Do you ever feel intimidated when you're approached by someone on here?
I have a really weird way of thinking, and sometimes I find myself feeling intimidated by members on here if they message me.
This is no fault of theirs- but if I see someone online and around frequently, with an incredible writing style (and sometimes if they're like. Waaaaaay older than me) if I'm suddenly messaged by them I totally freak out. Like a proper "Oh MY GOD WHAT DO I DO" kind of freakout.
I remember I was approached last week by someone who I've looked up to for months now and almost threw my phone across the room. (Weird, I know) and it took me four hours to work up the courage to send a simple "Hey, I'm good. How are you? ^^"
It also happens if I post on their public forum topic and I actually get a response quoting me. I freakout majorly then too.
It also sometimes happens with moderators but y'know, they've got more status and power than I do, of course I'm going to be intimidated lmao.
I dunno. I just feel like it's me being really strange again.
*shrug*
I have a really weird way of thinking, and sometimes I find myself feeling intimidated by members on here if they message me.
This is no fault of theirs- but if I see someone online and around frequently, with an incredible writing style (and sometimes if they're like. Waaaaaay older than me) if I'm suddenly messaged by them I totally freak out. Like a proper "Oh MY GOD WHAT DO I DO" kind of freakout.
I remember I was approached last week by someone who I've looked up to for months now and almost threw my phone across the room. (Weird, I know) and it took me four hours to work up the courage to send a simple "Hey, I'm good. How are you? ^^"
It also happens if I post on their public forum topic and I actually get a response quoting me. I freakout majorly then too.
It also sometimes happens with moderators but y'know, they've got more status and power than I do, of course I'm going to be intimidated lmao.
I dunno. I just feel like it's me being really strange again.
*shrug*
My reactions aren't as extreme as what you seem to be describing, but... yes.
Like, I'll see someone who makes these lovely posts full of rich language that doesn't fall all the way to purple prose, it's just a really nice balance; or someone will have just gorgeous characters; or it'll be someone I recognize as a little RPR celebrity, whatever. And they'll express interest in one of my ideas or want to RP with me, and I'm like "Whoa, wait, what, I can't keep up with that, what?"
I'm someone who has had casual conversations with some of the mods, mostly in Just Talkin', sometimes during events. The other day, a mod specifically named me in a public post to thank me for how I handled something. I was beaming.
Awhile back, there was a member on here (who is now inactive) who I had such a huge squish (friend-crush) on because she was a sweetheart and her characters and writing were amazing, and I didn't know how to handle it without just coming across like a total creep. Like "HI DON'T MIND ME I'M JUST READING ALL YOUR POSTS AND TRYING TO TAKE UP AS MUCH OF YOUR RP TIME AS I CAN but I shouldn't do that so I'll just watch from back here and pretend not to being going nuts waiting my turn for you to reply k thanks..."
Fortunately, I think I manage my squishes a bit better now. For one, I'm much more likely to admit it to them, which probably help me seem like much less of a creep.
It also helps that I keep pretty busy these days.
Like, I'll see someone who makes these lovely posts full of rich language that doesn't fall all the way to purple prose, it's just a really nice balance; or someone will have just gorgeous characters; or it'll be someone I recognize as a little RPR celebrity, whatever. And they'll express interest in one of my ideas or want to RP with me, and I'm like "Whoa, wait, what, I can't keep up with that, what?"
I'm someone who has had casual conversations with some of the mods, mostly in Just Talkin', sometimes during events. The other day, a mod specifically named me in a public post to thank me for how I handled something. I was beaming.
Awhile back, there was a member on here (who is now inactive) who I had such a huge squish (friend-crush) on because she was a sweetheart and her characters and writing were amazing, and I didn't know how to handle it without just coming across like a total creep. Like "HI DON'T MIND ME I'M JUST READING ALL YOUR POSTS AND TRYING TO TAKE UP AS MUCH OF YOUR RP TIME AS I CAN but I shouldn't do that so I'll just watch from back here and pretend not to being going nuts waiting my turn for you to reply k thanks..."
