of a difference; they are pretty intertwined. I think the biggest difference for me is physical affection like kissing, and being in love; but even that is kind of conflicting depending on how someone does things. Plenty of people; including me, do romantic things with people that are just friends. Most of my friendships are also romances in a sense, but not in the typical way that people are used to. I'd guess for me, a committed romance that is completely separate from friendship contains a lot more possessiveness and jealousy, and expectations of physical intimacy which I am uncomfortable with. I struggle with that personally. I do much easier at this stage of my life with pressure-less romantic friendships with no expectations of intimacy; but all the love and support.
Not sure that makes sense.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
All crushes are harmless. (except specific circumstances) You know? So I've never understood that saying. Having a crush never hurt anyone unless it's like someone underage and an adult, or something like that.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me:
Kindness.
Having common interests.
Understanding of my intimacy boundaries.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Flowers.
Books.
Something alluding to something in the past of your relationship. (IE a dvd, a cd, concert ticket, painting, photograph, necklace with some sentimental value)
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
[It was too hard to chose just one, even just choosing two was hard haha. I wanted to chose like four]
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Absolutely no pick up line lol.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
You have child bearing hips. (like WHAT. jeez.)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do, but I think it's really rare we ever see or meet that person again. I definitely think we have multiple soulmates, and several of them are meant for only seeing once in our lives. Just to give us spark of hope and adrenalin and get us moving out butts. I know for my personally when I saw this one woman as she was leaving the grocery store and I was, and we both looked at each other, I knew I was in love with her right in that second; but I kept walking. Seeing her that day prompted something in me that hadn't been there before; and I don't think she was meant to ever be in a relationship with me, I think we were both meant to glance into each others eyes, and spark something in each other - then never see each other again.
Some people fall in love quicker than others, others slower; some people fall in love simply by hanging out on a constant basis, others fall in love over the course of years only spending a day or two around each other every other week or month. I think when it comes to falling love the media portrays it in many different ways; I do think that in movies it's often quicker than not, but that's still possible yes.
One thing I wish is that there were more realistic and positive representations of polyamory.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
A crush you can just get over fairly easily. I've told crushes I had a crush on them and eventually got over it; but when I personally am in love, it's very difficult to get over. Once the relationship is over, it takes forever and ever to finally come to terms with things, and not be in love anymore. With a crush it only takes me a few months really after being rejected or accepting that it's unrealistic.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
There's not much of a difference; they are pretty intertwined. I think the biggest difference for me is physical affection like kissing, and being in love; but even that is kind of conflicting depending on how someone does things. Plenty of people; including me, do romantic things with people that are just friends. Most of my friendships are also romances in a sense, but not in the typical way that people are used to. I'd guess for me, a committed romance that is completely separate from friendship contains a lot more possessiveness and jealousy, and expectations of physical intimacy which I am uncomfortable with. I struggle with that personally. I do much easier at this stage of my life with pressure-less romantic friendships with no expectations of intimacy; but all the love and support.
Not sure that makes sense.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
All crushes are harmless. (except specific circumstances) You know? So I've never understood that saying. Having a crush never hurt anyone unless it's like someone underage and an adult, or something like that.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me:
Kindness.
Having common interests.
Understanding of my intimacy boundaries.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Flowers.
Books.
Something alluding to something in the past of your relationship. (IE a dvd, a cd, concert ticket, painting, photograph, necklace with some sentimental value)
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
[It was too hard to chose just one, even just choosing two was hard haha. I wanted to chose like four]
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Absolutely no pick up line lol.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
You have child bearing hips. (like WHAT. jeez.)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do, but I think it's really rare we ever see or meet that person again. I definitely think we have multiple soulmates, and several of them are meant for only seeing once in our lives. Just to give us spark of hope and adrenalin and get us moving out butts. I know for my personally when I saw this one woman as she was leaving the grocery store and I was, and we both looked at each other, I knew I was in love with her right in that second; but I kept walking. Seeing her that day prompted something in me that hadn't been there before; and I don't think she was meant to ever be in a relationship with me, I think we were both meant to glance into each others eyes, and spark something in each other - then never see each other again.
damnationfromafar wrote:
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Some people fall in love quicker than others, others slower; some people fall in love simply by hanging out on a constant basis, others fall in love over the course of years only spending a day or two around each other every other week or month. I think when it comes to falling love the media portrays it in many different ways; I do think that in movies it's often quicker than not, but that's still possible yes.
One thing I wish is that there were more realistic and positive representations of polyamory.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
A crush you can just get over fairly easily. I've told crushes I had a crush on them and eventually got over it; but when I personally am in love, it's very difficult to get over. Once the relationship is over, it takes forever and ever to finally come to terms with things, and not be in love anymore. With a crush it only takes me a few months really after being rejected or accepting that it's unrealistic.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
There's not much of a difference; they are pretty intertwined. I think the biggest difference for me is physical affection like kissing, and being in love; but even that is kind of conflicting depending on how someone does things. Plenty of people; including me, do romantic things with people that are just friends. Most of my friendships are also romances in a sense, but not in the typical way that people are used to. I'd guess for me, a committed romance that is completely separate from friendship contains a lot more possessiveness and jealousy, and expectations of physical intimacy which I am uncomfortable with. I struggle with that personally. I do much easier at this stage of my life with pressure-less romantic friendships with no expectations of intimacy; but all the love and support.
Not sure that makes sense.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
All crushes are harmless. (except specific circumstances) You know? So I've never understood that saying. Having a crush never hurt anyone unless it's like someone underage and an adult, or something like that.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me:
Kindness.
Having common interests.
Understanding of my intimacy boundaries.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Flowers.
Books.
Something alluding to something in the past of your relationship. (IE a dvd, a cd, concert ticket, painting, photograph, necklace with some sentimental value)
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
[It was too hard to chose just one, even just choosing two was hard haha. I wanted to chose like four]
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Absolutely no pick up line lol.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
You have child bearing hips. (like WHAT. jeez.)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do, but I think it's really rare we ever see or meet that person again. I definitely think we have multiple soulmates, and several of them are meant for only seeing once in our lives. Just to give us spark of hope and adrenalin and get us moving out butts. I know for my personally when I saw this one woman as she was leaving the grocery store and I was, and we both looked at each other, I knew I was in love with her right in that second; but I kept walking. Seeing her that day prompted something in me that hadn't been there before; and I don't think she was meant to ever be in a relationship with me, I think we were both meant to glance into each others eyes, and spark something in each other - then never see each other again.
Some people fall in love quicker than others, others slower; some people fall in love simply by hanging out on a constant basis, others fall in love over the course of years only spending a day or two around each other every other week or month. I think when it comes to falling love the media portrays it in many different ways; I do think that in movies it's often quicker than not, but that's still possible yes.
One thing I wish is that there were more realistic and positive representations of polyamory.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
A crush you can just get over fairly easily. I've told crushes I had a crush on them and eventually got over it; but when I personally am in love, it's very difficult to get over. Once the relationship is over, it takes forever and ever to finally come to terms with things, and not be in love anymore. With a crush it only takes me a few months really after being rejected or accepting that it's unrealistic.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
There's not much of a difference; they are pretty intertwined. I think the biggest difference for me is physical affection like kissing, and being in love; but even that is kind of conflicting depending on how someone does things. Plenty of people; including me, do romantic things with people that are just friends. Most of my friendships are also romances in a sense, but not in the typical way that people are used to. I'd guess for me, a committed romance that is completely separate from friendship contains a lot more possessiveness and jealousy, and expectations of physical intimacy which I am uncomfortable with. I struggle with that personally. I do much easier at this stage of my life with pressure-less romantic friendships with no expectations of intimacy; but all the love and support.
Not sure that makes sense.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
All crushes are harmless. (except specific circumstances) You know? So I've never understood that saying. Having a crush never hurt anyone unless it's like someone underage and an adult, or something like that.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me:
Kindness.
Having common interests.
Understanding of my intimacy boundaries.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Flowers.
Books.
Something alluding to something in the past of your relationship. (IE a dvd, a cd, concert ticket, painting, photograph, necklace with some sentimental value)
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
[It was too hard to chose just one, even just choosing two was hard haha. I wanted to chose like four]
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Absolutely no pick up line lol.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
You have child bearing hips. (like WHAT. jeez.)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do, but I think it's really rare we ever see or meet that person again. I definitely think we have multiple soulmates, and several of them are meant for only seeing once in our lives. Just to give us spark of hope and adrenalin and get us moving out butts. I know for my personally when I saw this one woman as she was leaving the grocery store and I was, and we both looked at each other, I knew I was in love with her right in that second; but I kept walking. Seeing her that day prompted something in me that hadn't been there before; and I don't think she was meant to ever be in a relationship with me, I think we were both meant to glance into each others eyes, and spark something in each other - then never see each other again.
Damnationfromafar, that was SO interesting to read. And yeah, I totally know what you mean by romantic friendships with no pressure for intimacy. It does make sense. In fact, I feel that way about some of my friendships. I don't know if we're defining romance or intimacy the same way but what I mean when I'm thinking of it, is, like a romantic friendship would be terms of endearment (hey beautiful, hey love, hey sweetie, and so on...just almost like as a self esteem building thing, but also in kind of an "I adore you," kind of a way, but not a sexual thing.). And then, for me, a romantic sort of friendship includes like.. not sexual intimacy, but physical intimacy such as hugs, things like that. And also at times gifts. I can't tell you how many times I've made someone a mixed CD with songs that are "our songs" from the friendship or songs that describe how much I care about that person as a friend and I've always thought that type of gift that I give to friends had a romantic quality to it...maybe because people don't give me things like that unless they were dating me, yet I am driven to give things like that to dear friends and it's romantic, in a way. There's an intensity to it. I'm trying to "woo" them, in a way, but in a non-sexual way. It all does sound odd but I know exactly what ya mean!!!!
This was so great! I enjoyed reading this!
. <-- I feel like there's still a lot of insight in these answers. We writers are careful observers and we think about things so maybe that's why you seem to know something about this topic and have some insight into it.
Skrifa wrote:
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media, or is that kind of love a shallow myth?
Personally, I say it's a mix. I'm young, and know absolutely nothing of the world and what it means to love someone other than friends and family. But from what I've seen and heard, Hollywood romance is out there, for those lucky few. Who knows? Maybe it's all Hollywood love if you look at it a certain way. But at the same time, it seems shallow...no one can fall in love within 10 days time, can they? You barely know each other. *side eyes How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days* And yet, here I am writing that sort of stuff because I'm a hopeless romantic and really want to love someone and be loved in return.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
My mom once told me that a crush is called a crush because you often feel crushed if said person does not feel the same way for you. Love, I think...I think it's something deeper than the giddy feeling of seeing that person walk by. I don't know how to explain it (again, little to no experience), but I feel like it would be less...desperate? I think that's what I'm looking for. /b]I think it's absolute trust that the person will be with you to the end of your days.[b <-- See this last sentence right here. That's such a pretty sentence. That kind of stuff is why I like this girl's writing.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
GAH. Okay, two things: a non deep quote, and my thoughts.
Quote: There's a difference between boy friend and boyfriend. There's a little space between it, called the friendzone. DUN DUN DUNNNNNNNN. <-- Loving the quote.
My thoughts:
I think there's a lot of things. Friends are someone you can rely on, have fun with. They're funny, but you can trust that you can fall back on them.
