Posted by Sanne December 22nd 2017, 9:19am
I want to thank each and every one of you for an amazing year.
We've grown immensely as a group (surpassing 125 members) and despite our struggles, I feel most members have grown and improved with each other's help.
When I started HFY, I wasn't sure what would happen. I wanted a place for people to have a safe place to share their concerns away from the public boards, guided by a set of rules that aimed to keep everyone safe and would be enforced without draining more moderator resources. Would the group end up being the breeding grounds of negativity? Would it just bring everyone down more? Would I be able to keep up?
Now when I look at HFY, I see a group of people who all have their own issues, but who are fiercely invested in listening, supporting and lifting the rest of the group up because they value the happiness of everyone around them. We've had the pleasure of welcoming Beth and her book "Save Yourself From Burnout" and held a giveaway so part of our member base would get the chance to improve the quality of their lives through her incredible tools. Moderation has almost never been necessary because our member base is just that awesome and virtually never causes any problems that need my intervention.
All in all, I just want to say how incredibly proud I am of this group. You're all champions, you're all sticking around, helping one another, being beacons of light and positivity. That's incredibly admirable and every day I'm so touched by how hard everyone is doing their best.
The holiday season can be tough, but I hope you've found comfort and are continuing your self-care practices despite the stresses. To celebrate all your efforts this year, I've purchased some items from the RPR Store and would like to give these away to you guys!
I havefive SIX Enchanted Silk Cloaks to give away to one member each. There's a random chance of winning one red and one technicolor cloak as well! (The technicolor one is pretty rare.)
Each cloak adds one character slot to your account for one extra character profile.
The deadline to enter will be December 24th, 11:59pm PST (RPR time). I will be rolling dice on the forums to pick the winners on December 25th.
Good luck, and happy holidays and a happy new year!
Happy Holidays!
I want to thank each and every one of you for an amazing year.
We've grown immensely as a group (surpassing 125 members) and despite our struggles, I feel most members have grown and improved with each other's help.When I started HFY, I wasn't sure what would happen. I wanted a place for people to have a safe place to share their concerns away from the public boards, guided by a set of rules that aimed to keep everyone safe and would be enforced without draining more moderator resources. Would the group end up being the breeding grounds of negativity? Would it just bring everyone down more? Would I be able to keep up?
Now when I look at HFY, I see a group of people who all have their own issues, but who are fiercely invested in listening, supporting and lifting the rest of the group up because they value the happiness of everyone around them. We've had the pleasure of welcoming Beth and her book "Save Yourself From Burnout" and held a giveaway so part of our member base would get the chance to improve the quality of their lives through her incredible tools. Moderation has almost never been necessary because our member base is just that awesome and virtually never causes any problems that need my intervention.
All in all, I just want to say how incredibly proud I am of this group. You're all champions, you're all sticking around, helping one another, being beacons of light and positivity. That's incredibly admirable and every day I'm so touched by how hard everyone is doing their best.
The holiday season can be tough, but I hope you've found comfort and are continuing your self-care practices despite the stresses. To celebrate all your efforts this year, I've purchased some items from the RPR Store and would like to give these away to you guys!I have
Each cloak adds one character slot to your account for one extra character profile.
To enter, you must be a member of the group and leave a comment on this announcement. If you like, share your proudest moment of this year!
The deadline to enter will be December 24th, 11:59pm PST (RPR time). I will be rolling dice on the forums to pick the winners on December 25th.
Good luck, and happy holidays and a happy new year!
Community Feedback
- Aww, Sanne and FreeJayFly, thank you for the kind words! It was incredibly validating and exciting to me to have Sanne's support, and to be able to publish several of Jay's chapter reviews on my blog.
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@MadRatBird and @Demilicious:
Both of you have gone through something really hard, but I'm so proud of how you've come out of it on the other side! I think this will be a great foundation for many years of your lives.
@Everyone: I drew the winners! Congrats to you all, I hope you're having a good holiday! Check out the rolls here:
https://www.rprepository.com/g/hereforyou/topic/49058 -
I wanna start off by thanking Sanne. This was a fantastic idea, I mean the giveaway aside. Getting people to share their proudest moments of this past year is wonderful and I admire all the sharing being done here. It goes to show that there is still a lot of good in the world.💟
As for my proudest moment, it's really two in one; marrying the love of my life, and just two months later, having them with me when my Papa passed. Losing him will be one of the biggest hurdles in my life and in our marriage. We've officially been through some of the thickest and thin. I gained and lost so much this year but thanks to them enriching my life I can look back and still be grateful. I'm proud to have come this far. -
TW sexual abuse, child abuse, stuff likethat.My proudest moment of the year was probably when I confronted someone who scared me the most. I'd spent since I was 14 years old terrified of ever speaking to the man who'd sexually abused me throughout my childhood and early-teen years.
I discovered I'd had a blood sister I'd never known about, and risked losing her to confront him about his abuse. I spoke to him, I got him to admit that he'd done it, I've gotten a lot of excuses. Though I'd fainted once trying to talk to both her and him (I have a fainting issue but it hadn't come up in years since that happened), I managed to get it done.
In the end, I did lose her. After she'd asked to see and I showed her the conversation, she blocked me.
But that's okay. It was worth it, because I don't need anyone who doesn't believe me with evidence in their face, I don't need them in my life. In the end, I felt empowered and relieved, and though I was bothered by it, had the usual bad dreams and things over what had happened, etc, I felt like I'd won a little bit. Unfortunately, I learned I was not the only kid he did that too. But now she can be safe, too. -
@Rin: That sort of self-reflection and acknowledgement is so important! That's some amazing progress!
