A few days ago someone I had been writing with about a year ago contacted me again. I’m not particularly proud of ghosting others, I know it’s a horrible feeling but at the time life was extremely busy and difficult for me. I’ve been working on not ghosting others and letting them know when things aren’t going well or I just can’t continue for x or y reason
We moved our RP to Discord on my request since I planned on deleting my account on the RP site I was on at the time. From the start I felt I couldn’t connect with this person. On an OOC and IC level. That’s not to say that I require OOC interactions to enjoy writing with someone but it certainly does help a lot but I digress. At some point we mutually agreed we needed to make changes to the story but at eventually we just stopped talking altogether. I tend to clean out my Discord when people are inactive or just never respond to my messages. Since I knew the RP wasn’t going anywhere and this person and I never chatted I decided to remove them from my page. Nearly 7 months later they add me again and I was rather confused. I knew I shouldn’t have accepted but I did so out of curiosity. Some small talk was made but eventually I asked why they contacted me again after so long. They were not directly rude to me but there was an accusatory undertone to their words that I picked up immediately. Basically, they said they wanted “closure” but brought up how I was never consistent with my replies despite me always telling them when I couldn’t respond and sometimes even the reasons. This person and I always butted heads in the past so I quickly grew frustrated, especially when they had the nerve to ask to resume our Roleplay. I turned them down since I’m not taking any more Roleplays and I didn’t want to write with them either. Long story short, I removed them again after they continued to bring up the fact that I constantly “ignored” them.
Now, I’m aware no one has an obligation to tell anyone anything, and that I am not at fault for this situation but I cannot help but to feel awful.
Have any of you experienced something similar with partners trying to guilt you into writing with them again?
We moved our RP to Discord on my request since I planned on deleting my account on the RP site I was on at the time. From the start I felt I couldn’t connect with this person. On an OOC and IC level. That’s not to say that I require OOC interactions to enjoy writing with someone but it certainly does help a lot but I digress. At some point we mutually agreed we needed to make changes to the story but at eventually we just stopped talking altogether. I tend to clean out my Discord when people are inactive or just never respond to my messages. Since I knew the RP wasn’t going anywhere and this person and I never chatted I decided to remove them from my page. Nearly 7 months later they add me again and I was rather confused. I knew I shouldn’t have accepted but I did so out of curiosity. Some small talk was made but eventually I asked why they contacted me again after so long. They were not directly rude to me but there was an accusatory undertone to their words that I picked up immediately. Basically, they said they wanted “closure” but brought up how I was never consistent with my replies despite me always telling them when I couldn’t respond and sometimes even the reasons. This person and I always butted heads in the past so I quickly grew frustrated, especially when they had the nerve to ask to resume our Roleplay. I turned them down since I’m not taking any more Roleplays and I didn’t want to write with them either. Long story short, I removed them again after they continued to bring up the fact that I constantly “ignored” them.
Now, I’m aware no one has an obligation to tell anyone anything, and that I am not at fault for this situation but I cannot help but to feel awful.
Have any of you experienced something similar with partners trying to guilt you into writing with them again?
Yeah I have, and I had to be the bad guy in telling them it just wasn't working between us. I did feel bad about it and they got really upset, but in the end, I stood my ground. Sometimes it just has to happen. The passive-aggresiveness that can be put forth by some can be really manipulating. Life is too short to burn the rp time with writers that are not really enjoyable to write with and are 'hard work', but we run across those sorts in our searches for writers we mesh well with. I don't know if any of this makes sense or gets what I want to say across.
Preach! I have had people tell me how I should rp and how I should use less words before and then proceeded to tell me that we dont rp as much anymore. And then tell me they miss me just to say that my style of rp is not working again. Rping with people when the story or connection isnt there is really hard. When they try to guilt trip you to coming back it just makes things harder. ESPECIALLY when your emotions get the better of you and you lash out on them or they lash out at you. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this...
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If you ever want to vent it out or just talk in general dm me my dude!
Thank you guys for the comments, and sorry I responded kinda late. Didn’t get a notification about anyone responding to this post.
No worries! I hope everything is alright! 
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