Romance...eesh. My idea of romance is Pride and Prejudice (may or may not be obsessed with that book.). It's slow. It's witty. It creeps up on you. It does something to your life different than what friendship can do. Does that make sense?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
No. I have learned from experience that there is no such thing. Somehow, some way, it'll come back to bite you. Take my very first homecoming in 9th grade. I had a crush on a boy named Ryan (not his real name) years ago. Well, a girl I hadn't seen in ages ran up to me at the dance and asked if I'd like to dance with him. I no longer had a crush on him, but to get the girl to shut up, I told her yes. (Very bad decision on my part.) Let's just say things got super awkward, and I can't even get on social media without seeing his face and cringing.
I think (possibly) the only harmless crushes are fictional characters. I only say possibly because I obsess over them more than I do real people, and I don't think it's very healthy...
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
- Truthfulness
-Loyalty
- Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
- Time
- BOOKS
- Marathons of all the nerdy things
Yesh.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Ooh, I took a quiz for this once. My main is physical touch, but quality time is a very close second.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
"If you were words on a page, you'd be FINE print."
I just find it cheesy and hilarious.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Okay, this one was so bad it's good...this happened at HeroCon when I dropped my phone and shattered it. (Bleeping out words...)
Me: God $#@! me up the !@#
Random Wolverine cosplayer: God won't, but I will!
You're right. That is so bad that it's good.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
NO.
Look, if you're falling for someone for freaking looks, you're doing it all wrong. Looks are a bonus. Let me put this out there: IF YOU LOVE THEM, YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. BECAUSE IN YOUR EYES, THEY ARE PERFECT.
I know I don't know much about love, and haven't really had much experience. This is just my two cents.
Personally, I say it's a mix. I'm young, and know absolutely nothing of the world and what it means to love someone other than friends and family. But from what I've seen and heard, Hollywood romance is out there, for those lucky few. Who knows? Maybe it's all Hollywood love if you look at it a certain way. But at the same time, it seems shallow...no one can fall in love within 10 days time, can they? You barely know each other. *side eyes How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days* And yet, here I am writing that sort of stuff because I'm a hopeless romantic and really want to love someone and be loved in return.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
My mom once told me that a crush is called a crush because you often feel crushed if said person does not feel the same way for you. Love, I think...I think it's something deeper than the giddy feeling of seeing that person walk by. I don't know how to explain it (again, little to no experience), but I feel like it would be less...desperate? I think that's what I'm looking for. /b]I think it's absolute trust that the person will be with you to the end of your days.[b <-- See this last sentence right here. That's such a pretty sentence. That kind of stuff is why I like this girl's writing.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
GAH. Okay, two things: a non deep quote, and my thoughts.
Quote: There's a difference between boy friend and boyfriend. There's a little space between it, called the friendzone. DUN DUN DUNNNNNNNN. <-- Loving the quote.
My thoughts:
I think there's a lot of things. Friends are someone you can rely on, have fun with. They're funny, but you can trust that you can fall back on them.
Romance...eesh. My idea of romance is Pride and Prejudice (may or may not be obsessed with that book.). It's slow. It's witty. It creeps up on you. It does something to your life different than what friendship can do. Does that make sense?
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
No. I have learned from experience that there is no such thing. Somehow, some way, it'll come back to bite you. Take my very first homecoming in 9th grade. I had a crush on a boy named Ryan (not his real name) years ago. Well, a girl I hadn't seen in ages ran up to me at the dance and asked if I'd like to dance with him. I no longer had a crush on him, but to get the girl to shut up, I told her yes. (Very bad decision on my part.) Let's just say things got super awkward, and I can't even get on social media without seeing his face and cringing.
I think (possibly) the only harmless crushes are fictional characters. I only say possibly because I obsess over them more than I do real people, and I don't think it's very healthy...
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
- Truthfulness
-Loyalty
- Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
- Time
- BOOKS
- Marathons of all the nerdy things
Yesh.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Ooh, I took a quiz for this once. My main is physical touch, but quality time is a very close second.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
"If you were words on a page, you'd be FINE print."
I just find it cheesy and hilarious.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Okay, this one was so bad it's good...this happened at HeroCon when I dropped my phone and shattered it. (Bleeping out words...)
Me: God $#@! me up the !@#
Random Wolverine cosplayer: God won't, but I will!
You're right. That is so bad that it's good.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
NO.
Look, if you're falling for someone for freaking looks, you're doing it all wrong. Looks are a bonus. Let me put this out there: IF YOU LOVE THEM, YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT THEIR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. BECAUSE IN YOUR EYES, THEY ARE PERFECT.
I know I don't know much about love, and haven't really had much experience. This is just my two cents.
It's nearing 2am so why not ey?
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Well, yes- in the sense that like, I'm pretty sure it has and will continue to happen. I don't think it's something everyone will experience but at the same time, I think true love does end in similar ways to media. Certain media. Not all media. Duh.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
There is one quote I believe fits well: The different between being in love to having a crush is simple- if they get a haircut and you don't feel attracted anymore, it's a crush.
Or at least, it goes like that anyway.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Well, friends are people you enjoy spending time with, people you'll do stuff for and who'll do stuff for you. Romance is an expansion of friendship. It's all the same, except this person is essentially your best friend. You want to spend time with your friends, yes, but your partner, your best friend, they're someone you want to spend all your time with. They give you true purpose.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah. I mean, most crushes are just lil fantasies that keep us going in life.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, respect and honesty. One could argue that respect falls under loyalty but just 'cuz I can respect a guy don't mean I'd follow him and his views, y'know?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I know I should just answer the question the best I can, although I don't really know what to say. I've never really understood the concept of romantic gifts so I'll just say what I think would be really cool
-some sort of thing that represents your relationship, maybe even if it's some sort of gag item. Like, for example, my parents have this lil joke that's been spanning for like, a decade or two- I don't understand it myself but basically it's about a wooden monkey. So my mum got my dad the monkey and he was just blown away. It might seem dumb to us onlookers but like, it's something special between them.
-bubble bath stuff. I know that going from special lil item things to bubble bath bomb solution whatever it's called is pretty dumb, but boi that stuff is fun and just imagine chilling in the bath with your loved one surrounded in bubbles. Light some candles and boom atmosphere is golden. You guys can just go 'haha splash splash' and it's just good
-unique, personally crafted items. Be it carved from wood or blown from glass, if you can make something, even if small, for your loved one it just becomes so much more personal. Bonus points if you develop it purely for them.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
can I choose a and c because while the other stuff is really great and still kind of needed (especially e), I feel like, personally, I tend to favour those two. Maybe even just, uh, c, on itself.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I don't really know honestly
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Same for this? I like, I dunno. Pick up lines aren't frequent in my area and I can't recall really any that doesn't involve angels and cheesy pokemon puns
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really. Attraction, maybe, but love is a deeper, complex emotion than that. Love is something that is strong and persistent, it's a force that can influence and change people in drastic ways. A small glance does not evoke such enormous feelings, unless you're a disney princess. Then I guess you can get away with it.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Well, yes- in the sense that like, I'm pretty sure it has and will continue to happen. I don't think it's something everyone will experience but at the same time, I think true love does end in similar ways to media. Certain media. Not all media. Duh.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
There is one quote I believe fits well: The different between being in love to having a crush is simple- if they get a haircut and you don't feel attracted anymore, it's a crush.
Or at least, it goes like that anyway.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Well, friends are people you enjoy spending time with, people you'll do stuff for and who'll do stuff for you. Romance is an expansion of friendship. It's all the same, except this person is essentially your best friend. You want to spend time with your friends, yes, but your partner, your best friend, they're someone you want to spend all your time with. They give you true purpose.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah. I mean, most crushes are just lil fantasies that keep us going in life.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, respect and honesty. One could argue that respect falls under loyalty but just 'cuz I can respect a guy don't mean I'd follow him and his views, y'know?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I know I should just answer the question the best I can, although I don't really know what to say. I've never really understood the concept of romantic gifts so I'll just say what I think would be really cool
-some sort of thing that represents your relationship, maybe even if it's some sort of gag item. Like, for example, my parents have this lil joke that's been spanning for like, a decade or two- I don't understand it myself but basically it's about a wooden monkey. So my mum got my dad the monkey and he was just blown away. It might seem dumb to us onlookers but like, it's something special between them.
-bubble bath stuff. I know that going from special lil item things to bubble bath bomb solution whatever it's called is pretty dumb, but boi that stuff is fun and just imagine chilling in the bath with your loved one surrounded in bubbles. Light some candles and boom atmosphere is golden. You guys can just go 'haha splash splash' and it's just good
-unique, personally crafted items. Be it carved from wood or blown from glass, if you can make something, even if small, for your loved one it just becomes so much more personal. Bonus points if you develop it purely for them.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
can I choose a and c because while the other stuff is really great and still kind of needed (especially e), I feel like, personally, I tend to favour those two. Maybe even just, uh, c, on itself.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I don't really know honestly
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Same for this? I like, I dunno. Pick up lines aren't frequent in my area and I can't recall really any that doesn't involve angels and cheesy pokemon puns
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really. Attraction, maybe, but love is a deeper, complex emotion than that. Love is something that is strong and persistent, it's a force that can influence and change people in drastic ways. A small glance does not evoke such enormous feelings, unless you're a disney princess. Then I guess you can get away with it.
SINDragon wrote:
It's nearing 2am so why not ey?
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Well, yes- in the sense that like, I'm pretty sure it has and will continue to happen. I don't think it's something everyone will experience but at the same time, I think true love does end in similar ways to media. Certain media. Not all media. Duh.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
There is one quote I believe fits well: The different between being in love to having a crush is simple- if they get a haircut and you don't feel attracted anymore, it's a crush.
Or at least, it goes like that anyway.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Well, friends are people you enjoy spending time with, people you'll do stuff for and who'll do stuff for you. Romance is an expansion of friendship. It's all the same, except this person is essentially your best friend. You want to spend time with your friends, yes, but your partner, your best friend, they're someone you want to spend all your time with. They give you true purpose.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah. I mean, most crushes are just lil fantasies that keep us going in life.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, respect and honesty. One could argue that respect falls under loyalty but just 'cuz I can respect a guy don't mean I'd follow him and his views, y'know?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I know I should just answer the question the best I can, although I don't really know what to say. I've never really understood the concept of romantic gifts so I'll just say what I think would be really cool
-some sort of thing that represents your relationship, maybe even if it's some sort of gag item. Like, for example, my parents have this lil joke that's been spanning for like, a decade or two- I don't understand it myself but basically it's about a wooden monkey. So my mum got my dad the monkey and he was just blown away. It might seem dumb to us onlookers but like, it's something special between them.
-bubble bath stuff. I know that going from special lil item things to bubble bath bomb solution whatever it's called is pretty dumb, but boi that stuff is fun and just imagine chilling in the bath with your loved one surrounded in bubbles. Light some candles and boom atmosphere is golden. You guys can just go 'haha splash splash' and it's just good
-unique, personally crafted items. Be it carved from wood or blown from glass, if you can make something, even if small, for your loved one it just becomes so much more personal. Bonus points if you develop it purely for them.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
can I choose a and c because while the other stuff is really great and still kind of needed (especially e), I feel like, personally, I tend to favour those two. Maybe even just, uh, c, on itself.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I don't really know honestly
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Same for this? I like, I dunno. Pick up lines aren't frequent in my area and I can't recall really any that doesn't involve angels and cheesy pokemon puns
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really. Attraction, maybe, but love is a deeper, complex emotion than that. Love is something that is strong and persistent, it's a force that can influence and change people in drastic ways. A small glance does not evoke such enormous feelings, unless you're a disney princess. Then I guess you can get away with it.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Well, yes- in the sense that like, I'm pretty sure it has and will continue to happen. I don't think it's something everyone will experience but at the same time, I think true love does end in similar ways to media. Certain media. Not all media. Duh.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
There is one quote I believe fits well: The different between being in love to having a crush is simple- if they get a haircut and you don't feel attracted anymore, it's a crush.