@Everyone: We got one extra cloak from an anonymous donor to give away! So I get to pick six winners with the raffle.
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I think the very foundation of this group is a comforting gift in itself and people are willing to lend everyone a hand when they can. Simple comments and encouraging thoughts shared in the group's forums helps each person more than you think, and it feels great to share different viewpoints based from personal experience without difficulty or unneeded animus towards each other.
Now that I think about it, I don't think I've been as productive as I aimed myself to be this year. I mean, being productive in things I love doing, like my hobbies: drawing or writing or roleplaying, to name a few. Despite the drawback, having vacant times to think about myself and things I've done feels like it's enough to compensate for my shortcomings this year. I got to know myself better in terms of my strengths and my flaws and accepted them as parts of me. I used to think that I don't have to hear what people have to say about me (mostly because I told myself I already know how I am), but I realized that although that does have some merit that I won't let anyone get me down, it was actually doing some bad too. I was afraid to hear what people say, or what opinion they have of me. But because I know there are people who accept me and appreciate me for what I normally do since it's what I am, that fear faded in time, and I've become more open than ever to people's suggestions and feedback. So far I've heard nothing but welcoming remarks from the people I've just met and people I've long cared for, and it means progress to care for myself.
Every member so far has shown that they're worthy of such incentives, so thanks, Sanne for what you've done and what you're doing for HFY! Cheers and good luck to all, and happy holidays! -
I read every comment and I'm overwhelmed by how much each and every one of you has accomplished. I'm SO VERY proud of you!!!
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I just successfully finished my internship today. I also didn't cry until period three.
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My proudest moment this year is re-realising that I am the only constant in my life, I am the only who who matters when it comes to ME. Being sad and hating myself for things that were out of my control... that's not healthy, and I'm proud of myself for doing what is healthy for me. Focusing on my personal growth, coming back to the things I enjoy, and even being able to find a job -- which has, in turn, made me so much happier than I've been in a while.
And honestly, Sanne, you had a hand in helping me realise this. Beth's book had a hand in helping me realise this. So I thank you both for all the help and facilitation of a healthier mindset. Ultimately, though, it was definitely up to me to take the steps necessary to be this happy with myself. -
Well I've gown as a person during these past couple of years. Hard times, stress, issues with internet people... Whole lot of stuff to muster through. But I've made it through them and I'm just a little tougher now
Also somewhat maybe having a job (experiment) this upcoming February, so that's cool~~ That's a big step for me, even if I'll still try to go and get myself in Uni, but considering ast trauma, it's something -
My proudest moment of this year was when I turned 18 years old and realized just how much growth I've had. Even when I first began on this website in 2014 I was a drastically different person, but I always looked at my flaws and mistakes and thought of how to improve myself. Over these years of development I would like to believe I have matured immensely, especially now that I hold an important belief dear to my heart: to always improve and get better for the lovely people and world that surround me.
I didn't do anything great this year, I'm just proud of who I am today. -
Oh boy, I'm still trying to sort my life out after being kicked out of my house and losing over half of my belongings in the process but I FINALLY stood up for myself...all my life I always let others bully me, push me around, and walk all over me...I finally fixed that and broke the cycle. For that I am proud~
As a side note...I didn't even know the Technicolor cloak existed...thought it was just a myth! (never saw one, so rare lol) Bluelips
December 22nd 2017
10:58am
My proudest moment of this year would probably have to be when I gave a huge speech in my english class about all of my life. It was pretty hard for me to admit most of the stuff I said but I'm glad I did I got a lot off my chest. From that day I've felt a bit better I would post my speech but it's soooooo long but if you want to read it message me. I might even decide to put it on my profile who knows.
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My proudest moment this year had to have been this past Monday (12/18) when my grandmother was driving me home from therapy --which I did not want to attend, but that's not it. Somehow, my grandmother and I had gotten onto the topic of Social Security income, and how I am getting more in the new year than she is (She's getting Retirement Social Security and I'm getting Disablity Supplemental Income which is a form of Welfare.) She stated that she "can't win for trying" to which I promptly responded with "Well not with that attitude you won't!" I told her that negative begets negative; if someone (her in this context) continues to have a negative way of thinking, it will not bring them anything but negativity. That if she wants things to get better in her life, she needs to start thinking positively because negativity never did anything for anyone.
Sanne, you've already done so much for me, that I'd like to give my entry to someone else in the group that enters. So, in the event that I should win a cloak, pick again! I want to pay your kindness forward. -
My proudest moment this year was probably when, after I was broken up with, I cried, and grieved, but then realized the guy was very toxic, and hurtful to me, and I chose to love myself and remove him from my life entirely, and not cling.
Secondly; this giveaway is so sweet, and thoughtful. Good luck to everyone.
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This group has been wonderful, and I think the ability to encourage each other helps us face our own problems with more strength! Thank you, Sanne, for making this group and keeping up with it so diligently!
I think my proudest moment was when I realized that my partner just wasn't right for me. It took a LOT of time for me to realize that, and a lot of ignoring obvious signs (such as having an anxiety attack every time we kissed!), and there was a lot of stress because our families were pretty good friends. For a while, I didn't want to deal with it; I wanted to just let it go, just to save the pain and heartache that would be caused on all sides. But I managed to gather the strength to take that step that was so intimidating and hard, and I'm so much better off for it!!
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February 5th 2018
7:21pm