Forums » Smalltalk » Blocked and have no idea why

So, a little background. Awhile back I was set to start an rp with a new partner whose style I like and seemed like a pleasant and laid back person. So we started talking and had something set up around a premise from one of his posts in the “looking for an rp” section.

Then one day after classes are over I get on to ask him when we were gonna start...only to be told he blocked me. I’ve come across his posts several times and have no way of asking just what I did to anger him or what he thought I needed to do better. So I re-read his profile a few times to see if I could find any clues...and still I couldn’t find anything as to how I got him so angry. It’s been bothering me for months and it’s rather stressful because I just want to know what I did wrong.

I can’t get this out of my head and feel really guilty for it. So I need help...thoughts?

This is something that a lot of users go through quite commonly, and while it may be more polite to tell someone that you're no longer interested in writing with someone, or why someone feels they need to block someone, it is not required or obligatory for anyone to give you a reason for anything that they do by means of terminating communication.

The block feature is there for some serious privacy, and while it definitely sucks, there is nothing you can do unless the person in question chooses to approach you out of their own accord.

Your best option is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move forward in finding other writing partners who are going to have a better fit with you. It's best not to blame yourself, or try and overthink the situation if you honestly feel that you did not say anything to upset this other person. Again, no one owes anyone any kind of explanation as to why they have blocked or terminated communication with another person, so it's best to try not to trouble yourself with figuring out how to contact that person.

It's also best not to assume the emotions of the other person. There are so many reasons why people typically utilize the block feature that don't even include any anger at all. This is not for you to sit and try to figure out. Simply analyze the conversation for yourself and self-reflect on things that were said, pick up, and move forward.

I've done it twice only in extreme cases. The majority of the freinds and roleplayers ive met are awesome. Sorry this happened to you.

Having role-played with you, Raider, I can only say it's their loss!

You are a great writer, with great characters, our stories wouldn't be the same without you, RPR wouldn't be the same without you.

I have had the same issue multiple times, some times without any reason, or sometimes I could kind of understand but they gave me no chance to explain myself and just assumed.

It may not have been anything you did wrong honestly; While some people use the block button sparingly, others use it for various reasons - sometimes people just don't have the heart to send a "No thanks" message, or various other reasons that I personally don't know, but ... yeah, people use the block button differently.

It may have been something you did or said, but it also could've been completely on that other person to block you with no harm done on your end.

As much as it sucks, you just gotta let it go (yeah, I know how hard that is); It's not worth worrying over someone who you weren't close to and it's not worth spending your time feeling bad over it when you could find more RP partners or making more stories or etc.!

Being blocked sucks, but it just is what it is; No changing it, so just move on and enjoy other people instead!

Some people panic and instead of being a big person and saying the ‘ I don’t want to rp with you, sorry’ line, and don’t want to seem rude and ghost you. The next way out is to block you so you can’t message each other. It’s rude and it is stressful but it’s just one of the easier ways to tell someone ‘ No ‘. Don’t worry too much more about it, they were jerks and didn’t think about your feelings. So don’t worry. You don’t need them to be happy

Good morning everyone.

Moderator here, stepping in to remind everybody who may read this thread that while blocking with no explaining definitely hurts (I have been on receiving and instigating ends in the past!), please don't shame, call names, or dissuade anyone from using a site feature that very much has its use!

On a more sympathetic note, while it definitely hurts to not understand why you may have been blocked, definitely try to look beyond it. Raider, you're probably a fine and wonderful person (as much as I can tell through a computer screen anyway), but sometimes things just happen. Try not to dwell on it too long, and cherish the RPs & connections you have that are still going on strong.

Thanks guys, it’s honestly just not that big enough of a deal to resort to name calling. I just kinda run across his posts once in awhile and I really like them. Before I remember that he blocked me. I was just hoping to gleam some information from the the community as to possible reasoning.

Conflict resolution not a proactive and common skill as people think - you'll find people get anxious and use block as a safety blanket instead of talking out problems with communication.

Also bear in mind that realistically in a community this can happen through hearsay and gossip--sometimes unfounded and passive in intent, but you'll find that in every community, be it online and offline.

Because of this, people may pre-emptively block you if they heard something about you or if you're not vibing. Perhaps it's his way of politely asking for space with no confrontation.

We can only conjecture people's intentions behind blocking and it makes no sense to speak with any conviction on their behalf. If it's meant to be they'll come back to you. Keep trucking on mate and don't spend too much energy on it.