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BurningBridges

There's so many.

What bothers me most, though, is when I write several paragraphs of very detailed actions and surroundings, and I get a one-line, low effor reply. I know it's mostly my own fault, since I'm the one who writes very long-windedly- I may just write what would equal to half a page of a book to describe my character's outfit - but is it really too much to ask to at least try to adapt to your partner's style of RP? And if it would be just one message, I can understand; I mean, hey, sometimes I don't really know what to do next and I take a break, then write something when I'm feeling like it again, or sometimes a one-liner is really all you can do or fits the setting, like during a really emotional or serious or suspenseful situation, but when I'm the only one continuously dragging the RP forward while the other person is just replying with one-liners, it gets old fast and really makes me assume the person isn't serious about RPing with me, which'll just make me either gost them or I'll flat out say I'm done.

Also, being godmodded will make me cut the RP and just never RP with the person again, to be honest. I'm fine with being godmodded in a very, very small capacity, but when people assume my character's reaction to a certain situation or a line of dialogue it just gets me pissed. You don't know my character like that, you aren't the one who made them up.

Similarly, it also pisses me off when people tell me ''Your character can't do this!'' Yes, they can. I'm their original writer, I decide what they can and can't do, unless it's really ridiculously unreasonable. If my character does something that doesn't 100% match up with their character or their morals or principles, I saw a legit reason to make them react the way they did. I mean, even in real life, we all fall a little... out of character sometimes.

I love making puns.
Is this considered a pet peeve? Whatever. Ya'll getting this post anyway.

I don't enjoy being pressured to write more than what I do. I can do at least a paragraph, maybe up to seven on a good day but usually stick to one to three. I've had people in the past pressure me to do more- not everyone does this, I've been lucky and most of my partners on here have been real frickin' nice about it.

That's about it. There are like, somethings that really get those gears grinding but then like, they're not worth reading over and over again? Also, friendly reminder to keep things like, chill. Threads like these tend to go down the path of turning aggressive and the mods like to keep an eye on these. Keep that in mind when writing your posts guys!
Rogue-Scribe

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What’s your role play pet peeves?

Oh geez... where do I start... I think I'll just quite what others have said as most of my peeves have been hit.
Spook wrote:
o People with excessive amounts of trigger warnings. Now don't get me wrong; I perfectly understand that people may have issues with all kinds of things and feel uncomfortable with certain themes for personal reasons (even I do), and I do think I'm a considerate and kind person, but when sensitive snowflakes list a million things they don't want me to do or fifty words they don't want me to use prior to engaging in roleplay with me, they probably don't realize it puts a lot of pressure on me. It holds back my roleplaying, because I can't type freely nor write my characters uncensored.(italics mine)
Yes. A sure way to not RP with me is to list the don’ts. I try to avoid these types as much as possible. As for that last line I put in italics, I am the same way with my writing.
xKeatonx wrote:
... when you set up an Rp with a nice, plump opening, and the other player responds with a sparse few sentences. Let me tell you how mad it makes me. You spend a good bit of your time setting the tone, atmosphere, introducing characters, and opening up the world for your partner to join, and they slap a flippant response on the page. It's a huge writing turn off.
Yes, the ‘wasted starter’ … happens too many times and tells me the other person doesn’t really want to write a story.
Skrifa wrote:
2. Poor grammar. I'm an intern for a magazine, and I know just how important it is. Reading anything with little to no punctuation sets my teeth on edge. And writing like this Just absolutely is out of the question Like how the heck am I supposed to read this?! Just...why? Maybe you can read it, but I can't - which means I'm seriously going to struggle getting back to you.
Yes, Try to make an effort. I get some people use their phones which, in my case, is hard for me to get it right due to fat fingers, but it is no excuse. Take the time and do it right. I do make exceptions for those great writers which English is not their first language. I'll add 'netspeak' to this grammer peeve.
Skrifa wrote:
4. People who ignore the posts ahead of them in groups and post their own thing that is completely off and away from what had taken place before them. I understand that you want your character to stand out, but don't post just to post and make it all about you.
Yes. Been in too many group RPs where some don't bother reading what others write. It's a prime reason why I pretty much given up group RP.
Malachite wrote:
Even worse is when it's explicitly not smut but you can tell the other person is somehow getting something sexual out of it OOC, which is just...no.
I’m not sure how that works unless someone is blurring the lines between IC and OC, which IS a pet peeve of mine. I got into an RP once with a woman who thought our character IC romance/erotica (note: not “smut”) carried over to OC life. That was a strange situation.
HouXin wrote:
IC: Ignoramuses
Those who really manage to ignore really basic, important stuff - like abilites/handicaps of your character, the time of the day, the weather... - I mean what is so hard to pay at least a little bit of attention to get an idea if it´s dark, raining... etc. - To me that is a sign that my replies are not worth reading and as a result that our RP is not really appreaciated and wanted.