Fortunately, I think I manage my squishes a bit better now. For one, I'm much more likely to admit it to them, which probably help me seem like much less of a creep.
It also helps that I keep pretty busy these days.
Yep, me too, especially when I'm role-playing with someone awesome and I'm feeling uninspired or particularly crappy.
Like... I suck, why do you role-play with me?
Like... I suck, why do you role-play with me?
Whenever I'm approached by someone I look up to... I wouldn't say I get intimidated in a negative sense, but my perception of things kind of flips upside-down. Especially when they have positive things to say about me. Like, oh wow, am I actually good enough to have gotten their attention? Oh my goodness, is this what feeling valid is like? Respect??? Kindness?????
For example, a month or two ago I was messaged by the leader of a certain RP group here on RPR that I'd been eyeing for a while but was worried I wasn't "good" enough for. The person said I'd caught their interest and asked if I wanted to join their group, and I felt like my heart was going to burst out of my chest and ascend into the stratosphere! I was so excited that it was all I would talk about for days, but at the same time I had this feeling of unreality, like... Me? You want me? For real? No joke? It was a weird feeling, but ultimately I was elated to join the group and haven't regretted it for a moment.
It's a weird feeling for people with low self-esteem and social anxiety like me to realize the ones we look up to are willing to give us the time of day, let alone express interest in interacting with us. They say to never meet your heroes, but sometimes getting the courage to say hi when one approaches you can result in cool things happening down the road!
For example, a month or two ago I was messaged by the leader of a certain RP group here on RPR that I'd been eyeing for a while but was worried I wasn't "good" enough for. The person said I'd caught their interest and asked if I wanted to join their group, and I felt like my heart was going to burst out of my chest and ascend into the stratosphere! I was so excited that it was all I would talk about for days, but at the same time I had this feeling of unreality, like... Me? You want me? For real? No joke? It was a weird feeling, but ultimately I was elated to join the group and haven't regretted it for a moment.
It's a weird feeling for people with low self-esteem and social anxiety like me to realize the ones we look up to are willing to give us the time of day, let alone express interest in interacting with us. They say to never meet your heroes, but sometimes getting the courage to say hi when one approaches you can result in cool things happening down the road!
At my age I have more of a WTH attitude, and that is my general attitude here on RPR. If I see an RP idea presented, I sometimes send a message to let them know how cool it is even if I can't engage in the RP. I most occasions I get a reply, but sometimes I don't, and on a rare occasion I see the character or the whole account get lined out. I wonder if I 'scared' them away. Chances are I didn't, but I tend to make things 'all about me', lol.
When I was a teenager, I was intimidated by a lot of things, and was a shy skinny geek who could relate to many of the feelings being expressed here.
And I learned a new word today! 'Squishy' ... friend-crush!
When I was a teenager, I was intimidated by a lot of things, and was a shy skinny geek who could relate to many of the feelings being expressed here.
And I learned a new word today! 'Squishy' ... friend-crush!
Yes a couple of my freinds on here who are now dear freinds. I was intimated because I thought they would turn down my request because of my username or my characters.
StaticNightmares wrote:
someone online and around frequently, with an incredible writing style (and sometimes if they're like. Waaaaaay older than me)
Honestly though, I haven’t felt too spooked by that in recent years because I changed the way I think. I was trying to reduce my anxiety about approaching other people and it seems to have worked vice versa too.
sometimes yeah but I just have a fear of people in general lol
I find it flattering when someone whose characters I like or whose writing I enjoy wants to RP with me more than intimidating. It's a way to challenge myself and try to rise to their level. I'm constantly trying to absorb ideas from my writing peers, it's how I even got my current style for my character profiles. I saw another writer did a really nice layout for theirs and I've emulated it since with a few tweaks.
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