Or at least, it goes like that anyway.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Well, friends are people you enjoy spending time with, people you'll do stuff for and who'll do stuff for you. Romance is an expansion of friendship. It's all the same, except this person is essentially your best friend. You want to spend time with your friends, yes, but your partner, your best friend, they're someone you want to spend all your time with. They give you true purpose.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah. I mean, most crushes are just lil fantasies that keep us going in life.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, respect and honesty. One could argue that respect falls under loyalty but just 'cuz I can respect a guy don't mean I'd follow him and his views, y'know?
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I know I should just answer the question the best I can, although I don't really know what to say. I've never really understood the concept of romantic gifts so I'll just say what I think would be really cool
-some sort of thing that represents your relationship, maybe even if it's some sort of gag item. Like, for example, my parents have this lil joke that's been spanning for like, a decade or two- I don't understand it myself but basically it's about a wooden monkey. So my mum got my dad the monkey and he was just blown away. It might seem dumb to us onlookers but like, it's something special between them.
-bubble bath stuff. I know that going from special lil item things to bubble bath bomb solution whatever it's called is pretty dumb, but boi that stuff is fun and just imagine chilling in the bath with your loved one surrounded in bubbles. Light some candles and boom atmosphere is golden. You guys can just go 'haha splash splash' and it's just good
-unique, personally crafted items. Be it carved from wood or blown from glass, if you can make something, even if small, for your loved one it just becomes so much more personal. Bonus points if you develop it purely for them.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
can I choose a and c because while the other stuff is really great and still kind of needed (especially e), I feel like, personally, I tend to favour those two. Maybe even just, uh, c, on itself.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I don't really know honestly
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Same for this? I like, I dunno. Pick up lines aren't frequent in my area and I can't recall really any that doesn't involve angels and cheesy pokemon puns
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really. Attraction, maybe, but love is a deeper, complex emotion than that. Love is something that is strong and persistent, it's a force that can influence and change people in drastic ways. A small glance does not evoke such enormous feelings, unless you're a disney princess. Then I guess you can get away with it.
Haha...I enjoyed reading these answers.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I don’t watch enough romance films to say for sure whether I believe in it or not...but if you are talking about things like true love or romantic unconditional love between partners....I don’t believe in it, because while it would be amazing if it is true, in this world of ours, that is just a recipe to getting taken advantaged of hahaa
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I am not sure if there is any big difference between the two other than, when you love someone, it would for sure last longer than just a crush. To me, a crush is when you are attracted to them only physically and only know the outward persona they show to the world. When you love someone, I guess, you would find ways to accept and love them no matter how much they irritate you or when their opinions clashes against yours.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Between friends, you lack the romantic, sexual attraction you have to a romantic partner I suppose. That is all that is different, for me at least.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes, as long as you don’t do anything drastic in the name of said crush, and admire them from a good distance away, then it is perfectly safe. You might be tempted to look in their direction instead of the task at hand, and would try to talk to them but end up too nervous to anyways and just stumble on your words- those are perfectly harmless things I think. ^^
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
-Honesty, empathy, responsibility, there is no going around that. You wouldn’t want to end up with some sexually transmitted disease to realise that your partner has been cheating on you, you definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone that is dead-er than a brick and isn’t concerned about how you feel and you definitely don’t want to end up as a single parent after you got a bit risky with your irresponsible partner or end up broke, living in an alley somewhere because of how irresponsible your partner is with your finances.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Spending quality time with each other, is definitely a good way to express your love for each other in a more subtle and not to over-the-top way. Bonus if there is dinner.
Getting them something that they have been eyeing for a long time, but did not mention even once. Nothing is more touching when you realise that they have been so attentive and caring about you after all- or that they just got hypersensitive to your reactions because it is getting close to your birthday and they are out of ideas for a gift, it still means that they are attentive to you.
Getting a pet together, or hell, succulents for all I care. It might be cheesy and overused, but it symbolises that they are interested in sticking around for a long time- whether or not that changes in the future is debateable but at that moment, when they present their gift to you, they definitely have that on their mind.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Because im a hikkikomori on my best days...
“If only to pull you up, I am willing to storm those three teams even with a UZI.” -a friend on PUBG
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
“ ( whistling) Nice, be my girlfriend.” -Random Dude on the street
(Though, to be honest, I am not even sure if this is a pick-up line)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really; because in the end if it is going to be a long-term thing, then it can’t possibly be based on appearance alone. To me, it is only love when even after going through all the bullshit with each other and seeing each other studying last minute for exams and break character in front of friends and knowing that they ain’t getting a cent out of the nonexistent life insurance, they still stick around and love you.
I don’t watch enough romance films to say for sure whether I believe in it or not...but if you are talking about things like true love or romantic unconditional love between partners....I don’t believe in it, because while it would be amazing if it is true, in this world of ours, that is just a recipe to getting taken advantaged of hahaa
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I am not sure if there is any big difference between the two other than, when you love someone, it would for sure last longer than just a crush. To me, a crush is when you are attracted to them only physically and only know the outward persona they show to the world. When you love someone, I guess, you would find ways to accept and love them no matter how much they irritate you or when their opinions clashes against yours.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Between friends, you lack the romantic, sexual attraction you have to a romantic partner I suppose. That is all that is different, for me at least.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes, as long as you don’t do anything drastic in the name of said crush, and admire them from a good distance away, then it is perfectly safe. You might be tempted to look in their direction instead of the task at hand, and would try to talk to them but end up too nervous to anyways and just stumble on your words- those are perfectly harmless things I think. ^^
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
-Honesty, empathy, responsibility, there is no going around that. You wouldn’t want to end up with some sexually transmitted disease to realise that your partner has been cheating on you, you definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone that is dead-er than a brick and isn’t concerned about how you feel and you definitely don’t want to end up as a single parent after you got a bit risky with your irresponsible partner or end up broke, living in an alley somewhere because of how irresponsible your partner is with your finances.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Spending quality time with each other, is definitely a good way to express your love for each other in a more subtle and not to over-the-top way. Bonus if there is dinner.
Getting them something that they have been eyeing for a long time, but did not mention even once. Nothing is more touching when you realise that they have been so attentive and caring about you after all- or that they just got hypersensitive to your reactions because it is getting close to your birthday and they are out of ideas for a gift, it still means that they are attentive to you.
Getting a pet together, or hell, succulents for all I care. It might be cheesy and overused, but it symbolises that they are interested in sticking around for a long time- whether or not that changes in the future is debateable but at that moment, when they present their gift to you, they definitely have that on their mind.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Because im a hikkikomori on my best days...
“If only to pull you up, I am willing to storm those three teams even with a UZI.” -a friend on PUBG
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
“ ( whistling) Nice, be my girlfriend.” -Random Dude on the street
(Though, to be honest, I am not even sure if this is a pick-up line)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really; because in the end if it is going to be a long-term thing, then it can’t possibly be based on appearance alone. To me, it is only love when even after going through all the bullshit with each other and seeing each other studying last minute for exams and break character in front of friends and knowing that they ain’t getting a cent out of the nonexistent life insurance, they still stick around and love you.
Birdy99 wrote:
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I don’t watch enough romance films to say for sure whether I believe in it or not...but if you are talking about things like true love or romantic unconditional love between partners....I don’t believe in it, because while it would be amazing if it is true, in this world of ours, that is just a recipe to getting taken advantaged of hahaa
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I am not sure if there is any big difference between the two other than, when you love someone, it would for sure last longer than just a crush. To me, a crush is when you are attracted to them only physically and only know the outward persona they show to the world. When you love someone, I guess, you would find ways to accept and love them no matter how much they irritate you or when their opinions clashes against yours.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Between friends, you lack the romantic, sexual attraction you have to a romantic partner I suppose. That is all that is different, for me at least.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes, as long as you don’t do anything drastic in the name of said crush, and admire them from a good distance away, then it is perfectly safe. You might be tempted to look in their direction instead of the task at hand, and would try to talk to them but end up too nervous to anyways and just stumble on your words- those are perfectly harmless things I think. ^^
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
-Honesty, empathy, responsibility, there is no going around that. You wouldn’t want to end up with some sexually transmitted disease to realise that your partner has been cheating on you, you definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone that is dead-er than a brick and isn’t concerned about how you feel and you definitely don’t want to end up as a single parent after you got a bit risky with your irresponsible partner or end up broke, living in an alley somewhere because of how irresponsible your partner is with your finances.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Spending quality time with each other, is definitely a good way to express your love for each other in a more subtle and not to over-the-top way. Bonus if there is dinner.
Getting them something that they have been eyeing for a long time, but did not mention even once. Nothing is more touching when you realise that they have been so attentive and caring about you after all- or that they just got hypersensitive to your reactions because it is getting close to your birthday and they are out of ideas for a gift, it still means that they are attentive to you.
Getting a pet together, or hell, succulents for all I care. It might be cheesy and overused, but it symbolises that they are interested in sticking around for a long time- whether or not that changes in the future is debateable but at that moment, when they present their gift to you, they definitely have that on their mind.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Because im a hikkikomori on my best days...
“If only to pull you up, I am willing to storm those three teams even with a UZI.” -a friend on PUBG
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
“ ( whistling) Nice, be my girlfriend.” -Random Dude on the street
(Though, to be honest, I am not even sure if this is a pick-up line)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really; because in the end if it is going to be a long-term thing, then it can’t possibly be based on appearance alone. To me, it is only love when even after going through all the bullshit with each other and seeing each other studying last minute for exams and break character in front of friends and knowing that they ain’t getting a cent out of the nonexistent life insurance, they still stick around and love you.
I don’t watch enough romance films to say for sure whether I believe in it or not...but if you are talking about things like true love or romantic unconditional love between partners....I don’t believe in it, because while it would be amazing if it is true, in this world of ours, that is just a recipe to getting taken advantaged of hahaa
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I am not sure if there is any big difference between the two other than, when you love someone, it would for sure last longer than just a crush. To me, a crush is when you are attracted to them only physically and only know the outward persona they show to the world. When you love someone, I guess, you would find ways to accept and love them no matter how much they irritate you or when their opinions clashes against yours.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Between friends, you lack the romantic, sexual attraction you have to a romantic partner I suppose. That is all that is different, for me at least.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes, as long as you don’t do anything drastic in the name of said crush, and admire them from a good distance away, then it is perfectly safe. You might be tempted to look in their direction instead of the task at hand, and would try to talk to them but end up too nervous to anyways and just stumble on your words- those are perfectly harmless things I think. ^^
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
-Honesty, empathy, responsibility, there is no going around that. You wouldn’t want to end up with some sexually transmitted disease to realise that your partner has been cheating on you, you definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone that is dead-er than a brick and isn’t concerned about how you feel and you definitely don’t want to end up as a single parent after you got a bit risky with your irresponsible partner or end up broke, living in an alley somewhere because of how irresponsible your partner is with your finances.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Spending quality time with each other, is definitely a good way to express your love for each other in a more subtle and not to over-the-top way. Bonus if there is dinner.
Getting them something that they have been eyeing for a long time, but did not mention even once. Nothing is more touching when you realise that they have been so attentive and caring about you after all- or that they just got hypersensitive to your reactions because it is getting close to your birthday and they are out of ideas for a gift, it still means that they are attentive to you.