Yes. It is something that really grinds my gears. Usually happens in group RPs, and I usually lose interest in replying after a few of these. I never abandon a character in a RP though, so I will post to either kill them or have them leave.

HouXin wrote:
OC:One-word-storyline/verse-discussions
When you try to create an original setting and story - send walls of texts with ideas and describtions ... and all you get back is "fine with me" - Nope! That is NOT a discussion, not a common brainstorming, that´s just plain lazy and rude disinterst from the other one... - and by now will lead to me imediately leaving this discussion
Yes, I second that. If I do decide to write with someone who does this, I assume whatever I come up with is 'fine by them'.
Birdy99 wrote:
When people give short, flippant replies when you wrote them a really nice, good starter. That, pisses me off and any excitement for that roleplay evaporates away that instant I see that sad, sad reply.
Yes.... I can't emphasise this enough. Major Peeve.
BurningBridges wrote:
What bothers me most, though, is when I write several paragraphs of very detailed actions and surroundings, and I get a one-line, low effor reply. I know it's mostly my own fault, since I'm the one who writes very long-windedly- I may just write what would equal to half a page of a book to describe my character's outfit - but is it really too much to ask to at least try to adapt to your partner's style of RP? And if it would be just one message, I can understand; I mean, hey, sometimes I don't really know what to do next and I take a break, then write something when I'm feeling like it again, or sometimes a one-liner is really all you can do or fits the setting, like during a really emotional or serious or suspenseful situation, but when I'm the only one continuously dragging the RP forward while the other person is just replying with one-liners, it gets old fast and really makes me assume the person isn't serious about RPing with me, which'll just make me either gost them or I'll flat out say I'm done.
Yes... can't emphasise this enough either.

So yeah, in agreement with those I quoted (except for one, which I used to bring up a peeve of mine) they all said it better than I could. I touched on one big peeve of mine, and that is with those people who can’t keep the divide between OC and IC straight. I understand, and have, gotten into other’s characters, but don’t take it out of the story. RL is the real thing, RP is a fantasy.

Another pet peeve is the use of the word 'smut'. It's a bit derogatory. I get it being used for hard-core porn, but well-written intimate sexual scenes between characters in the context of a wider story isn't "smut", it's 'Erotica'. When I see people use the term 'smut' I usually assume they don't like it in their RP. That is cool.

Anyway…. I spent too long on this.
Dunedain-Ranger wrote:
Another pet peeve is the use of the word 'smut'. It's a bit derogatory. I get it being used for hard-core porn, but well-written intimate sexual scenes between characters in the context of a wider story isn't "smut", it's 'Erotica'. When I see people use the term 'smut' I usually assume they don't like it in their RP. That is cool.

Anyway…. I spent too long on this.

I mean, when an RP is purely ERP/sex-based I see no problem with cheekily calling it smut or embracing what it is, there's nothing wrong with getting trashy if that's what you're into, being dignified all the time is no fun ¯_(ツ)_/¯
red-veins

oh gee, where to even start.

OOC


[*] "hey, i saw you write novella, it's okay if i only respond to your super thought out and long starter with 2 paragraphs, right?"

one of the quickest ways that i determine whether or not i'm going to like an RP is through the starter, as weird as it sounds. i don't know about most people, but i put my best effort into the first few posts and then start to relax from there on. something about, 'first impressions,' i guess. if someone is completely aware of the fact that our writing styles don't match up well, then why would they waste both of our time?

