Is there anyone who can give me advice on what to do with this kind of thing?
What i mean is, i need advice on how to deal with depression, harmful thoughts, and dealing with your parents going through a divorce.
Im a teen going through my freshman year of high school and its already almost over. Sometime near the first semester, my mom moved inro a different house and now me and my sisters switch between houses. My mom just recently filed for the divorce and i think they are going to have to go to court with this case. I am probably going to have to speak in court and tell a lawyer who i want to stay with and im scared about what to do. I mean, i want to stay with my mom but i also want to see my daddy because i still want to see him, even if im scared of him.
Hey. I can't talk at the particular moment but I wanted to say you're heard and link you to a support group on here. I'm not a mod or anything, just a roleplayer. But this group is a thing you can join and rant or vent (although here is ok too and has wider reading), and people will offer support. Now if it takes a couple days, that's the only downfall to it, but in that situation you may need to call a line...there are resources I think...a thread in a forum just for resources.
Anyway, I'm being all wordy, but the point is...here's that group, my dear:
Link to "Here For You" Group
That being said, please do, if you feel like you need to, call a crisis line for your area. But if you just need a word of encouragement, I can offer you that. It's a rough situation, but you and your family are going to make it through it, I believe that. It's going to be okay. And the important thing to remember is that what happens with this--the maritial issues-- is happening in their relationship with each other but not in your relationship with either of them. Any wise judge will make wise decisions, from the input of everybody involved and any wise judge will try to make sure to allow both parents to spend time with their kids in a way that's safe and fair--don't worry.
Anyway, I'm being all wordy, but the point is...here's that group, my dear:
Link to "Here For You" Group
That being said, please do, if you feel like you need to, call a crisis line for your area. But if you just need a word of encouragement, I can offer you that. It's a rough situation, but you and your family are going to make it through it, I believe that. It's going to be okay. And the important thing to remember is that what happens with this--the maritial issues-- is happening in their relationship with each other but not in your relationship with either of them. Any wise judge will make wise decisions, from the input of everybody involved and any wise judge will try to make sure to allow both parents to spend time with their kids in a way that's safe and fair--don't worry.
I think your job in this is only to tell the truth to the judge, if you do have to talk, but I would express to your mom that you're nervous about it and if she has a lawyer, maybe someone can just talk to you and take a statement and give it to the judge. I don't know how all that works where you are, but it's something that might be possible. And if it's not, and no matter--you're going to be okay. That is a statement of faith. I say it so that you will feel that sort of vibe, and maybe it'll help you feel that way yourself. I know that's not the most tangible help...but that sort of thing helps me when I'm feeling the way you're feeling about other, smaller issues, and I do believe that you will. Why? Because you are smart and capable of expressing yourself well. And if you can do that, you can take the steps necessary to look out for yourself, like you're doing by posting and asking for support here. So in other words, I have faith in your ability to do that because you're doing it right now.
I'd encourage you to write out your feelings in a journal too, it can help. It has helped me before. But most of all, I encourage you to keep the lines of communication open with your mom and your support system wherher it be friends, school counselors, or teachers. Talking helps. It's one of the great mysteries of human psychology, but it helps to talk, put your feelings into words, have a compassionate listener, and to feel heard, even if they can do nothing but hear you out, and that's what you're doing here. I want you to feel heard. I can see why this would cause anxiety--it would in ANYone. That's totally normal and understable. Me myself, I was only two years old when my parents split, and it was a blessing because i didn't remember anything from that time. But I know it can be difficult when your older and it happens. We hear you and are rooting for you in this struggle that you're going through. .
It's 2am where I am and I have to go right now. But...you can PM me if you want although I might not be able to respond until tomorrow and please do check out the here for you group, and don't rely too heavily on anything with a long wait time like this if you're in any sort of danger, do the googling of helplines in your area thing.
I hope you feel better.
And also...
****many virtual hugs****
I'd encourage you to write out your feelings in a journal too, it can help. It has helped me before. But most of all, I encourage you to keep the lines of communication open with your mom and your support system wherher it be friends, school counselors, or teachers. Talking helps. It's one of the great mysteries of human psychology, but it helps to talk, put your feelings into words, have a compassionate listener, and to feel heard, even if they can do nothing but hear you out, and that's what you're doing here. I want you to feel heard. I can see why this would cause anxiety--it would in ANYone. That's totally normal and understable. Me myself, I was only two years old when my parents split, and it was a blessing because i didn't remember anything from that time. But I know it can be difficult when your older and it happens. We hear you and are rooting for you in this struggle that you're going through. .
It's 2am where I am and I have to go right now. But...you can PM me if you want although I might not be able to respond until tomorrow and please do check out the here for you group, and don't rely too heavily on anything with a long wait time like this if you're in any sort of danger, do the googling of helplines in your area thing.
I hope you feel better.
And also...
****many virtual hugs****
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