Getting a pet together, or hell, succulents for all I care. It might be cheesy and overused, but it symbolises that they are interested in sticking around for a long time- whether or not that changes in the future is debateable but at that moment, when they present their gift to you, they definitely have that on their mind.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Because im a hikkikomori on my best days...
“If only to pull you up, I am willing to storm those three teams even with a UZI.” -a friend on PUBG
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
“ ( whistling) Nice, be my girlfriend.” -Random Dude on the street
(Though, to be honest, I am not even sure if this is a pick-up line)
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Not really; because in the end if it is going to be a long-term thing, then it can’t possibly be based on appearance alone. To me, it is only love when even after going through all the bullshit with each other and seeing each other studying last minute for exams and break character in front of friends and knowing that they ain’t getting a cent out of the nonexistent life insurance, they still stick around and love you.
I like your answers, Birdy99. There's some very romantic stuff in there! awwww
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Thank you for something to do tonight!
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I think it's far more complicated than the media portrays it to be. There's work involved, and sometimes that gets presented as a montage of awkward dates when in reality it's a lot of communication and fumbling conversationally to get to each step along the way. I think too that Movies and Television and even books don't do a very good job of representing all the different ways people fall in love, every single day. Not all of us meet our someone at the grocery store or in our first grade class. A lot of us do bump into each other, and then some of us meet on dating apps or at the club, not looking for anything important but finding it nonetheless.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I read on some psychology website that the true difference is that crushes will last a few months and fizzle out naturally, or become infatuation which often becomes unhealthy and is also shortlived, or become love. The difference is usually the amount of work involved between both parties.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I am still trying to figure that one out myself. I'm happily married to the most amazing man, but it's hard to tell where our friendship ends and the romance begins. I'm not even sure they exist separately, but have kind of morphed into this big best friends/lovers blob of mushy feelings. I do think however that while you may not fall in love with all your friends in a romantic way- you do end up falling in love with them. And I'm of the personal opinion that love cannot exist at all without a friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Umm...I choose to believe so. Because no one is going to stop me having a crush on several HGTV stars.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, Trust, Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Love letters are at the top of my list, followed by jewelry or other pretty things.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Words of affirmation and acts of service. I crave being told I'm pretty and loved by my husband. I couldn't really care less if anyone else thinks so, but knowing he does makes my world make sense. And someone else doing the dishes is probably my most favorite thing ever.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
In a grocery store, looking at the deli case a guy walked up to me:
Him: I don't think you'll find what you're looking for in there.
Me: What? Why not?
Him: Because I'm standing over here.
I just stared at him wide eyed until he laughed and introduced himself.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Him: Did it hurt?
Me: Did what hurt?
Him: When you fell from heaven.
((
Yes apparently people actually say that one out loud.))
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do. But it isn't something you realize, in my opinion, as love. When I first met my husband we sat and talked and I felt something I didn't recognize. I didn't know what it was I felt but I knew I had to keep dating him until I figured it out. There was just something else there I couldn't name. I think that's how love at first sight works, not as this amazing moment of realizing you're in love with a stranger, but meeting a stranger you can't forget or let go of.
Thank you for something to do tonight!
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I think it's far more complicated than the media portrays it to be. There's work involved, and sometimes that gets presented as a montage of awkward dates when in reality it's a lot of communication and fumbling conversationally to get to each step along the way. I think too that Movies and Television and even books don't do a very good job of representing all the different ways people fall in love, every single day. Not all of us meet our someone at the grocery store or in our first grade class. A lot of us do bump into each other, and then some of us meet on dating apps or at the club, not looking for anything important but finding it nonetheless.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I read on some psychology website that the true difference is that crushes will last a few months and fizzle out naturally, or become infatuation which often becomes unhealthy and is also shortlived, or become love. The difference is usually the amount of work involved between both parties.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I am still trying to figure that one out myself. I'm happily married to the most amazing man, but it's hard to tell where our friendship ends and the romance begins. I'm not even sure they exist separately, but have kind of morphed into this big best friends/lovers blob of mushy feelings. I do think however that while you may not fall in love with all your friends in a romantic way- you do end up falling in love with them. And I'm of the personal opinion that love cannot exist at all without a friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Umm...I choose to believe so. Because no one is going to stop me having a crush on several HGTV stars.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, Trust, Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Love letters are at the top of my list, followed by jewelry or other pretty things.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Words of affirmation and acts of service. I crave being told I'm pretty and loved by my husband. I couldn't really care less if anyone else thinks so, but knowing he does makes my world make sense. And someone else doing the dishes is probably my most favorite thing ever.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
In a grocery store, looking at the deli case a guy walked up to me:
Him: I don't think you'll find what you're looking for in there.
Me: What? Why not?
Him: Because I'm standing over here.
I just stared at him wide eyed until he laughed and introduced himself.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Him: Did it hurt?
Me: Did what hurt?
Him: When you fell from heaven.
((
Yes apparently people actually say that one out loud.))10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do. But it isn't something you realize, in my opinion, as love. When I first met my husband we sat and talked and I felt something I didn't recognize. I didn't know what it was I felt but I knew I had to keep dating him until I figured it out. There was just something else there I couldn't name. I think that's how love at first sight works, not as this amazing moment of realizing you're in love with a stranger, but meeting a stranger you can't forget or let go of.
Selkieborn wrote:
I really love surveys
Thank you for something to do tonight!
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I think it's far more complicated than the media portrays it to be. There's work involved, and sometimes that gets presented as a montage of awkward dates when in reality it's a lot of communication and fumbling conversationally to get to each step along the way. I think too that Movies and Television and even books don't do a very good job of representing all the different ways people fall in love, every single day. Not all of us meet our someone at the grocery store or in our first grade class. A lot of us do bump into each other, and then some of us meet on dating apps or at the club, not looking for anything important but finding it nonetheless.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I read on some psychology website that the true difference is that crushes will last a few months and fizzle out naturally, or become infatuation which often becomes unhealthy and is also shortlived, or become love. The difference is usually the amount of work involved between both parties.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I am still trying to figure that one out myself. I'm happily married to the most amazing man, but it's hard to tell where our friendship ends and the romance begins. I'm not even sure they exist separately, but have kind of morphed into this big best friends/lovers blob of mushy feelings. I do think however that while you may not fall in love with all your friends in a romantic way- you do end up falling in love with them. And I'm of the personal opinion that love cannot exist at all without a friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Umm...I choose to believe so. Because no one is going to stop me having a crush on several HGTV stars.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, Trust, Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Love letters are at the top of my list, followed by jewelry or other pretty things.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Words of affirmation and acts of service. I crave being told I'm pretty and loved by my husband. I couldn't really care less if anyone else thinks so, but knowing he does makes my world make sense. And someone else doing the dishes is probably my most favorite thing ever.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
In a grocery store, looking at the deli case a guy walked up to me:
Him: I don't think you'll find what you're looking for in there.
Me: What? Why not?
Him: Because I'm standing over here.
I just stared at him wide eyed until he laughed and introduced himself.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Him: Did it hurt?
Me: Did what hurt?
Him: When you fell from heaven.
(( Yes apparently people actually say that one out loud.))
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do. But it isn't something you realize, in my opinion, as love. When I first met my husband we sat and talked and I felt something I didn't recognize. I didn't know what it was I felt but I knew I had to keep dating him until I figured it out. There was just something else there I couldn't name. I think that's how love at first sight works, not as this amazing moment of realizing you're in love with a stranger, but meeting a stranger you can't forget or let go of.
Thank you for something to do tonight!
Questions
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I think it's far more complicated than the media portrays it to be. There's work involved, and sometimes that gets presented as a montage of awkward dates when in reality it's a lot of communication and fumbling conversationally to get to each step along the way. I think too that Movies and Television and even books don't do a very good job of representing all the different ways people fall in love, every single day. Not all of us meet our someone at the grocery store or in our first grade class. A lot of us do bump into each other, and then some of us meet on dating apps or at the club, not looking for anything important but finding it nonetheless.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I read on some psychology website that the true difference is that crushes will last a few months and fizzle out naturally, or become infatuation which often becomes unhealthy and is also shortlived, or become love. The difference is usually the amount of work involved between both parties.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I am still trying to figure that one out myself. I'm happily married to the most amazing man, but it's hard to tell where our friendship ends and the romance begins. I'm not even sure they exist separately, but have kind of morphed into this big best friends/lovers blob of mushy feelings. I do think however that while you may not fall in love with all your friends in a romantic way- you do end up falling in love with them. And I'm of the personal opinion that love cannot exist at all without a friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Umm...I choose to believe so. Because no one is going to stop me having a crush on several HGTV stars.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, Trust, Patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Love letters are at the top of my list, followed by jewelry or other pretty things.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Words of affirmation and acts of service. I crave being told I'm pretty and loved by my husband. I couldn't really care less if anyone else thinks so, but knowing he does makes my world make sense. And someone else doing the dishes is probably my most favorite thing ever.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
In a grocery store, looking at the deli case a guy walked up to me:
Him: I don't think you'll find what you're looking for in there.
Me: What? Why not?
Him: Because I'm standing over here.
I just stared at him wide eyed until he laughed and introduced himself.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Him: Did it hurt?
Me: Did what hurt?
Him: When you fell from heaven.
((
Yes apparently people actually say that one out loud.))10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I do. But it isn't something you realize, in my opinion, as love. When I first met my husband we sat and talked and I felt something I didn't recognize. I didn't know what it was I felt but I knew I had to keep dating him until I figured it out. There was just something else there I couldn't name. I think that's how love at first sight works, not as this amazing moment of realizing you're in love with a stranger, but meeting a stranger you can't forget or let go of.
Wow, I really love your answers. And yep sure, your welcome for giving you all something to do. It gives me something fun to do to read the answers.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Not as portrayed by the media. I think the media has a very skewed view on what healthy and normal relationships look like, and falling in love happens in so many ways that are never represented that I can't say I do.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Finding yourself knowing what kind of person they are, what their hopes and dreams are, knowing their flaws and loving those too (as part of normal human life, you can still dislike a flaw but accept that we all have flaws and still love the person with their flaws). A crush is falling for an idea of a person, before you know much of anything about them, and pursuing getting to know more about them. A crush either develops into love once you get to know them, or you fall out of the crush when reality hits about the person's flaws and you can't get past them.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Not a whole lot. I think any good romance needs friendship as a foundation. Romance is an addition, like topping on ice cream. The difference is only valuable to set boundaries between the way you express your love for people. AKA I love my friends as much as I love my partner, but I don't do certain things with friends because I want to only share those things with the one person I choose to be with. The underlying love is so similar it's hard to differentiate for me.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah, I think so! I think it's natural to be captivated by an idea of someone, as long as you don't hurt anyone in the process.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Honesty, the ability to communicate, the desire to always be a better you.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I don't have a top three. My only requirement is that the person wants to give me those things for no reason other than 'this reminded me of you' or 'I want you to treat yourself today'. The most romantic gifts are no-strings attached and spontaneous.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
C, physical touch. Whether I'm arguing with my partner, having a good time, deathly ill or otherwise, it hurts me the most to be denied a hug or a kiss and it helps me the most to get these things.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
That one I heard a while back and swore I'd never forget, but then forgot.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
All of them actually. I think pickup lines are terrible, people aren't objects you order and then pick up. You interact and connect with them!
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I'd have to say no. I believe in instant connections at first sight, but you can't love someone until you know who they are. You can crush at first sight though!