[*] "THIS PLOT IS GOING TO GO FASTER THAN FAST AND FURIOUS BOOOYAAAH"

this. this one here is my biggest peeve out of every single one that i'm going to be writing about- if there's anything i hate the most, it's people who try to rush things unnaturally and fly through 2-3 scenes in a matter of two posts. i'm the type of person who likes having character interaction and development, some time for exposition in there. flying through the whole RP in .2 seconds sucks, as 1) you go through what i had planned out for a long time in about 10 posts, and 2) there's literally no depth available. it's okay to take it slow, trust me. RPs don't have to be 24/7 action and drama, sometimes it's okay to have a few posts that are just dialogue and exploration of the setting or characters.

[*] "hi, i have literally no idea what i want. can you choose characters for both of us, write us a plot, and also drag me by the ankles for the whole story? thanks!

okay, so i understand the whole idea of just wanting to RP with someone because they sound cool and write pretty well. i've done that before! the problem arises when you contact said person with the mindset of not wanting to help with literally ANYTHING. another sub-peeve for this is having nothing to contribute to the plot and just going with what the other person suggests. it quickly becomes very one-sided, and not fun at all.


IC


[*] "WHAT DO YOU MEAN OUR CHARCATERS' RELATIONSHIP ISN'T CANON?"

oh boooy. i've had so many people get mad at me over this. i literally put on my profile, "unless discussed before, RPs are not considered to be 100% canon." that means that unless we've had a really good RP going for more than a few months and we BOTH agree on it, our RP will be considered at most semi-canon. references to our RP will be made when i play that character, sure, because i believe that every RP involving a character helps develop them and gives them experience. however, i will never make my character exclusive unless we both want it- i have a limited amount of characters, so i try not to close their flexibility off too much unless i'm really enjoying something with someone else and they're also enjoying it. that doesn't mean our characters can't have relationships! it just won't be canon.

[*] "WOAH, why are you making my character face consequences for their actions?!"

you're seriously surprised that my villain, upon your character threatening them, either shoots/hurts/otherwise deals with said character? or that whenever you threatened my shy character, they no longer trust yours? just like in real life, your character's actions HAVE CONSEQUENCES. i won't remove common sense from our RP just because you want something to happen- my monster of a villain isn't suddenly going to have a change of heart and give mercy to your character because they gave them the whole "you're not this type of person!!" speech. if you can't handle the heat, don't jump in the fire.

[*] "i'm going to ignore half the actions you just wrote BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE THEM."

seriously, if there's something i have my characters do and you don't like it, for the love of god TELL ME. don't just keep ignoring what i write and retconning it by acting like it never happened. it's frustrating for both of us, you don't like it, i don't like it, nobody's happy. you don't like how a scene played out? tell me, and we'll work it out! want something specific to happen, want a relationship to happen? jfc tell me. i can't read your mind. <3


things got a little longer than i intended for them to get, but they're some things that i feel like need to be said. we're not all innocent- hell, most of us have done half the things that have been listened on this thread as a whole. realizing that you're doing something wrong is the first step to fixing it.
RimCaster

xKeatonx wrote:
Oh boy, here we go. Now I'm usually a pretty tolerant Rp'er, and I put up with quite a bit more than many will, but I still get peeved by quite a few things.

First off, people who PM out of nowhere, and ask for an rp, and then expect you to plan it all out, or they have that "I don't care, I do whatever." kinda attitude. Sorry, but it feels like someone came to my house wanting cookies, and expecting me to go and buy the ingredients, and bake for them. If you PM someone for an RP, have an idea of what you want to do, or at very least a character you like.

Secondly, characters that are immune to pain for no reason. Yes I get it, many characters have bad upbringings, and had to put up with a fair amount of physical abuse. But seriously, don't tell me you get a finger chopped off, and just shrug it off. That is going to hurt like it or not, don't care how badly you got beat as a kid.

Thirdly, when you set up an Rp with a nice, plump opening, and the other player responds with a sparse few sentences. Let me tell you how mad it makes me. You spend a good bit of your time setting the tone, atmosphere, introducing characters, and opening up the world for your partner to join, and they slap a flippant response on the page. It's a huge writing turn off.

