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One of my friends has recently defriended another girl named Frey(Not her real name.) And I feel as if Frey doesn't like her. My friend has been through the worst of the worst and betrayal is basically her best friend(in a bad way). Frey has not been acting like a good friend to her. What i mean is, she avoids eye contact when she speaks to her, barely pays attention to her, and always hangs out with other people(when my friend wants to play, she turns away.)
I really dont want her hurt again and dont want to be rude to Frey because this could all just be a misunderstanding! Still, I told my friend about this and she passes it off like a warning sign or that it's fine. Any advice as to how to handle the situation? My mom says to mind my own buisness and let her work this out, but i feel as if I would be rude and insensitive to do so...

Hey. I might have some advice for you.

One, listen to your mom.. up to a point. Do not put yourself in this situation where you really don’t belong, but do inform someone about what Fray is doing so that the situation can be talked about.

Two, be there for your friend and try not to talk about the situation too much, distract her the best you can and make her feel good when she is with you.

Three, don’t stress about it. This is probably nothing and the quicker it is nipped in the bud the better, so don’t go losing sleep over it ok?

Just inform, be there and take care of yourself as well. That’s the most important things I think you should do.

Stay safe and have a good day

I agree with Sock. If you find that Frey is very toxic, and possibly doing things behind her back, etc. I’d tell your friend.

Your mom has a decent point. You shouldn't really involve yourself in this. However, if you really want to help your friend, stop trying to figure out how to change your friend or Frey. Just be you. Be a friend for your friend!

Honestly, from what you described, Frey sounds like she just is busy with her own social life or she is just not interested in being their friend. Nothing is wrong with either of those either, Frey has a given right to choose her friendships (and how she deals with other people, but she suffers the consequences socially when doing so, mind you).

In my opinion, politely confront Frey and just ask them personally what is going on. Frey probably will play it off, but if you just ask, Frey might actually be honest with you. If it turns out if Frey doesn't like your friend, I'd just break the news to your friend and just be there for her, because in the end, your friend is totally lucky to have you.

Thank you guys so much. I will be using this advice, and I am very happy you guys helped me