I think a lot of people mistake physical attraction with love. There's nothing wrong with physical attraction, but just be honest about how you feel and don't turn it into something it's not. It hurts a lot of people to say you love them when really what you wanted was a brief fling or comfort or something along those lines.
Not as portrayed by the media. I think the media has a very skewed view on what healthy and normal relationships look like, and falling in love happens in so many ways that are never represented that I can't say I do.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Finding yourself knowing what kind of person they are, what their hopes and dreams are, knowing their flaws and loving those too (as part of normal human life, you can still dislike a flaw but accept that we all have flaws and still love the person with their flaws). A crush is falling for an idea of a person, before you know much of anything about them, and pursuing getting to know more about them. A crush either develops into love once you get to know them, or you fall out of the crush when reality hits about the person's flaws and you can't get past them.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Not a whole lot. I think any good romance needs friendship as a foundation. Romance is an addition, like topping on ice cream. The difference is only valuable to set boundaries between the way you express your love for people. AKA I love my friends as much as I love my partner, but I don't do certain things with friends because I want to only share those things with the one person I choose to be with. The underlying love is so similar it's hard to differentiate for me.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah, I think so! I think it's natural to be captivated by an idea of someone, as long as you don't hurt anyone in the process.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Honesty, the ability to communicate, the desire to always be a better you.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
I don't have a top three. My only requirement is that the person wants to give me those things for no reason other than 'this reminded me of you' or 'I want you to treat yourself today'. The most romantic gifts are no-strings attached and spontaneous.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
C, physical touch. Whether I'm arguing with my partner, having a good time, deathly ill or otherwise, it hurts me the most to be denied a hug or a kiss and it helps me the most to get these things.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
That one I heard a while back and swore I'd never forget, but then forgot.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
All of them actually. I think pickup lines are terrible, people aren't objects you order and then pick up. You interact and connect with them!
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
I'd have to say no. I believe in instant connections at first sight, but you can't love someone until you know who they are. You can crush at first sight though!
I think a lot of people mistake physical attraction with love. There's nothing wrong with physical attraction, but just be honest about how you feel and don't turn it into something it's not. It hurts a lot of people to say you love them when really what you wanted was a brief fling or comfort or something along those lines.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
It really depends on what kind of media. I am a sucker for some romance tropes, sure, though after going through some of my fair share of romances and finally being in a relationship that I enjoy, my fiancé can affirm that when I play a game, read a story, or watch a show or movie that I have some major critiques on how characters fall in love with one another.
There are a lot of relationships in media that do not actually really showcase being in a healthy relationship, and are actually really toxic for one or both people. Also, the way that some media just... rushes some romances? It really bothers me. Like, I get that it's for the sake of brevity, but rushing it always seems so shoehorned or forced more times than not.
It really depends on what kind of media. I am a sucker for some romance tropes, sure, though after going through some of my fair share of romances and finally being in a relationship that I enjoy, my fiancé can affirm that when I play a game, read a story, or watch a show or movie that I have some major critiques on how characters fall in love with one another.
There are a lot of relationships in media that do not actually really showcase being in a healthy relationship, and are actually really toxic for one or both people. Also, the way that some media just... rushes some romances? It really bothers me. Like, I get that it's for the sake of brevity, but rushing it always seems so shoehorned or forced more times than not.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Being in love is definitely more permanent to me than just having a fleeting crush one someone. Like... I know that crushes can sometimes last a long time, and that's fine. I've had plenty of crushes on people... but I think that one of the major differences between being in love and having a crush is really just knowing that you would go out of your way for someone unconditionally -- rain or shine.
A crush, to me, usually just feels like everything is on the surface. I dunno... a lot of crushes I've had were on people that I didn't know for too long. Like... after a week or something, I just like how cute they react to some things. Maybe the way they describe settings and characters really intrigues me and I enjoy how their mind works in that capacity to where I develop that crush. Maybe I just like the way their hair frames their face. Maybe I just like the way they compile their fashion choices that make them attractive. But, like... that's it.
Being in love is... complicated. Because you can love your friends and family... and of course there are people that you love romantically. You do things for people you love. You listen to a lot of the things that they enjoy, even if it's one of the smallest things that they think that no one would pay attention to. Being in love is thinking of that person or those people that you love and taking them into consideration -- even in moments where it might not make sense, or in moments where you're doing something meant for yourself. Being in love is sharing in warmth and comfort with those that you love. Being in love is... doing stuff that you sometimes don't enjoy just because you want to see that person / those people smile because that is more than worth it for your efforts. Being in love sometimes hurts and creates conflict. Being in love means that you'll compromise and work together to figure something out. Being in love requires cooperation from all parties -- especially if it's supposed to be mutual.
Being in love is definitely more permanent to me than just having a fleeting crush one someone. Like... I know that crushes can sometimes last a long time, and that's fine. I've had plenty of crushes on people... but I think that one of the major differences between being in love and having a crush is really just knowing that you would go out of your way for someone unconditionally -- rain or shine.
A crush, to me, usually just feels like everything is on the surface. I dunno... a lot of crushes I've had were on people that I didn't know for too long. Like... after a week or something, I just like how cute they react to some things. Maybe the way they describe settings and characters really intrigues me and I enjoy how their mind works in that capacity to where I develop that crush. Maybe I just like the way their hair frames their face. Maybe I just like the way they compile their fashion choices that make them attractive. But, like... that's it.
Being in love is... complicated. Because you can love your friends and family... and of course there are people that you love romantically. You do things for people you love. You listen to a lot of the things that they enjoy, even if it's one of the smallest things that they think that no one would pay attention to. Being in love is thinking of that person or those people that you love and taking them into consideration -- even in moments where it might not make sense, or in moments where you're doing something meant for yourself. Being in love is sharing in warmth and comfort with those that you love. Being in love is... doing stuff that you sometimes don't enjoy just because you want to see that person / those people smile because that is more than worth it for your efforts. Being in love sometimes hurts and creates conflict. Being in love means that you'll compromise and work together to figure something out. Being in love requires cooperation from all parties -- especially if it's supposed to be mutual.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Friendship, to me, isn't as sensual. Like, sure, there are friends with benefits relationships out there, but... that's their lifestyle. It's not mine. Friendship is a little difficult for me to rightfully describe... and that's after having to erase this part several times over the more I thought about past friendships that have ended for me.
Friendship can be the base for romance. Friendship usually is the base of romance. I don't believe you should fall in love with someone you aren't friends with at first.
I guess that said... friendship and romance aren't too different in what you would like to get out of them and what you should get out of them. Companionship, support, and people to rely on. Just that one relationship is more open, sensual, and intimate over the other.
Friendship, to me, isn't as sensual. Like, sure, there are friends with benefits relationships out there, but... that's their lifestyle. It's not mine. Friendship is a little difficult for me to rightfully describe... and that's after having to erase this part several times over the more I thought about past friendships that have ended for me.
Friendship can be the base for romance. Friendship usually is the base of romance. I don't believe you should fall in love with someone you aren't friends with at first.
I guess that said... friendship and romance aren't too different in what you would like to get out of them and what you should get out of them. Companionship, support, and people to rely on. Just that one relationship is more open, sensual, and intimate over the other.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
I mean, absolutely. I have been in a romantic relationship with my fiancé for eight years this Halloween. During this relationship, I have been open with my fiancé when it concerns my crushes so that he is aware. We had a friend within one of our artist circles, and I thought she was really cute, I thought she was really endearing after a month of so of getting to know her. I talked to my fiancé and I was just: "hey, I have a crush on (name), and I just want you to know. That said, what is your comfort level on polyamorous relationships in case maybe she feels the same way and we want to see how it works out?"
I don't really like her like that anymore. She's just a friend to us. It didn't work out. I saw myself being able to like certain parts of her, but then stopped liking her like that because I was just, "I think we have a lot of preferences that don't mesh well, but we still have all these other things that make us good friends."
Other than that, my fiancé knows full well that I really like Vinny from Vinesauce and have a crush on him. I think Vinny is really chill, attractive, funny, cute, and writes some of the best songs that connect with me on a highly deep and emotional level. But see, this, again, is something I talked to my fiancé about and admitted.
I think the crush is harmless, really, so long as you are honest about it and your partner is in acceptance of it.
If you don't have a partner, then... it really depends, emotionally, how you're able to handle rejection, or being on the sideline, or never having that opportunity to connect with that person the way you want to. Harmless is only harmless when you recognise where you stand and if you're in acceptance of that. That's my take on it, anyways.
I mean, absolutely. I have been in a romantic relationship with my fiancé for eight years this Halloween. During this relationship, I have been open with my fiancé when it concerns my crushes so that he is aware. We had a friend within one of our artist circles, and I thought she was really cute, I thought she was really endearing after a month of so of getting to know her. I talked to my fiancé and I was just: "hey, I have a crush on (name), and I just want you to know. That said, what is your comfort level on polyamorous relationships in case maybe she feels the same way and we want to see how it works out?"
I don't really like her like that anymore. She's just a friend to us. It didn't work out. I saw myself being able to like certain parts of her, but then stopped liking her like that because I was just, "I think we have a lot of preferences that don't mesh well, but we still have all these other things that make us good friends."
Other than that, my fiancé knows full well that I really like Vinny from Vinesauce and have a crush on him. I think Vinny is really chill, attractive, funny, cute, and writes some of the best songs that connect with me on a highly deep and emotional level. But see, this, again, is something I talked to my fiancé about and admitted.
I think the crush is harmless, really, so long as you are honest about it and your partner is in acceptance of it.
If you don't have a partner, then... it really depends, emotionally, how you're able to handle rejection, or being on the sideline, or never having that opportunity to connect with that person the way you want to. Harmless is only harmless when you recognise where you stand and if you're in acceptance of that. That's my take on it, anyways.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Compassion, understanding, selflessness.
Compassion, understanding, selflessness.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Always, always, always -- the first thing for me is the gift from the heart. A gift that you know someone was looking forward to -- something that you KNOW would make their evening, their week, their month, their year in some cases.
Second, especially for those creative folk out there, creating something with them at the forefront of your mind. Something that you create to appreciate them and show them your creative appreciation. No one can rival the emotion and love put into something that you made something yourself. You made them something truly unique, and nothing can compare to that. What you make for someone can't be bought as a finished product at the store. What you make for someone can't be replicated 100%. It is a special creation. The only reason this is number two for me and not one is because I realise that not everyone has the strength, energy, or time to devote to such a craft, so have to opt for something that is store bought, though thoughtful to the person it is for.
Third... food. Always food at the bottom of the top tier list for romantic gifts. I'm not a flowers person, and romantic assorted chocolates always has ones I won't eat. But hey... going out for dinner, for lunch, or even as early as breakfast... it's always a nice time to communicate with one another.
Always, always, always -- the first thing for me is the gift from the heart. A gift that you know someone was looking forward to -- something that you KNOW would make their evening, their week, their month, their year in some cases.
Second, especially for those creative folk out there, creating something with them at the forefront of your mind. Something that you create to appreciate them and show them your creative appreciation. No one can rival the emotion and love put into something that you made something yourself. You made them something truly unique, and nothing can compare to that. What you make for someone can't be bought as a finished product at the store. What you make for someone can't be replicated 100%. It is a special creation. The only reason this is number two for me and not one is because I realise that not everyone has the strength, energy, or time to devote to such a craft, so have to opt for something that is store bought, though thoughtful to the person it is for.
Third... food. Always food at the bottom of the top tier list for romantic gifts. I'm not a flowers person, and romantic assorted chocolates always has ones I won't eat. But hey... going out for dinner, for lunch, or even as early as breakfast... it's always a nice time to communicate with one another.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
To me, quality time involves everything that was mentioned prior at various times. But... quality time together is always important to me, because you get to develop new likes with a person, you can engage in activities you both like, and I also believe that dating is a healthy thing for all romantic partners to engage in before AND after getting together.
I love, LOVE being able to share experiences with my fiancé. I wish he could have come with me on my trip to the Philippines when I went this past summer. But that was a trip that was for my mother and I, and it was perfectly understandable for both of us: I had been promised in the past by my mother that she would one day take me to her homeland because I had NEVER been to the Philippines and wanted to so badly experience that side of my cultural heritage for so long.
There was a lot of mess before the decision was made to take me instead of my brother (mostly because my brother complained and said that he would only want to be in the Philippines for a weekend before going back to the States, and my mother was just... ???? at my brother before I spoke up and said I'll go for the two weeks). BUT... that's neither here nor there.
Point is: my fiancé understood what a big thing this was to me. And if I could have brought him with me to experience the same things I did (sans the traveller's sickness), I would have done it in a heartbeat just so that we had those experiences and memories. But I ended up sharing a lot of pictures, thoughts, and happy memories with my fiancé during our time back together in the States. I had brought him back gifts I thought he would like and could use when I was overseas (I got him a nice blue and gold watch I found because I thought it would make him look more presentable when he went for job meetings, formal events, and other more professional things; I also got him a volcanic stone souvenir from the Taal Volcano from my time in Tagaytay because I believed he would like something cool, though not over the top).
During my trip, I realised that this was the first time -- FIRST TIME -- in seven years that we had spent more than a day or two away from one another. Whenever I had hotel wi-fi, I would message my fiancé on Discord and just be all, "I miss youuu" and we would tell each other how much we loved one another and missed one another while I was overseas. I was really happy when I got to see him again when I came back from the airport and was just so exhausted from customs in not only the Philippines, not only the States, but from Japan as well because we stopped there.
And speaking of 'love' and me bringing up familial love (even if only briefly)... my parents actually made sure that both on the flights to and from the Philippines, we would have stops in Japan because they knew that I study Japanese -- not just the language, but the culture, customs, mythology, and many other things about it. I didn't get to spend as much time as I would have loved there, but despite that, I really appreciate the fact that both my mother and step father basically said: "well, since Jay is going... let's make it so that you guys stop in Tokyo so that she can experience a bit of Japan before and after being in the Philippines."
Like... they didn't have to do that.... But they did because they knew how much it meant to me.
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e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
To me, quality time involves everything that was mentioned prior at various times. But... quality time together is always important to me, because you get to develop new likes with a person, you can engage in activities you both like, and I also believe that dating is a healthy thing for all romantic partners to engage in before AND after getting together.
I love, LOVE being able to share experiences with my fiancé. I wish he could have come with me on my trip to the Philippines when I went this past summer. But that was a trip that was for my mother and I, and it was perfectly understandable for both of us: I had been promised in the past by my mother that she would one day take me to her homeland because I had NEVER been to the Philippines and wanted to so badly experience that side of my cultural heritage for so long.
There was a lot of mess before the decision was made to take me instead of my brother (mostly because my brother complained and said that he would only want to be in the Philippines for a weekend before going back to the States, and my mother was just... ???? at my brother before I spoke up and said I'll go for the two weeks). BUT... that's neither here nor there.
Point is: my fiancé understood what a big thing this was to me. And if I could have brought him with me to experience the same things I did (sans the traveller's sickness), I would have done it in a heartbeat just so that we had those experiences and memories. But I ended up sharing a lot of pictures, thoughts, and happy memories with my fiancé during our time back together in the States. I had brought him back gifts I thought he would like and could use when I was overseas (I got him a nice blue and gold watch I found because I thought it would make him look more presentable when he went for job meetings, formal events, and other more professional things; I also got him a volcanic stone souvenir from the Taal Volcano from my time in Tagaytay because I believed he would like something cool, though not over the top).
During my trip, I realised that this was the first time -- FIRST TIME -- in seven years that we had spent more than a day or two away from one another. Whenever I had hotel wi-fi, I would message my fiancé on Discord and just be all, "I miss youuu" and we would tell each other how much we loved one another and missed one another while I was overseas. I was really happy when I got to see him again when I came back from the airport and was just so exhausted from customs in not only the Philippines, not only the States, but from Japan as well because we stopped there.
And speaking of 'love' and me bringing up familial love (even if only briefly)... my parents actually made sure that both on the flights to and from the Philippines, we would have stops in Japan because they knew that I study Japanese -- not just the language, but the culture, customs, mythology, and many other things about it. I didn't get to spend as much time as I would have loved there, but despite that, I really appreciate the fact that both my mother and step father basically said: "well, since Jay is going... let's make it so that you guys stop in Tokyo so that she can experience a bit of Japan before and after being in the Philippines."
Like... they didn't have to do that.... But they did because they knew how much it meant to me.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
God... I... I don't really do the whole pickup line business. Each one is usually pretty corny or cheesy to me.
God... I... I don't really do the whole pickup line business. Each one is usually pretty corny or cheesy to me.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Any of the basic, super cheese ones that everyone's heard.
"Do you have a map? I seem to be lost in your eyes."
"I lost my number, can I have yours?"
"Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?"
Any of the basic, super cheese ones that everyone's heard.
"Do you have a map? I seem to be lost in your eyes."
"I lost my number, can I have yours?"
"Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?"
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Nah... I believe in establishing a connection first. I believe in lust at first sight, though -- absolutely.
Like... how can you look at someone and just think: 'oh, I am in love with that person' without really knowing who they are? Like... your political views could differ greatly. They could think one thing that you severely disagree with. They might have very immoral opinions and thoughts compared to what you think and believe in.
It's just... really hard for me to believe that you can give yourself to someone you don't know.
Nah... I believe in establishing a connection first. I believe in lust at first sight, though -- absolutely.
Like... how can you look at someone and just think: 'oh, I am in love with that person' without really knowing who they are? Like... your political views could differ greatly. They could think one thing that you severely disagree with. They might have very immoral opinions and thoughts compared to what you think and believe in.
It's just... really hard for me to believe that you can give yourself to someone you don't know.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
I'd say it really depends on what type of media. Though, I wouldn't say the type of falling in love being portrayed never happened. For all I know, there could be plenty of people who feel their story of falling in love exactly matches a type portrayed by the media.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I'd say the difference is that you can move on quickly from a crush where as you don't move on as easily from actually being in love.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Romance is more intimate than a friendship. Other than that, I'd say there really isn't any difference. You'd want to have a romantic partner to be there for you and support you just like you'd want a friend to be there for you and support you.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah, I'd say there is. As long as you aren't harming your own romantic relationship (if you have one) or your crush's (if they have on) and aren't stalking your crush or anything, then yeah, it's pretty harmless.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
I'd say kindness, humor, and support are the most important qualities to me. Though, it also depends on the type of person you are as well.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Hugs, sweets, and kisses in my opinion. Though, this also depends on who you are as a person.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Quality time, definitely. Sure, two people in a relationship might get really busy, though in my opinion, even if it's just for a few minutes, partners should have some time set aside that works for both of them to spend together. Though, they also need to understand that sometimes they need some time apart or just time for the other partner to do what they need.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Geez, my boyfriend's told me so many... you mean I have to chose just one?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
I haven't really heard any bad ones that I can remember.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Hmmmm... well, having a deep love at first sight, no, but I do believe that there are people you can just click with at first and it can develop into a deep loving relationship.
I'd say it really depends on what type of media. Though, I wouldn't say the type of falling in love being portrayed never happened. For all I know, there could be plenty of people who feel their story of falling in love exactly matches a type portrayed by the media.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
I'd say the difference is that you can move on quickly from a crush where as you don't move on as easily from actually being in love.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Romance is more intimate than a friendship. Other than that, I'd say there really isn't any difference. You'd want to have a romantic partner to be there for you and support you just like you'd want a friend to be there for you and support you.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah, I'd say there is. As long as you aren't harming your own romantic relationship (if you have one) or your crush's (if they have on) and aren't stalking your crush or anything, then yeah, it's pretty harmless.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
I'd say kindness, humor, and support are the most important qualities to me. Though, it also depends on the type of person you are as well.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Hugs, sweets, and kisses in my opinion. Though, this also depends on who you are as a person.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Quality time, definitely. Sure, two people in a relationship might get really busy, though in my opinion, even if it's just for a few minutes, partners should have some time set aside that works for both of them to spend together. Though, they also need to understand that sometimes they need some time apart or just time for the other partner to do what they need.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
Geez, my boyfriend's told me so many... you mean I have to chose just one?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
I haven't really heard any bad ones that I can remember.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Hmmmm... well, having a deep love at first sight, no, but I do believe that there are people you can just click with at first and it can develop into a deep loving relationship.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
Yes. I have experienced it. However what goes in can also go out and so it takes work. Its not just a fall and you're stuck in love from then on, its like a garden and must be cultivated constantly to bear fruit.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Being in love means you see the reality of someone. Their flaws and imperfections, and are able to work with that.
Crushes often are just intense fantastical feelings that disregard the bad and build an almost dream like vision of the person. Crushes can also develop without even interacting with the person or knowing very much about them.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I'd say romance is just friendship on crack. Everything has a higher stake and you probably work twice as hard as a normal friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Compassion, intelligence, humor, loyalty.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Time. Conversation. Affection.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
Quality Time.
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
No one's ever used a pickup line on me.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Yes and no. You can have intense chemistry/feelings right off the bat with someone, but love as I said before take work. Real love that is and without the work then it will just fade as quickly as it came.
Yes. I have experienced it. However what goes in can also go out and so it takes work. Its not just a fall and you're stuck in love from then on, its like a garden and must be cultivated constantly to bear fruit.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Being in love means you see the reality of someone. Their flaws and imperfections, and are able to work with that.
Crushes often are just intense fantastical feelings that disregard the bad and build an almost dream like vision of the person. Crushes can also develop without even interacting with the person or knowing very much about them.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
I'd say romance is just friendship on crack. Everything has a higher stake and you probably work twice as hard as a normal friendship.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yeah.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Compassion, intelligence, humor, loyalty.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Time. Conversation. Affection.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
Quality Time.
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
No one's ever used a pickup line on me.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Yes and no. You can have intense chemistry/feelings right off the bat with someone, but love as I said before take work. Real love that is and without the work then it will just fade as quickly as it came.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
It's more like infatuation, and I believe in infatuation. I just don't think it's love.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Having a crush often involves idealizing the person you like and not being super into them (unless you obsess over them of course.) Being in love involves both people loving each other, and they'd be willing to do anything for one another.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
The major difference is how you see them. As a companion or as a lover.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Of course.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me, it would be intelligence, humour, and loyalty.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Difficult to say. I think the best gift is one that is unique and works for that special person, so that way it isn't generic.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Quality time, definitely. I love talking, I could do it for hours - and if they can handle that it's certainly a good sign.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I know I've heard some funny ones, but I can never remember them.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
I've heard a lot. Most aren't appropriate though, and as with the best ones, I can't recall many.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not
No - it's just infatuation. To love someone you have to know them.
It's more like infatuation, and I believe in infatuation. I just don't think it's love.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Having a crush often involves idealizing the person you like and not being super into them (unless you obsess over them of course.) Being in love involves both people loving each other, and they'd be willing to do anything for one another.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
The major difference is how you see them. As a companion or as a lover.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Of course.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
For me, it would be intelligence, humour, and loyalty.