Lastly, Overpowered characters with a boatload of strengths, and one (or no) completely exploitable weakness. For example, don't tell me your character is a Demi God with elemental abilities that don't drain energy, super speed, expertise with all weaponry, and their only weakness is a black diamond found at the center of the earth. It's not fun, and it's not original. This is Roleplay, not One Punch Man.

Well answering the second one, My character Blake has huge pain tolerance, can he have a sword shoved through his stomach and fight, Sure but he still feels pain, as he would grit his teeth and rush at enemy.

As for third one, this is annoying really, it's like you make the cake which you put time and effort but then the person says it's horrible without tasting it, So on my own part , I don't know if I do the opening right though, although I got length right?.

Fourth one is what my few character struggle, since I didn't updated their profiles in long time.
note: this is example, that's the best I could come up with and Blake is super natural character so it isn't strange.
Asroc

It may have been touched. When people judge others for what they RP as.

When I was 11, going on 12, I liked RPing as animals like dogs, cats, wolves, etc. This RP site I joined was nice at first and people were helpful. The fact that I RPed a dog made the GM "upset" and would berate me or anyone who RPed an animal. It really hurt my self esteem.

Minor, but I seen a person flip their cookies over what OOC marks someone should use.
SINDragon wrote:
I don't enjoy being pressured to write more than what I do. I can do at least a paragraph, maybe up to seven on a good day but usually stick to one to three. I've had people in the past pressure me to do more- not everyone does this, I've been lucky and most of my partners on here have been real frickin' nice about it.
Oh goodness, yes. The fact that I can write long stuff doesn't mean that I always want to, or can do so without stepping on other characters' toes. There's only so much a character can react to and act out in the given amount of time in which one post takes place without the writer starting to assume that the other characters involved will react a certain way, and filling up posts with fluff about every detail in the scene just doesn't interest me. Some detail is good, too much is just stretching out your post length for no discernible reason.
Queen_of_Hell

I have a few:

Overpowered characters. Like, he's big and terrifying, he killed a number of well-trained knights by himself, with his big sword and big strong arms while he also possesses magical abilities, can smell alcohol from far away and he gets to poke MC because she's smaller and weaker than him. I am speechless to this day.

And no, that's not all! The same person managed to use ANOTHER pet peeve of mine! He told me how my character should act. That she should be amazed with him and intrigued! I'm gonna cry just by thinking about it. When I told him that I really have issues thinking of a reply, he literally told me what she should do and when I protested, he just straight up dropped the roleplay and said that I degrade his character, while he clearly said that his character would poke mine because she's smaller and weaker than him. My god!

I've been through ignoring and screamed at for carious stupid reasons, this though takes the cake. Don't be this person.
Malachite wrote:
Non-RPers mistaking RP for some weird sex thing I can understand even though it ticks me off, but it's because of smut-only RPers that people think that way. And there's so much more to RP than smut!

I can see where you'd get that idea, but actually that association is more thanks to a mix of "other-ing" nerdy sorts so that "normal" people don't have that concept of role play, and covering it instead with "bedroom role play," where sexual partners will actually play pretend for the sake of arousal, often in "sexy" costumes. Since sex is more mainstream than RP, that ends up being the type of role play non-rpers automatically think of. Alternatively, some will think of things like therapy "games" aimed at promoting empathy, or practicing job interviews, etc. People usual don't think of our type until you say "D&D." (And then they often still have the wrong idea about it, but that's more about mechanics than content.)

But yes, there is much more to RP than smut. :)
Malachite wrote:
Everyone else has posted really good stuff that bothers me too, so I won't repeat it. I've got something else to be salty about right now.

Potentially unpopular opinion about smut RP coming through! (Don't worry, nothing explicit in here.)
I don't like it when RPers treat RP like it's only there for their own sexual gratification. Non-RPers mistaking RP for some weird sex thing I can understand even though it ticks me off, but it's because of smut-only RPers that people think that way. And there's so much more to RP than smut! Even worse is when it's explicitly not smut but you can tell the other person is somehow getting something sexual out of it OOC, which is just...no.

In a similar vein, I can't stand it when people will only RP with characters (or worse, players) of a certain gender. Especially when they extend that preference to RP where gender should have no relevance whatsoever (i.e. non-smut RP). It makes me suspicious that the above scenario of someone getting off on something that isn't meant to be sexual is going on.

