Posted by Kim on December 7, 2012, 6:23am
It's the Festival of Being Excellent to Each Other, and this year we're focusing on dealing with those inevitable troubles that arise between people who play together for ages -- so you can keep on playing for ages!So we've discussed why it's important to let people know that you're hurting, bored or otherwise disgruntled, how to start a difficult conversation and how to answer.
But what happens if you don't actually know why someone is being weird?
Brace yourself. This is a doozy.
You're going to ask them.
Check this out! It's super easy:
"I get the impression you're uncomfortable or unhappy. Is something wrong? Can I do anything to make you feel more relaxed or welcome?"
Whoa. Doesn't that feel better?Sometimes people want to bring up an issue, but they don't know how, or are afraid, and you can help keep the good times rolling by letting them know that you do want to be their friend and you're open to talking about their worry. And remember, you're just asking to talk about it, not committing to anything -- on the super unlikely off-chance that they ask for something completely outrageous, you can still politely decline.
Sometimes there's no issue at all, but RL distractions can have them behaving oddly and sending signals they didn't mean to send, and knowing that's the reason can be a huge relief.
So give it a try!
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Sanne
December 7, 2012
9:42am