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Difficult to say. I think the best gift is one that is unique and works for that special person, so that way it isn't generic.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
Quality time, definitely. I love talking, I could do it for hours - and if they can handle that it's certainly a good sign.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
I know I've heard some funny ones, but I can never remember them.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
I've heard a lot. Most aren't appropriate though, and as with the best ones, I can't recall many.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not
No - it's just infatuation. To love someone you have to know them.
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not? Absolutely. I definitely think the entertainment industry romanticizes and idealizes love in some really, really unrealistic ways - but I believe in love, and I believe in falling in love. Hollywood (and Broadway, take your pick) likes to pretend a good relationship is a perfect relationship - and no relationship is perfect. They emphasize all the excitement of falling in love; like first kisses, first dates, all up until somebody inevitably pops the question. After that...it's like the media doesn't care. But real love, to me anyway, is the kind that lasts. You're going to fight with your partner: things will get bad and ugly, and that's just not something a lot of people want to think about. But it's part of loving someone - you endure together, you improve and grow together. And sometimes, it doesn't work out. As a child of divorce, I hate hearing ignorant people my age saying: "I'll never get divorced!" Like, do you think people get married with the intention of divorcing? Some relationships just can't be mended. And I think, a lot of the time, Hollywood likes to plant rose-colored glasses on our noses. So, yeah, I believe in falling in love - but I think the media (looking at you, too, Disney) sets a lot of us up with unrealistic expectations, and doesn't always give us an accurate representation of what relationships actually are.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush? Oh, the difference is huge. Having a crush is infatuation. For me, crushes usually hit all at once. Just last year, I was working a play and I happened to be watching the actors on stage - on of my classmates was in the production, and looking at him then, I just kinda swore beneath my breath, because all of the sudden, my heart was in my throat. Crushes are an individual experience - you're not sharing love with someone. For example, my crushes were always secret. I was too shy to do anything about it. And they usually fade within a few months - either because (in my case), I realized they weren't interested/started dating someone else, or that I would always be too terrified to make the first move. But love is deeper - I feel like a lot of the time with crushes, it's physical attraction. Love is sharing a mutual affection for each other - and in my opinion, it's more dependable in any crush. Where you might have crushes on half a dozen people all at once, love is something much rarer.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance? I think the obvious is the physical aspect that goes hand-in-hand with romance. But they're very similar concepts, really. I love my friends. A lot. I would do anything for them. And I always cherish the hugs and stuff my friends and I share - I think that's a huge thing when you're comfortable with someone, even when it's "just" a friend. Human contact is such a powerful thing. So, I think the only real difference is the level of intimacy of that contact.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"? I think all crushes are harmless. Unless - like I saw Damnation write, if it's an adult having feelings for a minor. A crush is an individual experience, it's mostly you (unless the other person knows) experiencing romantic feelings for someone else. The guy I mentioned before, the friend I had feelings for - I had a crush on him for months. He had a girlfriend. Still does. And I never did anything about it. I wasn't out to sabotage his relationship, he's happy. Another friend on this site reminded me once that you can't waste your life waiting around for something that might not happen - and I didn't. I actually started dating somebody a few months ago, and I'm very, very happy. But I still have little feelings for my friend/classmate, and even on some other people I met at school. Most of those little crushes are simply physical things - and I wouldn't act on them. So, I guess crushes can become harmless, if you act inappropriately on them. But crushes themselves? Nah, I don't think so. The only real potential victim is you, because - well, I'm sure I don't have to spell it out. I think everybody's been there, when they realize someone they really like just doesn't feel the same.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner? Compassion, loyalty, and thoughtfulness. (Humor is also a HUGE thing for me.)
6. What are the three best romantic gifts? Something nostalgic - like a piece of a memory you share with that person, or maybe they just remembered something you said once, and turned that into a present somehow. Time: I love just spending time with my boyfriend. We're both young adults, we don't have very much money, and we're both insanely busy: so I appreciate the simple time we're able to spend together. Love letters - I love words. Shouldn't be a secret, considering I'm here, haha - but I love cards and notes. I keep my most meaningful notes from my family and friends in my nightstand, and I love taking them out and reading them when I'm feeling down. It always makes me feel better. Also...flowers. Sorry, I know that's four things but I love flowers and they're underrated.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
I picked two...haha. I would say E is MOST important to me, but I also really appreciate words of affirmation. I struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, so being reassured verbally is a huge thing for me. Even if I don't speak particularly well myself, lol - I always tell my boyfriend: "I'm a writer, not a speaker."
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard? Oh, gosh. None of them are good, lol. I love a good pun so you'd think it was the way to my heart, but they always come from...iffy individuals, haha.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard? Yikes. Something I got on Tinder, once. I'll spare you guys the details, lol. Trust me, it's for the best.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not? Eh, I'm iffy on this one. I definitely think you can have feelings for someone at first sight...but I don't know. I think I believe in it, but I'm not sure it's ever happened to me.
Anyway, that's my two cents. I love surveys, haha.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush? Oh, the difference is huge. Having a crush is infatuation. For me, crushes usually hit all at once. Just last year, I was working a play and I happened to be watching the actors on stage - on of my classmates was in the production, and looking at him then, I just kinda swore beneath my breath, because all of the sudden, my heart was in my throat. Crushes are an individual experience - you're not sharing love with someone. For example, my crushes were always secret. I was too shy to do anything about it. And they usually fade within a few months - either because (in my case), I realized they weren't interested/started dating someone else, or that I would always be too terrified to make the first move. But love is deeper - I feel like a lot of the time with crushes, it's physical attraction. Love is sharing a mutual affection for each other - and in my opinion, it's more dependable in any crush. Where you might have crushes on half a dozen people all at once, love is something much rarer.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance? I think the obvious is the physical aspect that goes hand-in-hand with romance. But they're very similar concepts, really. I love my friends. A lot. I would do anything for them. And I always cherish the hugs and stuff my friends and I share - I think that's a huge thing when you're comfortable with someone, even when it's "just" a friend. Human contact is such a powerful thing. So, I think the only real difference is the level of intimacy of that contact.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"? I think all crushes are harmless. Unless - like I saw Damnation write, if it's an adult having feelings for a minor. A crush is an individual experience, it's mostly you (unless the other person knows) experiencing romantic feelings for someone else. The guy I mentioned before, the friend I had feelings for - I had a crush on him for months. He had a girlfriend. Still does. And I never did anything about it. I wasn't out to sabotage his relationship, he's happy. Another friend on this site reminded me once that you can't waste your life waiting around for something that might not happen - and I didn't. I actually started dating somebody a few months ago, and I'm very, very happy. But I still have little feelings for my friend/classmate, and even on some other people I met at school. Most of those little crushes are simply physical things - and I wouldn't act on them. So, I guess crushes can become harmless, if you act inappropriately on them. But crushes themselves? Nah, I don't think so. The only real potential victim is you, because - well, I'm sure I don't have to spell it out. I think everybody's been there, when they realize someone they really like just doesn't feel the same.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner? Compassion, loyalty, and thoughtfulness. (Humor is also a HUGE thing for me.)
6. What are the three best romantic gifts? Something nostalgic - like a piece of a memory you share with that person, or maybe they just remembered something you said once, and turned that into a present somehow. Time: I love just spending time with my boyfriend. We're both young adults, we don't have very much money, and we're both insanely busy: so I appreciate the simple time we're able to spend together. Love letters - I love words. Shouldn't be a secret, considering I'm here, haha - but I love cards and notes. I keep my most meaningful notes from my family and friends in my nightstand, and I love taking them out and reading them when I'm feeling down. It always makes me feel better. Also...flowers. Sorry, I know that's four things but I love flowers and they're underrated.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
I picked two...haha. I would say E is MOST important to me, but I also really appreciate words of affirmation. I struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, so being reassured verbally is a huge thing for me. Even if I don't speak particularly well myself, lol - I always tell my boyfriend: "I'm a writer, not a speaker."
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard? Oh, gosh. None of them are good, lol. I love a good pun so you'd think it was the way to my heart, but they always come from...iffy individuals, haha.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard? Yikes. Something I got on Tinder, once. I'll spare you guys the details, lol. Trust me, it's for the best.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not? Eh, I'm iffy on this one. I definitely think you can have feelings for someone at first sight...but I don't know. I think I believe in it, but I'm not sure it's ever happened to me.
Anyway, that's my two cents. I love surveys, haha.
Atrevida wrote:
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not? Absolutely. I definitely think the entertainment industry romanticizes and idealizes love in some really, really unrealistic ways - but I believe in love, and I believe in falling in love. Hollywood (and Broadway, take your pick) likes to pretend a good relationship is a perfect relationship - and no relationship is perfect. They emphasize all the excitement of falling in love; like first kisses, first dates, all up until somebody inevitably pops the question. After that...it's like the media doesn't care. But real love, to me anyway, is the kind that lasts. You're going to fight with your partner: things will get bad and ugly, and that's just not something a lot of people want to think about. But it's part of loving someone - you endure together, you improve and grow together. And sometimes, it doesn't work out. As a child of divorce, I hate hearing ignorant people my age saying: "I'll never get divorced!" Like, do you think people get married with the intention of divorcing? Some relationships just can't be mended. And I think, a lot of the time, Hollywood likes to plant rose-colored glasses on our noses. So, yeah, I believe in falling in love - but I think the media (looking at you, too, Disney) sets a lot of us up with unrealistic expectations, and doesn't always give us an accurate representation of what relationships actually are.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush? Oh, the difference is huge. Having a crush is infatuation. For me, crushes usually hit all at once. Just last year, I was working a play and I happened to be watching the actors on stage - on of my classmates was in the production, and looking at him then, I just kinda swore beneath my breath, because all of the sudden, my heart was in my throat. Crushes are an individual experience - you're not sharing love with someone. For example, my crushes were always secret. I was too shy to do anything about it. And they usually fade within a few months - either because (in my case), I realized they weren't interested/started dating someone else, or that I would always be too terrified to make the first move. But love is deeper - I feel like a lot of the time with crushes, it's physical attraction. Love is sharing a mutual affection for each other - and in my opinion, it's more dependable in any crush. Where you might have crushes on half a dozen people all at once, love is something much rarer.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance? I think the obvious is the physical aspect that goes hand-in-hand with romance. But they're very similar concepts, really. I love my friends. A lot. I would do anything for them. And I always cherish the hugs and stuff my friends and I share - I think that's a huge thing when you're comfortable with someone, even when it's "just" a friend. Human contact is such a powerful thing. So, I think the only real difference is the level of intimacy of that contact.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"? I think all crushes are harmless. Unless - like I saw Damnation write, if it's an adult having feelings for a minor. A crush is an individual experience, it's mostly you (unless the other person knows) experiencing romantic feelings for someone else. The guy I mentioned before, the friend I had feelings for - I had a crush on him for months. He had a girlfriend. Still does. And I never did anything about it. I wasn't out to sabotage his relationship, he's happy. Another friend on this site reminded me once that you can't waste your life waiting around for something that might not happen - and I didn't. I actually started dating somebody a few months ago, and I'm very, very happy. But I still have little feelings for my friend/classmate, and even on some other people I met at school. Most of those little crushes are simply physical things - and I wouldn't act on them. So, I guess crushes can become harmless, if you act inappropriately on them. But crushes themselves? Nah, I don't think so. The only real potential victim is you, because - well, I'm sure I don't have to spell it out. I think everybody's been there, when they realize someone they really like just doesn't feel the same.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner? Compassion, loyalty, and thoughtfulness. (Humor is also a HUGE thing for me.)