I get it, I get it, not everyone is asexual like I am, and I have nothing against people who do smut or who have kinks (so long as they aren't harmful), but calm down, people! RP isn't inherently sexual and I don't think it should be approached that way.

/soapbox

*waits for my inbox to get flooded with offended people*

I identify with this very much.
This could offend a few people, so I chose to collapse it to avoid hurting feelings, but they're things that really grind my gears.
God-modding means forcing another's character to act, say, think, interpret, accept, refuse, mess up, (etc.) something. Basically, if it's not your character, you have no business making it do anything whatsoever. End of.

I have a violent hatred for people who assume ghosting is appropriate. Granted, life gets busy, granted, sometimes you're afraid of how someone will react, but the least you could do is say "Sorry, I have a lot on my plate, I don't know when I can get a reply to you" or "I spread myself too thin and have to drop some RPs, I'm sorry for my lack of foresight" or something along those lines. A week is bearable, but beyond that, you owe them a minimal explanation.

I'm fine with erotic role-play, I'm fine with discussing it beforehand, I'm fine with trying something I'm not used to, but if we've been over how something is a major RP turn-off for me or something my character would definitely not be into, don't just do it anyway and flip out when my character puts their clothes back on, calls yours a sick [expletive deleted for the children in the crowd] and leaves the room and, logically, RP. I told you I'm not up for it, don' t just go and force it on me. I wouldn't do it to you, don't do it to me, thank you.

"Paragraph role-playing" means NOTHING! A line is technically a paragraph by the dictionary definition. BUT it implies some modicum of length, so please be specific. You can do 5 lines? Okay, I can work with that... You can do 10 lines? Good! More? Awesome! But don't say you are a "paragraph" role-player if your reply to a 500 word post measures less than 50. I am VERY lax when it comes to "bare minimum", but if you can't pull off a fifth of what I did, maybe we're not meant to RP together.

People who complain it's difficult to write 50+ words at any given time are asinine, simple as that. There is absolutely nothing you couldn't use 50 words or more to describe. Hell, leaves falling off a tree could be described in more than 50 words if you put half a thought into it. 50 is not a difficult minimum to reach.

Opposite to this, I will give you what you give me. If you can't write more than 25 words, don't be surprised if my reply isn't exactly on the massive side. I had nothing to work with, so I did my best with what you offered.

If my character is straight, my character is straight. If your character is a horse, your character is probably into other horses unless otherwise specified, if my character is confident, your intro post will probably not involve your character walking in on them crying in the corner because someone called them fat. Profiles are there for a reason; stick to what is said within them, both when it comes to my character and your own. Character development in-RP HAPPENS! Hell, I encourage it, but for the love of sweet Satan's syphilis, please don't immediately go from "shy little wallflower who can't throw a punch" to "cocked up hyper-confident cheerleader squad captain who just got her karate black belt" in the span of three posts. It's JARRING.

I have Congenital Insensitivity to Pain, I'm not confident in my ability to fake pain, so most of my characters have the same handicap. Just because a character does not have a full-on groaning fest reaction from a brick to the face, doesn't mean they're not actively bleeding from the brow and very likely concussed, possibly about to pass out the second adrenalin stops pumping in their veins. Again; it's in the profile, don't be shocked when it comes up.

Your 4'0" character does NOT have to be intimidated by my 9'0" character. But if your 4'0" character pats my 9'0" character on the head, you better explain how in the world they got that high.

Auto-hitting, auto-killing, power-playing... all fall into god-modding and are basic RP faux pas. I reserve the right to bounce if you make them happen.

If character X exists in 3 different RPs, what happens in RP 1 doesn't necessarily affect them in RP 2. Please understand that.

Your character can be absolutely amazing, but don't be personally insulted if someone else's character either;
>Doesn't care
>Isn't attracted to them
>Is just as amazing if not more so
>Rivals them in a different field.
IT HAPPENS!

If you're not willing to read the whole RP up until now, don't join in. Having to retcon an RP because someone who just plopped from thin air contradicted a canonical event is infuriating and flat-out not worthwhile.

I will altogether leave the RP if someone completely ignores what I've posted. You don't have to interact with or care about my character, but at least acknowledge in passing that they're there. Bare minimum.
Rogue-Scribe

I'll toss in another pet peeve which recently happened...

