My family is pretty evenly split between blue and red. I am the oldest of three and voted for the party of sanity. My first younger sister and brother-in-law are hardcore MAGA Trump cultists, and my youngest sister referred to her 2020 voter registration as "Donald Trump's pink slip." My mother, who used to vote Green Party every year has switched to blue. My father is a lifelong staunch republican who can't stand Trump but refused to split the ticket, which... honestly, I can't decide if that's better or worse than the MAGA folks because he knows that Trump sucks but still voted for him.
Anyway, I have been extremely vocal in my rage on Facebook, where a lot of my family, including my MAGA sister, have seen the posts. MAGA sister asked my mom if I still want a relationship with her, which my mother saw fit to pass on to me despite telling me that she's not trying to mediate when I rebuked her for it. I said that it's best if she gives me space right now, which I guess she must have passed along, because my sister didn't reach out on my birthday for the first time in her life. I know I'm the one who drew the boundary, but that's still sitting really heavily with me and makes me super sad.
Sorry, this is turning into a bit of a vent. I would literally die for my sister, and now I'm faced with the reality that she's surrounded by the awful culture of the hometown she never left. Her toxic positivity can't excuse the fact that she's friends with literal neo-Nazis. I'm struggling so badly with how to proceed with our relationship, so I'm just not engaging for now to avoid doing irreparable damage.
But man. This sucks. I'm hurting so badly trying to figure out what to do and how to move forward. My therapist and case worker have been very diligently trying to keep me from cutting her off entirely saying that she clearly loves me very much, but it's hard for me, a disabled queer trans person, to reconcile the choices she's made that directly impact not just my well being, but also hers.
I'm sure a lot of us are in this position, so I guess I'm just wondering how we're all holding up and how others are approaching this. I'm at a loss and losing sleep over this.
Anyway, I have been extremely vocal in my rage on Facebook, where a lot of my family, including my MAGA sister, have seen the posts. MAGA sister asked my mom if I still want a relationship with her, which my mother saw fit to pass on to me despite telling me that she's not trying to mediate when I rebuked her for it. I said that it's best if she gives me space right now, which I guess she must have passed along, because my sister didn't reach out on my birthday for the first time in her life. I know I'm the one who drew the boundary, but that's still sitting really heavily with me and makes me super sad.
Sorry, this is turning into a bit of a vent. I would literally die for my sister, and now I'm faced with the reality that she's surrounded by the awful culture of the hometown she never left. Her toxic positivity can't excuse the fact that she's friends with literal neo-Nazis. I'm struggling so badly with how to proceed with our relationship, so I'm just not engaging for now to avoid doing irreparable damage.
But man. This sucks. I'm hurting so badly trying to figure out what to do and how to move forward. My therapist and case worker have been very diligently trying to keep me from cutting her off entirely saying that she clearly loves me very much, but it's hard for me, a disabled queer trans person, to reconcile the choices she's made that directly impact not just my well being, but also hers.
I'm sure a lot of us are in this position, so I guess I'm just wondering how we're all holding up and how others are approaching this. I'm at a loss and losing sleep over this.
I hear you. My first fracturing with family was in 2016 when my daughter-in-law and her strict evangelical xtian beliefs clashed over Trump then. Things got rocky after that, and after January 6 2021, any remaining strings in my relationship was broken when my son took exception to something I said on fecebook about the rioters. I had the feeling he was prompted by his wife pulling strings, but that bond was finally broken. I send him a text on his birthday, and he politely replies.
It has been rough since there are grandchildren involved, and they have effectively cut my ties with the two younger ones. The older two are adults, and my granddaughter who had just turned 24, has been in contact with me on Instagram through it all, and my grandson still sends me a text on occasion. They both were initially angry at me for 'hating their mom', but adulthood and life experience has tempered their views some as they may have seen things a little from outside the bubble. Not sure how they voted, but there is nothing like life bringing some realistic experiences to break down the strict religious dogma they had been
The other one of my family that I had a falling out with was my older sister. Again, it started with Trump 1.0, and her husband; a guy I used to work with, was a rather extreme Proud Boy type. We broke all communication for years, and only the last year after he passed have we cautiously started communicating on a memorial page for our dad and mom.
As far as holding up... it can be tough sometimes. But I'm not going to waver on my stance on hateful attitudes, but I do leave the door open for communication. I have a lot more to say on this, but time has gotten to me so more of my rant will have to wait.
It has been rough since there are grandchildren involved, and they have effectively cut my ties with the two younger ones. The older two are adults, and my granddaughter who had just turned 24, has been in contact with me on Instagram through it all, and my grandson still sends me a text on occasion. They both were initially angry at me for 'hating their mom', but adulthood and life experience has tempered their views some as they may have seen things a little from outside the bubble. Not sure how they voted, but there is nothing like life bringing some realistic experiences to break down the strict religious dogma they had been
The other one of my family that I had a falling out with was my older sister. Again, it started with Trump 1.0, and her husband; a guy I used to work with, was a rather extreme Proud Boy type. We broke all communication for years, and only the last year after he passed have we cautiously started communicating on a memorial page for our dad and mom.
As far as holding up... it can be tough sometimes. But I'm not going to waver on my stance on hateful attitudes, but I do leave the door open for communication. I have a lot more to say on this, but time has gotten to me so more of my rant will have to wait.