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Hey, I've gotten blocked by multiple people even though we seemed to end on a good note or just because they misinterpreted what I wrote as rude or such.
Just felt like I had to vent a bit but what're your guy's reasons for blocking people? I never really do it unless the person is absolutely unreasonable or is making me uncomfortable

Well some people block based on rudeness, some for various personal reasons. I do not honestly block anyone on a perm basis, unless they have dome something really bad in my view of things, and I mostly use a block as a cool down. I like to hold onto everyone should get a second chance and try to make sure I give everyone such a thing ^^.

I rarely block people.
Although it's usually permanent if I do. Most of the time it's if someone continues to make me very uncomfortable, or if they cause constant drama.
... I really don't like drama.

Never really block people, since I associate with those I know want to associate with me. When I meet someone and we don't mesh, we really don't interact again, no hard feelings.

That's what I'd usually do but for some reason a lot of people ((on the adult rp section)) seem to instantly block if something doesn't work out, there have only been one or two exceptions to this during my time on here

I typically only block people if I know they may try to contact me if I avoid them.
And that's odd, idk why people would do that. Then again, I stay away from the AOF.

I have only blocked people if they have been rude towards me or have hurt me; somebody ghosted me completely and I figured they would never reply to me or take contact but it still gave me a peace of mind to block them.

I do understand your situation and while I don’t seem to have the same experince, I imagine how it must feel. I think that the best thing you can do for yourself, is to get out there and invest time in partners who you know you can rely on!

Lowkey scared me because your nick was similar to a partner I had that blocked me even after a clean cut off. Heart attack moment over and it's good to know that not everybody is the same as what I've had experience with!

This is an opinion from experience. There are an exorbitant amount of fly-by-night RPers in AOF, who don't really invest in their profile, and spam many basic threads. If sounds similar are the blocks your receiving, I wouldn't too much about it. Those who block like this aren't looking for long term writing buddies.

I do in extreme cases. Like lately one roleplayer really over did it with me.

Thankfully this hasn't happened yet, but in the past (before I was on RPR) I've had to block people that demanded smut. They mistook me writing female characters that embrace sexuality as willing to sleep with anything and everything. Which, characters written that way are fine.

It's obsessively badgering me for "mature" role-play that isn't.

Or they thought they owned me because we shipped characters. Like one guy let it slip he was trying to see if he could get my number through Discord.

That was a w i l d ride.

I'll admit that I've blocked some otherwise alright people without much warning, but generally only in cases where they've obviously ignored what I've written in my profile. (Like say, someone who is a minor request RP from me, even though I have an explicit 18+ rule.) Most of the time I try to give them a farewell message but sometimes either they react poorly and a block is needed, or I don't have the mental energy and I block... Not the best thing to do, I know.

I feel you. I have been in such situation multiple times but sometimes it's better to be blocked or block other and never come across them instead of recently seeing them on forums, knowing they are simply ignoring you and care not for the rp...

This is what hurts the most(especially when characters are anonymous and only god knows if they will ever come back to explain you anything.)

Some people just block for various reasons. Sometimes it's because they don't know how to ask to stop correspondence or other times it's just because of stuff going on irl, or various other reasons. If it seems like you ended on a good note, then it's on them, not on you. Don't worry about it.


However, if this happens often enough, maybe try and work on changing how you talk to people? If enough people block you because what you wrote was 'misinterpreted' then it's less an issue with their reaction, and more an issue with your wording. Maybe what you said wasn't rude, but at some point "Not rude, but easily construed as rude" = Rude.


I've blocked one person based on an IRL issue between the two of us.
Another person, who's actually a friend on here, I've soft-blocked (I've turned on updates for anything they respond to that's not their characters) because they're so negative all the time. Like, they and I have a good relationship, but I can't handle the negativity and pessimism that they put on the platform on a daily basis... just brings me down, so I don't wanna put up with it.

On other sites, I've blocked people just because they talk about / post stuff that I don't wanna see. I've blocked people because they won't stop talking to / about / with another person I didn't get along with.

I usually try not to block people, but I also won't bother anyone if they block me. I've gotten to the point where the people who are worth keeping will stick around and the people who aren't sticking around aren't worth keeping**.




**Granted, if I'm in the wrong, I always try to apologize / handle things appropriately, but you can't force people into liking you. If you're in the wrong, apologize, do what you can to make up for it, and if you're not forgiven, then move on. That's the best lesson I've learned tbh lol

I haven't blocked anyone here actually, haven't had any problem with people harrassing me or whatever.
in the past though, i've blocked people for a couple of reasons on other sites.

Toxic attitudes (if you're a terf or super bigoted or whatever and your hate spouting makes me uncomfortable, i'm gonna block you just so I don't have to interact)

Hostility (this has only happened a few times when someone has become quite threatening and i've had to block them for my own mental health)

A massive falling out (again, for my own mental health. )

The last one is about the only time I don't consider a block a perma thing, it's more a way for me to walk away from a dispute before it drives me into dangerous territory. It's a "stop, pause, let's catch our breaths" thing and i've even done it to my own father before now (blocking his phone number because he was being really awful to me about something and I wasn't in a state to deal with his nonsense)
Eventually I feel able to discuss things maturely and calmly so I unblock and make contact. Usually that results in things smoothing over. I view temporary blocks as the online equivilant of literally walking out of an argument and leaving the room/house/area.
Often you just NEED time and space.

However,

those that I have blocked perminantly I have no interest in contacting. I blocked them and kept them blocked because they were toxic in my life or because I didn't wish to interact any further.
The only time I can think i'd block someone I didn't have personal interaction with would be someone who was expressing views I found personally distressing or distasteful, a sort of preemptive "you're a jerk, see ya"

95% of the time i've blocked someone because they've upset me, and I don't mean they were a little bit mean, I mean they were REALLY horrible. I'm usually fairly content to just turn notifications off and walk away and not respond because in my experience most people stop pming you if you ignore their pms but those who don't? BLOCK.

I had one guy who wouldn't STOP pming me and being a lunatic and I told him to please stop harrassing me and leave me alone (He used to be a sort of contact so I knew him prior to this) but he wouldn't. I then got sick and told him I was very unwell and could he please leave me be and for a few days he DID... buuut then I came out of hospital and he'd left me a massive essay of a rant and I was like "you know what? I asked nicely, block."

He was nuts.

And it sucked because prior to his apparent psychotic break he'd been perfectly civilised and normal but I dunno, something changed and he turned.

Oh.. wait... did I block the guy who was harrassing me about making female characters? I'm not sure I did... lol. I think I just told them to go away and stopped responding. I'll have to go check hahaha. I mean blocking someone generally takes actual effort, you have to REALLY annoy me for me to block you or really really hurt me. I'm WAAAAY too lazy to block randoms.

Sadly there do seem to be a few people around here who are pretty block happy. I dunno why. it's weird. Maybe they just don't like the way I type?

Hey guys, I'm locking this thread now. It's a real borderline topic, because even though the discussion is about blocks in general, it's way too easy for this to get personal.

It's our policy that players never need to give an explanation for blocking someone. I know it can sting sometimes, but this is for their own privacy. Blocking someone doesn't hide their posts, so topics like this can very easily come across as passive aggressive.

However, because a lot of people have weighed in and shared their reasoning of their own volition, I'll be leaving the thread up.