[rant]While writing a 1x1 RP on the public forum the first post says it is written between two writers, and any characters they wish to introduce. Twice now it happened that someone decides to cold-post IC in the story without a word to either writers. It is obvious they had not read the first post or they would see that it is a 1x1 writers. It has always been considered bad RP etiquette to do this (at least in my RP circles over the last 20 years). The first time this happened it was a young rookie mistake. But this last time I find out they say on their profile that they have been RP'ng for years and are in their thirties. I'd think they would know better than to pull a stipid stunt like that. It is not cool to cold-post in-character or out-of-character in an established story thread. If you want to get involved or like the story (you have to actually read it first for that to be a case), then PM one or more of the writers. Don' eff up the story thread.[/rant]
One-liner replies roleplay, roleplays about sex and one-word replies. Like if you're too lazy to put any real effort into your replies then why even join a roleplaying site in the first place?
People that don't read roleplay ads but they still message you wanting to rp.
I've made it clear in every one of my posts I prefer paragraph rp. And then the roleplay starts, and they throw a few lines at me that don't give me much to respond to. I'm just sitting there thinking SERIOUSLY?!!! Those roleplays never last long, I have to end them because lackluster responses just kill my muse.

Or it's clear to me that they just didn't look at any of the scenarios, because they don't know what they want to do in the rp.


Ghosting.
It's downright RUDE to just start ignoring someone. If you don't want to roleplay with them anymore, just say so. I put in all my roleplay ads, and on my super short user profile, that if a person is having a problem to let me know. Or if life comes up, it's cool. Or if they aren't interested anymore, it's fine.

But if someone just stops talking to me and they're still active on the site, and couldn't shoot me a quick message, that person has a lack of respect for their fellow roleplayers. It's as simple as that. If life happens or something, then that's fine. But if someone just doesn't respond to a starter after approaching me, and then continues to be active, then I just ignore them right back.


When someone who ghosted you before wants to rp again. Uhhhh . . . no. In fact: Shoo.
Sexism

It isn't fun for me in reality, so what makes anyone think it'll be fun for me in RP?

Furthermore, why are things like war, sex, racism, and drugs more respectable triggers than sexism? If I don't want sexist themes in my RP, suddenly it's too unrealistic. War, sex, racism, and drugs are part of reality too. We have no problem removing those themes from RP, but you take away sexism and that's going too far? Man, I hate people.
Asroc

Has this been be brushed on?

Being forced to RP something against your own will. Be it something such as not wanting to be a character or forced to RP something for the user's selfish needs.

No one does it here, but the people who go after people who RP the same character as them. I see that more on RP ME and other places. AniVid was pretty low level, toxic levels of wank for that.
When a person forces you to be a Canon character but hates when you try to introduce your character into the Rp.
Fruitloop999

I know I'm not exactly an adept roleplayer, but it bothers me when someone messages you to RP, but then asks you to choose which of their characters to roleplay with (especially when all of the characters listed have no more than three words of a description.)

Other than that, it drives me insane when you end up having to create a completely new character with a completely new background for this person because they wanted something specific. Now, I enjoy making new characters and trying something new, but the people who do this are generally disrespectful, and I feel there's no payoff for my work. Just.... mmmmmggghhhh :/
Rogue-Scribe

Asroc wrote:
Being forced to RP something against your own will.

How the hell does that even happen? How can someone be forced against their own will to RP?

Kagome-chan wrote:
One-liner replies roleplay, roleplays about sex and one-word replies.

I get the one liner RP and one word replies being a peeve. This also holds true to planning RPs.


Here is something I had never really ran into before in RP until recently. Spent ten minutes tapping out an RP reply on my phone, being careful to make sure the typing was good, and the interaction of the scene took place, and the reply filled a computer screen. Then a request comes that I need to do more as there was nothing for them to go off of to write a reply. Of course if I wrote more, it would have to be my attributing actions to the other character otherwise I would just be typing out every minute detail of my character's body movement into a novella. I'm also not sure what is preventing them from carrying the story forward if they want it to go somewhere else with it. Not sure it's a peeve, but it is puzzling to me, and it kind of puts a damper on my creative efforts for the story.

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