6. What are the three best romantic gifts? Something nostalgic - like a piece of a memory you share with that person, or maybe they just remembered something you said once, and turned that into a present somehow. Time: I love just spending time with my boyfriend. We're both young adults, we don't have very much money, and we're both insanely busy: so I appreciate the simple time we're able to spend together. Love letters - I love words. Shouldn't be a secret, considering I'm here, haha - but I love cards and notes. I keep my most meaningful notes from my family and friends in my nightstand, and I love taking them out and reading them when I'm feeling down. It always makes me feel better. Also...flowers. Sorry, I know that's four things but I love flowers and they're underrated.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
I picked two...haha. I would say E is MOST important to me, but I also really appreciate words of affirmation. I struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, so being reassured verbally is a huge thing for me. Even if I don't speak particularly well myself, lol - I always tell my boyfriend: "I'm a writer, not a speaker."
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard? Oh, gosh. None of them are good, lol. I love a good pun so you'd think it was the way to my heart, but they always come from...iffy individuals, haha.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard? Yikes. Something I got on Tinder, once. I'll spare you guys the details, lol. Trust me, it's for the best.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not? Eh, I'm iffy on this one. I definitely think you can have feelings for someone at first sight...but I don't know. I think I believe in it, but I'm not sure it's ever happened to me.
Anyway, that's my two cents. I love surveys, haha.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush? Oh, the difference is huge. Having a crush is infatuation. For me, crushes usually hit all at once. Just last year, I was working a play and I happened to be watching the actors on stage - on of my classmates was in the production, and looking at him then, I just kinda swore beneath my breath, because all of the sudden, my heart was in my throat. Crushes are an individual experience - you're not sharing love with someone. For example, my crushes were always secret. I was too shy to do anything about it. And they usually fade within a few months - either because (in my case), I realized they weren't interested/started dating someone else, or that I would always be too terrified to make the first move. But love is deeper - I feel like a lot of the time with crushes, it's physical attraction. Love is sharing a mutual affection for each other - and in my opinion, it's more dependable in any crush. Where you might have crushes on half a dozen people all at once, love is something much rarer.
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance? I think the obvious is the physical aspect that goes hand-in-hand with romance. But they're very similar concepts, really. I love my friends. A lot. I would do anything for them. And I always cherish the hugs and stuff my friends and I share - I think that's a huge thing when you're comfortable with someone, even when it's "just" a friend. Human contact is such a powerful thing. So, I think the only real difference is the level of intimacy of that contact.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"? I think all crushes are harmless. Unless - like I saw Damnation write, if it's an adult having feelings for a minor. A crush is an individual experience, it's mostly you (unless the other person knows) experiencing romantic feelings for someone else. The guy I mentioned before, the friend I had feelings for - I had a crush on him for months. He had a girlfriend. Still does. And I never did anything about it. I wasn't out to sabotage his relationship, he's happy. Another friend on this site reminded me once that you can't waste your life waiting around for something that might not happen - and I didn't. I actually started dating somebody a few months ago, and I'm very, very happy. But I still have little feelings for my friend/classmate, and even on some other people I met at school. Most of those little crushes are simply physical things - and I wouldn't act on them. So, I guess crushes can become harmless, if you act inappropriately on them. But crushes themselves? Nah, I don't think so. The only real potential victim is you, because - well, I'm sure I don't have to spell it out. I think everybody's been there, when they realize someone they really like just doesn't feel the same.
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner? Compassion, loyalty, and thoughtfulness. (Humor is also a HUGE thing for me.)
6. What are the three best romantic gifts? Something nostalgic - like a piece of a memory you share with that person, or maybe they just remembered something you said once, and turned that into a present somehow. Time: I love just spending time with my boyfriend. We're both young adults, we don't have very much money, and we're both insanely busy: so I appreciate the simple time we're able to spend together. Love letters - I love words. Shouldn't be a secret, considering I'm here, haha - but I love cards and notes. I keep my most meaningful notes from my family and friends in my nightstand, and I love taking them out and reading them when I'm feeling down. It always makes me feel better. Also...flowers. Sorry, I know that's four things but I love flowers and they're underrated.
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
I picked two...haha. I would say E is MOST important to me, but I also really appreciate words of affirmation. I struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, so being reassured verbally is a huge thing for me. Even if I don't speak particularly well myself, lol - I always tell my boyfriend: "I'm a writer, not a speaker."
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard? Oh, gosh. None of them are good, lol. I love a good pun so you'd think it was the way to my heart, but they always come from...iffy individuals, haha.
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard? Yikes. Something I got on Tinder, once. I'll spare you guys the details, lol. Trust me, it's for the best.
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not? Eh, I'm iffy on this one. I definitely think you can have feelings for someone at first sight...but I don't know. I think I believe in it, but I'm not sure it's ever happened to me.
Anyway, that's my two cents. I love surveys, haha.
Thanks for doing the survey! I like reading the stuff you write, Atrevida.
I´ll assume this is supposed to answer from a OOC: kind of view - at least that´s what I am going to do.
Perhaps right from the start - I guess being a happily married person who fullheartedly claims to have found love, I am not entirely unbiased on this topic
Futher, everyting is only my little, humble opinion... don´t tear me apart, I am not claiming to have ultimate wisdom
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
"as portayed in the media" - well, I guess there is more than one way they portray it. However if we are talking about "fate" being involved - yes I believe in this. Why? Because it seems to me (in my very personal, subjective, humble opinion)it happened twice. Or rather before or while finding "Mr/Ms Right" fate seemed to both, laugh its tricky little ass off behind the curtain and also pull some weird strings.... - anything more detailed than that would surely be beyond the scope of this survey
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Being in love means devtion and trust. Means that I really, truely want to spend the rest of my life with this one person, no matter possible flaws, wants me to make it through dark times together and will help to emerge on the other side stronger and even more in love
Having a crush, in my experience is a fleeting, yet intense sensation which lacks a certain depth. It´s nice, for a temporary period though
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Friendship does not need romance/sexualtiy/physical attraction to work - it´s a faithful, strong relationship without anything physical involved
Romance is connected with some kind of physical attraction
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes - at least according to how I define "harmless crush"
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, honesty, and please don´t take yourself too serious
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Time spent together... time spent together.... time spent together
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
Well, why not... yeah, they are important
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
should be normal in an equal partnership and nothing worth mentioning
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
very important
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
not really
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
very important
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
uuuhm.... I think I never heard any... things just.. .developed 0o
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Guess it was that bad that I already forgot...
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Yes, been there done that - married for over a decade now
Perhaps right from the start - I guess being a happily married person who fullheartedly claims to have found love, I am not entirely unbiased on this topic
Futher, everyting is only my little, humble opinion... don´t tear me apart, I am not claiming to have ultimate wisdom
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
"as portayed in the media" - well, I guess there is more than one way they portray it. However if we are talking about "fate" being involved - yes I believe in this. Why? Because it seems to me (in my very personal, subjective, humble opinion)it happened twice. Or rather before or while finding "Mr/Ms Right" fate seemed to both, laugh its tricky little ass off behind the curtain and also pull some weird strings.... - anything more detailed than that would surely be beyond the scope of this survey
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
Being in love means devtion and trust. Means that I really, truely want to spend the rest of my life with this one person, no matter possible flaws, wants me to make it through dark times together and will help to emerge on the other side stronger and even more in love
Having a crush, in my experience is a fleeting, yet intense sensation which lacks a certain depth. It´s nice, for a temporary period though
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
Friendship does not need romance/sexualtiy/physical attraction to work - it´s a faithful, strong relationship without anything physical involved
Romance is connected with some kind of physical attraction
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
Yes - at least according to how I define "harmless crush"
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
Loyalty, honesty, and please don´t take yourself too serious
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
Time spent together... time spent together.... time spent together
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
Well, why not... yeah, they are important
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
should be normal in an equal partnership and nothing worth mentioning
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
very important
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
not really
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
very important
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
uuuhm.... I think I never heard any... things just.. .developed 0o
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
Guess it was that bad that I already forgot...
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
Yes, been there done that - married for over a decade now
1. Do you believe there such a thing as "falling in love" as portrayed by the media? Why or why not?
1a. I think it may be possible, but with a lot of time and effort. I don’t believe in the whole love at first sight thing.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
2a. In a crush, it tends to be more physical attraction and you can live without the person. But in love you are more attatched and cannot love without them. It’s like with a crush, “I love you because I need you”, but in love, “I need you because I love you.”
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
3a. Well the physical affection of course is a big part of it. I think there’s a very thin line sometimes, a very big difference is of course if you would want to spend the rest of you’re life with them in any sort of romantic way.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
4a. Yes, not all crushes are actually meaningful and it’s not like you’re going to tell the person unless it develops into something more
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
5a. Loyalty, honesty, and patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
6a. Love letters, roses, and maybe a favorite food that you and your lover and have together
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
7a. Definitely e, quality time. It can give you that reaffirmation without words and it would be so nice.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
8a. I have heard a fair share of pick up lines but one of my favorites would have to be “Are you a slave to your clothes? Because I’d love to help free you of them.” Or, “You must be a velociraptor because you are one clever girl.”
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
9a. “Are you McDonald’s? Because I’m loving it.” Or, “Are you trash? Because I need to take you out.”
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
10a. No. Love for me is something that builds over time and can’t be that instant. Sure you can have the physical attraction but nothing more at a glance.
1a. I think it may be possible, but with a lot of time and effort. I don’t believe in the whole love at first sight thing.
2. What do you think the difference is between being in love versus having a crush?
2a. In a crush, it tends to be more physical attraction and you can live without the person. But in love you are more attatched and cannot love without them. It’s like with a crush, “I love you because I need you”, but in love, “I need you because I love you.”
3. What is the difference between friendship and romance?
3a. Well the physical affection of course is a big part of it. I think there’s a very thin line sometimes, a very big difference is of course if you would want to spend the rest of you’re life with them in any sort of romantic way.
4. Is there such a thing as a "harmless crush"?
4a. Yes, not all crushes are actually meaningful and it’s not like you’re going to tell the person unless it develops into something more
5. What are the three most important qualities in a partner?
5a. Loyalty, honesty, and patience
6. What are the three best romantic gifts?
6a. Love letters, roses, and maybe a favorite food that you and your lover and have together
7. What is most important to you out of the following:
a) words of affirmation (I love you, you're amazing, etc)
b) acts of service (doing dishes, cooking, taking out the trash, etc)
c) physical touch (hugs, kisses, caresses, etc)
d) receiving gifts (chocolate, diamonds, cards, watches, etc)
e) quality time (date night, spending the weekend together, dinner together, etc)
7a. Definitely e, quality time. It can give you that reaffirmation without words and it would be so nice.
8. What's the best pickup line you've ever heard?
8a. I have heard a fair share of pick up lines but one of my favorites would have to be “Are you a slave to your clothes? Because I’d love to help free you of them.” Or, “You must be a velociraptor because you are one clever girl.”
9. What's the worst pickup line you've ever heard?
9a. “Are you McDonald’s? Because I’m loving it.” Or, “Are you trash? Because I need to take you out.”
10. Do you believe in love at first sight? Why or why not?
10a. No. Love for me is something that builds over time and can’t be that instant. Sure you can have the physical attraction but nothing more at a glance.
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