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I'm having a hellish time with life right now.

I got diagnosed with Fibromyalgia (I already knew I had it), and they won't give me treatment.
My fiancee accidentally left a torrent on all month last month, and now we have to find a way to come up with $250.00 before next month or end up giving up our grocery fund to cover the bill.
I go back to play an online game I was once a moderator for, and they forgot to remove my mod title when I clearly gave them a quitting notice last year, and I'm not allowed to play or I risk getting banned until they fix it next maintenance...
I tried hard to make adoptables/commissions and sell them and failed miserably (probably because my art quality), and I've been sick for months to the point I have to waste money going to the hospital once a month just to get IV fluids because I'm too sick and stressed to keep anything in.
And I want to start up roleplays again, but I'm afraid my partners are mad at me for stopping so many times on and off, and a bunch won't reply to me anymore (both on here and other sites), despite explaining things to them...

When life is this bad to you... what do you do to cheer up?
I honestly feel like I'm at the bottom of a dark hole and everyone is just walking by ignoring me..

First, remember that as difficult as things are, they won't always be this way.

I'm going through a bit of a rough patch myself, mostly financial issues (who isn't?), which is taking a toll on me. What keeps me going is knowing that things will get better. I don't know how, I don't know when, but from those around me, I've learned that what tries to drag us down often makes us much stronger in the end--we just have to persevere one day at a time.

Persevering comes in many shapes and sizes. Mostly it means just making it through to the next day. Find something to encourage you that things won't always be this way. For me, it's struggling to get beyond my self-doubt and get published, which would bring in some extra cash without needing to actively "work" for it.

If your artwork isn't bringing in money, what else can you? What do you enjoy doing besides drawing? And maybe use the time when you can't play that other game to devote some time to develop your other skills.

And chin up. You'll get past this and some day you'll look back and think: "Wow, so that whole thing changed me into the person I needed to become."

Good luck and hang in there! We're rooting for you.

I second everything Penny just said.

This year has been...incredibly difficult, to say the least, but all we can do is keep on keeping on. Life is cruelx in different times and different ways to everybody. It may get worse before it gets better, but it will get better.

The first night my husband was in the hospital, I found several quotes that I think of, even still, as we continue this journey. They might of some comfort to you.







If you need to vent, I'm all ears. Friends on this site have helped me more than they know by just listening and being there.

You guys are very kind.

And I can't do much else beside drawing with my disabilities, and being on disability.
I can make graphics... but I use brushes and fonts that don't below to me, so I don't know if I could
sell them or not without messing with someones rules somewhere.
Otherwise, I'm not very skilled at anything really.

And thank you luvable, those quotes are very beautiful, I'll keep your offer in mind

Anyone have any inspirational songs?
I found this one and it's been helping

With the recent release of the new version of this movie, this song instantly popped into my head;
A few of my favorite things

Also, I don't know if you're religious or anything, but I have found that this song always helps me to feel better; Hold My Heart

This song is also really good;
This is the stuff you use
^ One of my faves right here

Oh Celestina--I love those last two you posted. Francesca Battistelli is one of my favorites. And that song of hers totally sums me up with losing everything.

Music is a great pick-me-up.

Overcomer.

I think that'll help, maybe.. I don't really know any other uplifting songs.

Close your eyes and listen to the lyrics. It's a very soft song, so it's probably best just to take a breath and relax when you hear it.

I was going through a lot when I heard this song and I tell you what, it helped me feel so special. .

Just know this: Even if things look bad now, even a year is just a moment in comparison to the rest of your life. If you're in the eye of the storm, that just means the worst of it all will be over soon enough. It may take a little while, and you might have to make some sacrifices, but that doesn't mean you can't come back to what you had to let go.

Even if you have to use your grocery money on your bill, there are organizations that can help you get food. It may not be a whole lot, but it'll keep you from starving and that's the important part.

Life is full of ups and downs. But how would you know how to cherish the good if struggle didn't come every now and again? . That's how I think of it, even when I'm having awful luck in life as well. Knowing that it won't last forever, and knowing that without this bad, I wouldn't know what's good... all of it helps.

Make a list of all the good things that are happening to you right now amid the bad. Such as particular relationships (with friends, family, etc.), something nice you've done for someone or something nice someone's done for you recently, things like that. All the inky binky teeny weenie little things that could be the slightest bit positive: think on them, focus on them, let them overtake your mind.

And always, always tell yourself: Everything will be okay.

Because it will. Maybe not right now, but it will be soon enough. You just gotta climb over this lil mountain.

My niece was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia around this time last year. I don't really talk to my in-laws myself so I don't know exactly how her health is, but it's a bit scary. If you ever want someone to just give random messages to complain, my inbox is open. I'm a good listener/reader, but really crappy at advice (you should probably not take any advice from me).

As for RP, hit me up any time. I have some slots and I'll make you someone or let you see the mysterious hidden list. I'm here for you if you need me. I know what it's like to hit a slump (but I suppose all of us do), and I won't say I understand exactly what you're going through - but I'll lend a sympathetic ear and probably some digital hugs too.

Pretty much all of the advice that has been given are worded better than I ever could. Currently everything will seem to be bleak, and you might hate how the future is looking right now. But don't let anything stop you! Things will get better for you! These events have a way of solving themselves. In no time you'll be your old happy self and you'll be hopping around chasing bunnies in grassy meadows or whatever it is that girls do when men aren't looking.

I'm a terrible example when it comes to coping with sadness. I don't experience it much, and if I do, I just keep it to myself until I eventually burst. You could say I'm a bad example of what to do when you feel down. I think sharing your issues with people can be a great help.

Something that does help me personally cope with sadness are things that are just silly. Whenever I hear a song that is just tear inducing, I don't feel lightened afterwards. But fun songs make you think of fun times, I suppose. Here's a few examples. I hope they're of any use for you

Chin up! You'll be fine! You have the Rynh's seal of good times will come back again - copywright I'll sue 'n stuff

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfol_TLLnIw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e7kJRGPgvRQ

I've had to step away from roleplay recently because life is getting overwhelming. I think I actually began discussing an rp with you recently and didn't mean that silence personally. Winter and Christmas bring out a lot of things for a lot of people...this year I'm going to learn some coping skills and stress reduction. Handle what you can, haggle what you can't, and take care of yourself (: